dwracing39 Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Here is my situation.. Ive been seperated for 7 months. It has just been here in the past month or so that I have been up for going out and meeting new people. I have had no trouble meeting women. In fact ive been amazed in a way as to how much luck ive had. BUT.. its not all fun and games. For some reason I just cant get "into" anyone. Ive met some gorgeous woman who have been really cool to hang out with but I just cant get into them. For example.. The past few nights ive been going out with this certain girl. We have had a pretty good time when we have been together, and Shes beautiful, and has a really nice personality. Well I was at her house the other night and it was getting late and i told her that I should be heading home. She then invited me to stay. So i did and you can guess how the night went. Now here is the part that I dont understand and that I feel terrible about. I have absolutely little to no interest in seeing her anymore. And whats even worse is that she isnt the first girl it has been this way with since ive been seperated from my ex. Ive never been this type of guy, and I usually despised ones that were. Am I the only guy in a situation like this? I dont view women as "conquests" and I certainly dont set out to hurt anyone.. but I know i am. There is one girl who im absolutely NUTS about. And there has never been a single thing physical happen with us other than a hug and a kiss on the cheek. This girl talks like she really likes me.. Tells me im adorable and just all kinds of things that say " I want you!" to me.. But everytime we set something up to go do something on the day its supposed to happen I can never seem to get her on the phone or anything. Im not tryong to brag my any means becasue im not proud of what i have been doing, but it truly seems like im able to cause about any woman I meet to fall for me...... except the one I really want to. And it sucks. What is my problem!!..lol
jcster Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 You're not ready yet. I know this because I'm not ready yet either. It's as if your emotional "pilot light" has gone out on your romantic furnace - so when you're faced with a situation like the ones you described, you either feel nothing or revert to a rational "might as well get some" mode. I think you should cut yourself some slack. Don't try so hard to jumpstart your heart, let it heal up. Try not to focus so much on getting into another relationship-date, talk, hook-up if you want but take it easy. I've been assured that it will come back when I'm ready, so I'm passing that info onto you.
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