katie82 Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 and i dont know what to do.... shes one of my childhood best friends and we still remain very close, but due to geographical reasons i havent seen her in about a year. ive seen pictures of her over the past few months and she looks like shes lost a huge amount of weight in the past year. she has always been a healthy girl, eating well and exercising,and has always been of average size. i know shes had alot of new stresses in her life (school, relationship things) and that may have triggered something i just have a bad feeling, like something is wrong. she looks sick in her photos and i really think she may have an eating disorder. i have other friends who have gone through this and this seems alarmingly similar to that i am seeing her in a few days and i dont know how to react when i see her- not say anything? pretend like everythings normal? or say something? anyone with any experience in this field? i need some advice thanks for your help katie
amaysngrace Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 My childhood best friend is the one who made me realize I had a problem. We also were separated by distance once I graduated high school. One day I was telling her about how all I ate for two days was pretzels and marshmallows. I also made a comment on a friend of ours who went up to a size 11/12 as being fat. She said to me "you're a bulimic". I had no idea what that word meant. I looked it up. And yes I was. I immediately arranged for counseling. My friend saved my life. And if she didn't exactly save it, she definitely improved the quality of it by paying attention. She's a very good friend.
Author katie82 Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 i am really glad that youre friend was able to make you see the light and help you out. i would love to be able to help my friend as well my fear is that i am overreacting. ive known her for 10 years and she suddenly looks so different- i dont know if im being paranoid or if somethings really wrong. my instinct is that there is something wrong but i would hate to offend her or create any awkwardness between us
amaysngrace Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 my instinct is that there is something wrong but i would hate to offend her or create any awkwardness between us Tell her that. Tell her that you care about her and you've noticed some changes about her lately. And it's concerning you. My friend only told me what my problem was. It was I who went for help. She and I never really discussed it after that day because I guess she felt she had done her part. And it was up to the counselor and me from there on out. Maybe it's something and maybe it's nothing but if you don't say anything and you happen to be right then her health could seriously suffer. And you may feel really bad about not trusting your instincts and keeping silent. How can someone be mad at you for expressing your concern for them?
Recommended Posts