ndvu Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Abstract: I can't decide if I'm too sex-crazed, or if my girlfriend is being too picky. We've been dating for about 6 months. I'm a college student and she's a high school student, so we visit on weekends. We have sex when we can, but that isn't very often. She won't agree to do it anywhere else besides a bed, and her bedroom is off-limits since she's paranoid about her large family, so my home bedroom is the only place it can happen. My dorm room is too far away for me to drive her there for sex. Neither of us can really afford a motel room. Thus we only have sex when my parents and siblings are out of the house, so we end up only doing it about once a week. Now, I don't mean to complain about what I've got. I love this woman a lot, and would gladly keep dating her if there was no sex involved. But it seems to me that she's being too picky about where we have sex. Namely, she refuses to have sex in my car, which I think would be a good way around it. Am I being too selfish and sex-crazed to want to do it in my car, and I should just be happy with what I've got? Or should I further try to persuade my girlfriend to do it in other places? I don't want to pressure her too much, you must understand, because I love her.
Elyssa Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Sounds a bit selfish, to be honest. Some women don't enjoy having sex in a car or other public places because they feel it demeans the act of having sex. Rushed sex as is often happens when you are in a car might be enjoyable to you, but to her, it may make it difficult to get in the mood and to enjoy the experience due to the lack of privacy and the awkwardness that goes along with being in a car. Also, since she's a high school student (most likely underage?), and you are in college... she might be thinking it's smart to avoid any place where her family could discover you in the act. If she doesn't feel comfortable anywhere but on your bed, then so be it. You want her to enjoy it too right?
Trialbyfire Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Have you considered a minivan? Some people are more modest than others. If she's stressed, you'll probably find that the experience isn't very good for either one of you.
Timberlane Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 The car is not so great. My last car experience, though very exciting, was certainly cramped. Additionally, cops tend to knock on windows at the most inopportune times. That has been annoying in the past as well. You're really just going to have to tough this one out until the girlfriend gets so adventurous that she'll have sex with her parents in the next room watching TV and the two of you are in her closet. Ah, that was quite a nice one. High school days, mind you.
Citizen Erased Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 The car is not so great. My last car experience, though very exciting, was certainly cramped. Additionally, cops tend to knock on windows at the most inopportune times. That has been annoying in the past as well. You're really just going to have to tough this one out until the girlfriend gets so adventurous that she'll have sex with her parents in the next room watching TV and the two of you are in her closet. Ah, that was quite a nice one. High school days, mind you. Ahh I miss the days of running from the bus-stop to home cos your parents are going to be home in 20 minutes and you need to have a quickie. The parents get home early and your clothes are on the stairs, in the loungeroom, and your underwear is out the front of your bedroom door
Author ndvu Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 Thanks for the replies. Yes, I suppose I am being selfish. Sometimes I think with the wrong head, you understand. But in reality, if she's not enjoying it then I'm not enjoying it either. Although we have given each other hand jobs/fingering with parents in the next room, she's far too cautious to have sex without at least 1-2 hours for a safety buffer... As for being underage, she's actually 18, and older than I am, so . Being caught by parents is still an issue though.
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