A break up with NC and it sucks

[waitingwaitingonyou]

Well me and the ex broke up two weeks ago. She broke up with me. I went to NC for 8 days. Finally sent her an email and told her how i felt.. She said she had moved on. Later that day she started yelling at me because my brother told her that she would never find anyone as good as me. I sent her this email yesterday:

 

Hi. I know you were a little mad at me on the phone last time we talked. I just want to go out on a good note. You did the right thing by breaking up with me. I hope you find mr right. No hard feelings ok?

 

This was for me to move on and just collect my thoughts. I have not talked to her since she called yelling at me and she did not send a message back. I do not want her back by any means but I am just wandering if she is bitter about the whole situation. I am not bitter anymore. I just want to get on with my life.

 

I hope you have some insight!

[reboot]

If you don't want her back, and you aren't bitter, why do you care how she feels about it? She broke up with you, remember?

[waitingwaitingonyou]

yeah but i just want everything to be nice and candy painted. I am not a mean person. I would have liked a reaction from her at least. She did not send anything back! Which means she is either bitter and doesnt want to make everything better or just down right doesnt care and doesnt want to be friends.

[reboot]

You got her reaction. She yelled at you. Move on.

[ninjaturtles]

Hey, I remember you.....I don think you should have emailed her,SHE called you to YELL at you. ..you remind me of myself....I hate enemity etc, but i just realised I cant please everyone.

You've sent it anyway, she will always remember you as a good guy,in the future i.e, but iv learnT one thing,

 

Worry about those who care for you, dont bother with the rest.

 

xx

[waitingwaitingonyou]

yeah i know i am stupid

[wowIlose]

The more you pursue them the more they push away.

 

Shes not worth a penny in your pocket dude. I know its hard to realize now but you'll eventually come to that conclusion yourself. Meanwhile take any self respect you have and walk away from this biatch.

[waitingwaitingonyou]

i wasnt pursuing..... i was getting to the point. just being nice. and get on with it.

[wowIlose]

I know its extremely difficult to erase someone out of your head and not think about them and even more difficult dealing with the idea of the other person just being able to move on likes its nothing..

 

But....! Now is not the time to think about her and if she MIGHT be bitter. Maintain no contacting, work on yourself my friend. Every time you start thinking about her just stop and force yourself to think about something else. Evetually it will get easier to the point where she will no longer be invading your thoughts.

 

Oh, and why would you want to be nice to someone whos not nice to you? I am not saying you should be an ass to her but why go out of your way to be nice.

 

You don't owe her anything and what shes thinking is irrelevant.

[waitingwaitingonyou]

well put it this way bro...i am moving on...this was my little quirk to get over it...she yelled at me...i will always be looked at as the better person...that might not mean much...but i have my dignity....and i dont regret it that much anymore.. it is irrelevant i know...im moving on

[wowIlose]

I understand where your coming from. I have done a lot worse in comparison and wish I stopped contacting/being nice sooner. So take it from me, let this be it and move on. Sounds like thats what your doing now, which is great.

[waitingwaitingonyou]

one thing is true...itll go over...it always does!!

[ninjaturtles]

waiting on you, you are not stupid....but there is no point in being nice to her..

 

I guess you were just emotional and stuff..when you do get over her, you'ld look back and wonder why you were trying to be nice to someone who was so horrid to you. You didnt do anything wrong, she was the psycho who called you to scream at you. She must think she can ride over you...

 

anyway, just forget about it, and stop being mr.nice guy. Iv learnt so much from LS, my heart is hardened..lol...

 

Hope you're doing fine/xx

[ninjaturtles]

SHE WILL BE longer be invading your thoughts.-

 

u took the words right outta my mouth, i acually dont think bout him 24/07 anymore :-D

[waitingwaitingonyou]

got an email from the ex. An answer from the email i sent to her....this is what it said. I got it yesterday and i have not answered.

 

Hey. Can you answer this quesiton. Why was it right for me to break up with you? It is a pitty that it ended as it did. And there is no chance for us when your family doesnt like me. I need a boyfriend who family things i am good for there soon. And yours doesnt. Its a pity.

 

Should i write back or is it too far gone. I havent wrote anything but i am thinking about something to write.... or maybe write nothing, Who knows....???

 

Help here!

[waitingwaitingonyou]

any help here???? What should i do...have been a strong believer to NC and am quite good at it too but give me your advice!

[reboot]

have been a strong believer to NC and am quite good at it too

You're emailing her. She's emailing you. That's not NC.

[pinktiger]

NC no NC, as long as you still have feelings for him/her, it will hurt like hell.

[waitingwaitingonyou]

ok so should i do nc or not? I dont understand you pink tiger? I am not going to answer her email so to be honest you with i dont care what her email says. It didnt say what i wanted it to say so i am just going to move on and not send her anything. Any other help here?

[pinktiger]

Do you still have feeling for her? If you do, then no matter what you do , nc or not, it will hurt you really bad. If you don't have any feelings, then answer the email.