wishes03 Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Please excuse me as I try to get through this. I live with my boyfriend and just had our daughter. Well, weeks after I had our baby we went to MS (where he is from) and that is when all hell broke loose! I found txt msgs in his phone from a chick in MS and one from a chick in MD. These texts weren't just from "friends", these woman were talking about their body parts, etc. He called them baby in txt's he sent to them. I talked to one girl and she told me about when he stayed with her (i was in md..pregnant) and she also told me nothing happened but he wanted to. I confronted him and he had nothing to say. He promised it would end and it was just him being stupid. It was nothing to it..blah blah. It took me a while to get over it. His cell is in my name, so I see everything..who he's texting/calling. I see it all! I have been monitoring it and everything calmed down for a month. Now all of a sudden he has this friend who works at a local restaurant..he gets him the "hook up". Well, to me..I knew nothing about this until I saw it in his phone. ( I feel so bad playing detective but at the same time I am sick of his lies). He barely goes out but when he does he acts weird..he won't answer (sometimes) if I call...or he won't text alot. I am sick of it. This morning I looked at his phone and the girl from the local restaurant and him had talked last night. Around the time he had went outside to his truck (he was out there for like 10 min). Any ideas? I am ready to battle it out for custody and child support. I am sick of him and his ways. I have been 100% faithful and need some advice. Could he be cheating?
cj1988 Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Kick his dumb A-- to the curb baby ! My sons father cheated on me when I was 6 months pregnant, it just about killed me.....he was a loser and never stopped his les, so I left ! He was total blown away, followed me around for 3 years, went to jail for drugs and DUI....too bad ! Now, he is remarried and is straight and is happy, they do change, but no for you....so move on and find someone that will love you !
Author wishes03 Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 wow! I am so scared because i can't afford things on my own just yet. I am leaving, filing for child support and I told him today...it's over. I just don't see how things have changed and he constantly saying we need "space". I am going to really let him breathe. I told him whenever you get paid..i am getting paid. I am tired of hurting and the worry is killing me slowly.
nadiaj2727 Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 wishes-- I talked to one girl and she told me about when he stayed with her (i was in md..pregnant) and she also told me nothing happened but he wanted to. There you have it: independent verification that your boyfriend stayed with another woman while you were pregnant with your child. There are three scenarios: 1. She could have been lying to protect him and herself... maybe something did happen between them. If this scenario is true, what a sleazebucket he is! 2. Even if she was telling the truth, he *wanted* to do something with her. If this scenario is true, what a sleazebucket he is! 3. There could be other women (and you have evidence of more than just this one) that he's been with or tried to be with. If this scenario is true, what a sleazebucket he is!! In short, no matter what really happened or didn't happen, any man who would cheat on his pregnant girlfriend, or try to, is a sleazebucket and should be dumped yesterday. Why do you put up with this? He is not going to change. He's said he would and he hasn't. Plus, you shouldn't give him the chance to change. You shouldn't *have* to play police and watch his phone and his comings and goings... a real relationship is built on trust, and he's not giving you that trust (I don't think he even knows how, he seems to have no morals or integrity), therefore, you should leave the relationship. You and your daughter do not deserve this. Go find someone who will treat you right and give the respect you deserve. Be a good role model for her, so that she won't grow up letting guys cheat on her and walk all over her. My advice is to break up with him right now. Don't give him a chance to snivel his way back into your heart. Close your heart to him -- he is no good and he will never give you what you deserve. If he couldn't give you what you deserved 1) when you were pregnant and 2) after you confronted him and he said it was over, then you should see that he will never, ever be able to give you what you deserve. He is just a lousy human being, and you are too good for him. Move on. Just pack up your stuff and leave (or kick him out, if it's your place). If I were you I wouldn't even talk to him. Leave him a note saying, "It's over, and you know why." I'm sorry you're going through this but you are a strong woman and you know this is not the right kind of situation to stay in. Just get out of it pronto and start on your path towards healing. Good luck.
Author wishes03 Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 And to make matters worst, he wants to fight for custody of our daughter. i am the one who does everything for her. Her physical well-being is because of me. Now, everything is down hill. We went through periods of him sleeping on the couch (even when I thought we were done with the arguements). I am tired of going back and forth. He refuses to get rid of his "friends". He thinks it's ok. But I feel, for any woman to call him after hours and I don't know who or what is going on...he doesn't need to be communicating.
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