pandagirl Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 This is a question for the men -- but women, I'd still love to hear your opinion! Basically, I ended up making out for about an hour at the end of a wonderful date, which was comprised of great conversation, flirting, and butterflies in stomach moments. Normally, I wouldn't make out like a bandit on a first date, but I'd known this guy for awhile, so I felt comfortable doing so. I have to say, the making out was incredible and our chemistry was off the charts. I had no intention of inviting him into my place, that would only lead to one thing... you know, the horizontal boogie. So, I eventually was like, "should I call you a car?" so the car came, we smooched a little more, and he left. i called four days later and.. i never heard from him again! so weird. now, i know most of you will say "he's just not that into you," which i mostly agree with, but a lot of my friends were like: "honestly, if i were him, i might not think you liked me." ???? they said that if they were making out with a guy/girl hot and heavy for a while and then they were like: "time for you to go home!" that they'd think they weren't that into them. ego bruised. game over. So, question... is this opinion valid?! I'm not brokenhearted, but i'm really curious as to what other people think.
Davey McG Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Why don't you call him and find out? If he did feel dissed he might think that he should let it go, even if he did like you.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 You seemed to be in control during your date with him. Maybe he is waiting for you? I'm not into calling, but I would in this circumstances. You liked him enough to show him your birthday suit, so why not get closure or better yet get to see him again? If calling is not your thing, you said you've known him be4 this date, then go where you know he will be (run into him). It's a passive move which doesn't give you the answer you are looking for, but you'll see a reaction.... Nothing to lose and all to gain.
melodymatters Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 I guess you have nothing to lose by calling him ONE more time. Just ONCE though, and listen for his " signals".
latefragment Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 i don't think you did anything wrong. a huge make out session at the end of the first date is more than enough. if he felt dissed then he only wanted you for sex. and that's not cool (unless that's what you wanted too, but i don't think you wanted that or you wouldn't have had him leave). did you express that you wanted to see him again when he left? i don't know, i've had similar happen - amazing make out session on first date, no sex, the guy is SO into me and is saying things like 'next time we'll have to do such-and-such', the conversation is intelligent, laugh-out-loud funny, we have lots in common, etc. and then he is never to be heard from again. yes, it's happened to me a lot. i don't get it. i pretty much expect that to be the normal course of events and I actually get surprised if someone wants to go on a second date. LOL. (just goes to show how many flakes there are out there). i'm sorry you're going through this. i've read your other posts about guys flaking out on you and i feel like you and i have experienced a lot of flakes.
Author pandagirl Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 thanks for everyone's opinions! i think the bottom line is that if he really did like me, he wouldn't give up so easily, ya know? but, god! i am so bad at inadvertantly giving guys the wrong message in general. like tonight, i met this guy, his body language and everything indicated he was interested, then i just sort of blew him off for no good reason. the only time i've ever had success with guys is when they've relentlessly pursued me. all my guy friends say that it's crazy i'm single. all my girl friends say that i'm too picky and standoffish. what to do!
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