The Loacker Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 I swear some guys will push you with crappy behavior just to see how much you will take...and they seem to like it when you put your foot down. It shows that you can give some attitude when necessary. That can be very sexy. The same can be said for women. In fact, I'd say women do this a lot more often than guys.
nicki Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 So, I'm curious. At what point does a guy showing attraction change from "Hmm, nice," to "Oh, no."? Where is that behavorial tipping point? (Hey, Michael C., "Leave the gun. Take the canoli." Godfather rocks!)
nicki Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Loacker, fair enough. I've seen that a lot, too. And maybe more often as well. Not cool either way.
uniqueone Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 I think the guys treat you better after you call them on their crap because they know you will walk if they don't shape up. It's a great show of self-respect on your part. But I've done it after it's over....and they ended it. So then i tell them off and all of a sudden they give me this respect......sheesh......I think it's just the fact that pick ****** up men.......
RecordProducer Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 All other things being equal, if a member of the opposite sex reveals to you (expressly or impliedly) that they are attracted to you, do you find them more attractive than if they had not done so? If I am partially attracted to the guy, I start liking him even more. If I am not attracted to the guy, I don't really feel anything but "Oh, crap, I thought this guy could be my friend; now he's gonna feel bad when he gets rejected and the friendshop will be over." It's especially awkward when I have to continue to see the person. If a girl rejects you, take it with dignity and pretend as if it never happened. Don't withdraw or feel humiliated. Women do take it as a compliment. Women also know that if you asked them out in January, it doesn't mean that in April you're still "desperately in love with them." Attraction fades way too often. by revealing your feelings, you make yourself vulnerable, creating the possibility that that person will either reciprocate, or not. From an emotional standpoint, you will either rise or fall. Why does having the feelings NOT make you vulnerable, but revealing them does? If you don't have the courage to tell her, you will view it as nothing lost, nothing gained. Why wouldn't rejection be the same? It's always The chances that they happen to have the same feelings for you are equal to them not having those feelings for you. Some people can intuitively figure out what their chances are.. and then there are masters of the art who can actually influence and lead their chances to their goals. If what I'm saying is true, then perhaps what this means is that if we like someone, we should always make that fact known to that person. Not only will they have the benefit of feeling loved, but the odds are better than not that they will love you in return as well.What men don't realize is that women often feel who is attacted to them, but they pretend not to see it if they don't like the guy. I can tell by the lookmin their eyes, the little compliments, smiles, etc. Of course, many guys hide their feelings, but if they are extrovert and don't hide the attraction, I can easily tell.
uniqueone Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 What men don't realize is that women often feel who is attacted to them, but they pretend not to see it if they don't like the guy. This is true. A lot of times the guy will think that the girl just doesn't know that he likes her but really she's just not interested in him. 'Course I always get the types who can't understand why I WOULDN'T be interested in them. It seems to astound them.
investorist Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 if we like someone, we should always make that fact known to that person. Not only will they have the benefit of feeling loved, but the odds are better than not that they will love you in return as well Michael, nv ever tell a lady you have feelings for her at the very beginning, because by doing so you are actually asking her to make a decision to either stay away from you or continue to give you a chance. And usually they'll stay away because they don't even know you but both ways are bad. If they decide to continue to give you a chance, you are going to be one of the 101 guys that are going to play the chasing game, buying them expensive dinners and gifts, calling them 3 times a day, telling them how much you miss them, kissing their asses, which to them is nothing special at all, you are just another nice guy = boring. Remember "Attraction isn't a choice", they won't go oh you tell me you like me, den i should feel attracted or oh you buy me so many dinners and gifts, den i should feel attracted. No it doesn't work this way!
Phateless Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Women are attracted to the guy who's different. Most pretty girls have hundreds of guys telling them so. The one who treats them like one of the guys... she'll be fascinated by him because "does he not find me attractive? what the hell? what's going on?" On the flipside, I find I enjoy the company of people who I know find me attractive or kinda like me, and I'm not too proud to admit that I like the ego stroking. But I also am careful not to play games or lead them on if I'm not interested. If I know someone is interested, however, I will spend some time talking to them to see if I want to give them a chance. Not sure if it works this way for women.
uniqueone Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Most pretty girls have hundreds of guys telling them so. Everytime I hear guys say this, I laugh. Do you know this for a fact or do you just think this? I know plenty of pretty "girls" and they don't have hundreds of guys hanging all over them. Maybe it's age related? Maybe it's location related? Maybe guys just assume this? I'm puzzled. and I'm not too proud to admit that I like the ego stroking. Are all guys that vulnerable to this? Don't any guys realize that a lot of it isn't sincere? Don't guys care if it's not sincere?
Phateless Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Everytime I hear guys say this, I laugh. Do you know this for a fact or do you just think this? I know plenty of pretty "girls" and they don't have hundreds of guys hanging all over them. Maybe it's age related? Maybe it's location related? Maybe guys just assume this? I'm puzzled. not sure what it is... most of my female friends always have guys on their myspace telling them they're hott, they're sexy, they're pretty, whatever. you'll be just another guy by telling her that in the beginning, is where i'm going with that. it's the most uncreative come-on there is. I'll only tell a girl she's pretty after I know her pretty well. btw, i'm 26 so I don't know if that changes anything in your eyes? Are all guys that vulnerable to this? Don't any guys realize that a lot of it isn't sincere? Don't guys care if it's not sincere? I think all people are a little bit vulnerable to this. In certain social situations, I don't care if it's insincere, because at least that girl is making me look good in front of other girls. Playing around on the dating scene and looking for someone special are totally different in my opinion.
squeak Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 I think all people are a little bit vulnerable to this. In certain social situations, I don't care if it's insincere, because at least that girl is making me look good in front of other girls. Playing around on the dating scene and looking for someone special are totally different in my opinion. Is that something you would try to avoid or diffuse once you are officially with a girl? And if yes-how would you do that? Or would you hope your GF would be complimented that another female was kissing your butt??
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