KittenMoon Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 My friend's husband does something like this sometimes. She HATES it. But it's not because he's cheating- he just wants to go out with his buddies, drink, and feel like he's not obligated to go home. "Off the leash" as it were. And have you considered, given the poker, he might have a gambling problem, b_o?
Author blind_otter Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 Woah, he could have a gambling problem. I just went home for lunch and talked about it briefly. We ended the discussion with me saying "Don't think I won't cut you out of my life if you don't sober up. I've fought too long and too hard to get clean to let anyone damage my ability to stay sober."
amaysngrace Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 "Don't think I won't cut you out of my life if you don't sober up. I've fought too long and too hard to get clean to let anyone damage my ability to stay sober." Good for you. I respect that. XO
Art_Critic Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Woah, he could have a gambling problem. I just went home for lunch and talked about it briefly. We ended the discussion with me saying "Don't think I won't cut you out of my life if you don't sober up. I've fought too long and too hard to get clean to let anyone damage my ability to stay sober." atta girl.. make him responsible for his behavior...
coco_milkshake Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Woah, he could have a gambling problem. I just went home for lunch and talked about it briefly. We ended the discussion with me saying "Don't think I won't cut you out of my life if you don't sober up. I've fought too long and too hard to get clean to let anyone damage my ability to stay sober." Nice one. That will give him something to think about.
KittenMoon Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Woah, he could have a gambling problem. I only mention it because it's so much of a "high". And it's VERY addictive. I just went home for lunch and talked about it briefly. We ended the discussion with me saying "Don't think I won't cut you out of my life if you don't sober up. I've fought too long and too hard to get clean to let anyone damage my ability to stay sober." Damn straight! You go girl!
JackJack Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 I think what you said to him was really good blind. Please make sure if he doesn't take you seriously and continues what he is doing, that your follow through with what you've said. Hang in there.
Author blind_otter Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 Well at this point, since I discussed the situation publicly (with you guys) -- I have to stick to my guns and hold MYSELF responsible for my choices. To an AA meeting. Tonight!
Art_Critic Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Well at this point, since I discussed the situation publicly (with you guys) -- I have to stick to my guns and hold MYSELF responsible for my choices. To an AA meeting. Tonight! .......
coco_milkshake Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Well at this point, since I discussed the situation publicly (with you guys) -- I have to stick to my guns and hold MYSELF responsible for my choices. To an AA meeting. Tonight! Good luck!!
laRubiaBonita Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 i am late on this thread. but i agree with KM about the gambling AND alcohol dual addictions he is facing. and since i to have been an addict, it does seem that he is hiding out so that he can get his fixes and not feel as ashamed when he gets home. he is being super sensative and bitter at home because he knows fully well how you feel about it... maybe he feels bad for being home drunk thinking that you will follow suit too and start drinking/ smoking/ using again because his behaviors are stressing you out or might possible tempt you again. so it could be his warped thinking believing he is doing you a favor by not coming home..... how did the meeting go last night?
johan Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 ...We ended the discussion with me saying "Don't think I won't cut you out of my life if you don't sober up. I've fought too long and too hard to get clean to let anyone damage my ability to stay sober." Wow. That even makes ME want to shape up. And I'm not doing anything bad.
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