Love Jones Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Received this email. This individual was supposed to be coming to see me in England over the holidays. I find the email arrogant, condescending and unsatisfactory. I don't want to over-react but I think I'd be right to sever contact. Any thoughts? "Hello dear bad luck: no Old blighty this time, I am afraid. Just got a ticket to the only available date 8 Dec straight to Germany. Tis a pity indeed - I rather looked forwared to meeting with you and for a joint trip to Scottland. Pity. Next time then. Cheer up, love. We ll meet soon anyway, when you come down to NYC. Sorry for raising false expectations, but it proved beyond my means, as Oscar Wilde used to say. Hope you are fine and well and did not take offence at my last remarks upon your dog. They were made in good spirit. Keep it up, hugs, "
curiousnycgirl Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 It doesn't appear that he feels there is anything to break up. He seems to take the relationship way to casually to think he sees this as any form of a committed relationship. No need to even dump him - just move on!
Nevermind Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Ouch! If he isn't the kind of guy to totally....ah, what the hell. Being over-understanding has it's time and place and this isn't it. I would never dumb someone for one e-mail, but I would seriously question the state of your relationship after this one. Not only did he not seem to care so very much (neither about coming, nor about your feelings), he also places himself (subtly) above you. His not coming is a huge disappointment, but he seems unaffected by not seeing you$("Cheer up, love"). He uses Oscar Wilde to refer to his own means (yeah, you are sooo sophisticated). The elliptic style suggests haste, as if he only took 1 minute to write it and off he went. If you are in a LDR and you cannot meet, you should take the time to write a decent e-mail, and call if possible. Or show emtions in any way. Whatever suits your style. He seems to threat it very, very lightly. Even if he is a guy to mask emotions behind a masqerade of "I don't care anyway" this is no way to handle the situation. I would be mad, very, very mad. And I would tell him. See if his reaction is decent in any way. If not, follow curiousncgirl's advice: move on. I am sorry. Hope you are okay.
gonetildecember Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Yeah, like I think I posted to you before.. He doesn't seem to into things. I predicted this happening. I would end it. If he really wants to be in your life.. he'll prove it to you, and find a way to be in it.
JosieMcCoy Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 As an English Mum might say... "He doesn't appear to be that much into you, me lady!" I mean, that does not sound like a real personal email. I bet if you ended it with him, it would roll off his back like water off a duck! Cheers!
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