Ima littleconfused Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 So dated girl for a little while, didnt spend enough time together and broke up. Made an official "date" for tomorrow. Yesterday, i knew that she had a busy day planned so i left her alone and only talked to her one time throughout the day. We had no plans for today, but i wanted to see her, unfortunately i got a migrain so i couldnt. I sent her a text message telling her that I had planned on it but wasnt able to due to migrain and that i was sorry. I got no response from her whatsoever. Now here is the dilema, she belongs to a Bowling league on thursday nights that i visit her on. I dont know if i should show up at bowling tonight or not. She has given me the cold shoulder for a couple days now and i dont know wheter or not to show up. We do have a date scheduled for tomorrow night as well. Any help resolving this dilema would be great..
compassion42 Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Go to the bowling thing. She probably thinks that you were blowing her off when you cancelled your date-or maybe she never got your text? If you don't feel comfortable going to the bowling league at least call her to apologize for missing the date and to make sure you are still on for tomorrows date.
Author Ima littleconfused Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 Go to the bowling thing. She probably thinks that you were blowing her off when you cancelled your date-or maybe she never got your text? If you don't feel comfortable going to the bowling league at least call her to apologize for missing the date and to make sure you are still on for tomorrows date. I think you may have misunderstood what i was saying, we did not have a date today at all, i text her to tell her that i was planning on coming over but couldnt because of migraine.
adv1cedu0 Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 I think you are over thinking it. Text messaging is a great form of communication when used correctly. However, thinking you have gotten the cold shoulder because you did not hear back from her is way off base. Even if she is in fact giving you the cold shoulder, do not accept it via a text message. Carry on as usual, and if going to bowling is what you usually do, then do it. It is possible that she never even got it. It's happened to me.
The Loacker Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Sometimes when one person gets a mixed signal from the other person, they think that they lost interest, when in reality that's not always the case. This girl I'm going out with tomorrow I've asked out twice already, but she had to cancel both times because she had something come up. After both those times she seemed to think that I was pissed at her, but when she saw I wasn't bothered she warmed up and resumed flirting with me. And if I hadn't asked her out a third time, we wouldn't be going out tomorrow. Of course, after a certain number of tries you just need to back off and move on. Asking a girl out three times is my limit, so just keep that in mind. Persistence is good up to a point, then after that it just looks desperate.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Go to bowling or text/call her again to say that you were sorry you missed her today and that you are looking forward to tomorrow.
Author Ima littleconfused Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 I did text her and tell her that I wasn't sure if I was going to be able to make it to bowling tonight, and to have good luck there. I waited about an hour with still no response, so I got ready to go there and headed out the door. I figured that maybe she wasn't in fact getting my texts. As I left I sent one more text telling her that I presumed that she was ignoring me since she didn't return my texts. As i went on my way there I got a text back saying that she was not ignoring me, she was having a bad night, so it didn't matter that I wasn't going to make it. She asked if we could get together in the morning, obviously I agreed. I guess i'll call her in the morning and see what happens. I also want to make sure that we are still on for tomorrow night as well, lol. I kind of feel like an idiot too, but i still feel justified at the confusion. if that makes sense also.
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