pinktiger Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 This is one exact month we broke up. I miss him so much! I long for his hug, his kiss and his smell... can someone give a hug? I am dying here... Really want to call him...
SunnyLady Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Oh honey i know exactly what you are going through. "You feel like dying", iv felt the same way too. I know how hard it must be but please don't contact him. Think about it...waht are you going to achieve? Temporary relief but in no time you'll even begin to feel worse. Let him initiate contact, you will feel so much better about yourself if he does rather than you contacting him. I know how much you hurt. But you will not always feel this way. Breakups are tough, you need to feel the pain. You need to feel it. And then you will slowly get better. Do something...watch a movie, read posts on loveshack, call a friend instead. Ecah time you are about to pick up your phone, ask yourself "what am i going to gain?", He will not come back to you on that phone call so why go through with it? I know it must be tough, i know so much how you feel. Let out all your emotions and busy yourself with anything. *hugs* *hugs* *hugs. Feel free to post on here if you want to talk more. hugs.
Author pinktiger Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 Thanks, Sunny... He is going out with a girl for a dinner tonight...I don't what to do. I know I am pathetic. I know he may not deserve my love. but I can not get out this. I feel not only the emotional pain but also the physical pain. My chest hurt. I don't want to eat, don't have energy to do anything. I wish i could sleep for months so i don't have to go through this any more. It has been a month but my pain does not reduced a bit. i can not do it any longer...
SunnyLady Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 You are going through the griveing stage. We have been there. All you feeling is perfectly normal i promise you. When i feeling as low as you are, i often wondered to myself which would be worse. If he had died whilst loving me so although i would feel the physical pain, my heart would know he loved me when he left, Or him being hale and hearty and lliving without me, as i was feeling both the emotional and phsyical pain. Right now you feel like you can't do anything, again you are feeling what you are supposed to feel. You are not pathetic. You are just very depressed. Please don't hurt yourself by harming yourself. You are experiencing a loss, this is why you feel so low. Please don't keep track of his activites. Life has a lot to offer, how old are you if i may ask? You will be fine i promise. I am one of the most emotional people you could ever meet. You need to believe that you will be fine. Breakups are a part of life, i have felt the way you are feeling. I have felt suicidal. I almost walked into a car pn purpose in a bid to end my life as i felt i had nothing to live for. But i have come a long way from then... but you need to believe that you will be fine. What you are feeling is only temporary. You need to have faith. Thats what keeps us going...that one day we will find everlasting love. Please take heart. And try to engage yourself in anything! I know it will be hard...but you need to help yourself... please try your best.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 A hug to you pinktiger. One month is fairly new... Don't call him. Keep on posting here and talking to your friends. He's an ex for a reason, no?
Lizzie60 Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 DON'T .... please DON'T call... be strong, be smart, be independant... keep posting if you need some 'boost' but don't call him... (((((((((HUGS))))))))
adam11 Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 ***!!HUGS U SO TIGHT YOUR FACE TURNS BLUE!!*** yeah, it's not very nice is it. I'm not one to give advise about the calling him thing. I would say don't call him (that would make me a hypocrite) I call my ex sometimes but it just leaves me feeling worse everytime... hang in there! AD XX
adam11 Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Ecah time you are about to pick up your phone, ask yourself "what am i going to gain?", He will not come back to you on that phone call so why go through with it? Yes!!!!!!...
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 {{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}} You will feel better, take it from someone who was in your shoes just this July. Don't contact him, you'll only kick yourself after and then sit waiting and waiting for a response. It just isn't worth it. Go out and treat yourself to some pampering or shopping, its not a cure but it does help distract your mind from the constant thoughts about him. Trust me, distract yourself enough and you get out of the habit of thinking about him, soon you'll be like wow a whole day just passed without thinking of him, go figure!!! Then you'll start skipping down the street with smile on your face. Take care of yourself x
starlite Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Hey Pink! I hit my one month mark on the 6th. I am suprisingly doing pretty well. I have been really busy. I thought I would be a mess!!! BUT I also havent been hearing about what he is up to such as dating. Who is telling you this information...tell them not to tell you this because it just gives you more fuel to feed the sadness. I dont know your story on the break up but I am sure you deserve better. I would say most of us in these boards do deserve better than whoever we have broken up with. Dont call him. It is empowering to not call...gives them a chance to wonder "Why hasnt she called me" "Has she moved on??" And although they may not call for whatever reason, at least we arent either! Head up...things will get better!
bessieboo Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Don't contact him at all. I now you think he probably doesn't care etc but I tell you it will bother him more thinking that you don't care and that you're over it - believe me! Male Pride! I know it hurts, I'm in the same place you are, thinking I'll never be happy again but you will. My sister went through this a couple of years ago and now she can't actually believe that she behaved that way, if she see's him now it's like seeing a stranger and she is so much happier now than she ever was with him. My mum says "no man is worth your tears and the one who is won't make you cry" Chin up x
Author pinktiger Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 Thank you very much everyone! I did not call him last night even though I did not sleep almost at all. It is hard, very hard. I am so stressed out. I want to cry, I want to hide. No matter what I do, I can not get rid of this pain. I don't know how long I can hang on there. I don't know if I can fully recover from this. He also got a promotion. Ha, new girl and a promotion. Life is so wonderful for him. I am stuck and have no where to go...only left with broken heart and no one seems to care...
MattyTee Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Awww Pink, I feel for you. Well done on not calling, it often feels like it will help but in the long wrong it will just hurt more (been there, done that). When you want to cry, cry! If you feel like hiding, then hide for a bit! You can't force the pain to go but you can help to make yourself feel better. Some things that have helped me loads are: reading (find a good book), writing (journal) and exercise - even if you just go out for a walk. I also go out and sit in a cafe to write, with a nice hot mug of tea beside me (and maybe a slice of cake). Pamper yourself, have a nice hot bath, maybe grab some friends and go out. Try and turn your thinking around a little - his life isn't that wonderful, he let you go and you are great!!! Say it a few times!! If you need someone to talk to I'm around a little while this evening - you can PM or something if you want (you need to turn on PM in your control panel).
Author pinktiger Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Matty, I am not a Premium Subscriber so I can not send you a PM. However, thank you so much for all your support. I don't know how I am going to get pass this weekend. Every weekend is very hard for me since our breakup. I just have no interest to go anywhere or do anything. I don't know what to do. I just wish I can sleep through the whole thing. Why can I? I don't want to wake to face all this. It is too hard. Life is so hard to deal with. My heart has this huge hole I can not mend.
ahah2322 Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 ((hug)) ((hug)) (hug)) and a (((((BIGGGGGG HUG))))) i gave you three hugs and one big one! be strong. please DO NOT call him. i know how it feels and you should be proud of yourself for sticking to your guns for a month now. it takes real effort and i'm so proud of you babygirl! when i broke up with my bf, i placed post-its on my phone to remind myself that calling him will only send me flying back to where i started and obliterate my progress. i also kept a calander, giving myself weekly milestones. it feels totally awesome to cross out each day you've gone successfully holding yourself back from contacting him. hope this helps! remember, it can ONLY GET BETTER!
MattyTee Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 The calendar thing is a good one - I did that too! It's like giving up an addiction (seriously, more than it appears) and each day you can put a big mark on you will notice progress. Keep going Pink, we're here for you
JosieMcCoy Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 This is one exact month we broke up. I miss him so much! I long for his hug, his kiss and his smell... can someone give a hug? I am dying here... Really want to call him... ****HUGGGGG!!!******* Hang in their girly!!!
Author pinktiger Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Many thanks to everyone on this forum! I was really low but feel better now. I wish I could just hate him but he was so nice to me. He even tried to help me to get out this! LOL. It is not easy to love a person. It is not easy to hate a person. It is not easy to forget a person.
Author pinktiger Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Many thanks to everyone on this forum! I was really low but feel better now. I wish I could just hate him but he was so nice to me. He even tried to help me to get out this! LOL. It is not easy to love a person. It is not easy to hate a person. It is not easy to forget a person.
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