rickochet2 Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 i've been going steady with my girlfriend for a couple of months now and everything has gone great. Lately i sense that she is starting to lack attention towards me and we fight a lot because i demand attention and affection from her that she showed when the relationship began. i feel like now she doesn't feel as excited talking to me. now she doesn't want at all to grab my attention, she just lets me be and i have to initiate the discussion. thoughts come across my mind and sometimes i think that maybe we shouldn't talk for a day so that i would know how she really wants to talk to me and for me to know how much she wants me. is this normal? is it right that i feel like my girlfriend has lost feelings toward me or is this how it's supposed to be like now that it's been a while that we've been together? and then sometimes, when we fight i also start to think how my relationship would be had i been with a different girl. is it normal to think this way? please, if anyone can help me. i love my girlfriend and i don't want to break up with her but i can't help but feel that she's lost some love towards me. i also can't shake the thought off my head of being with another girl because i don't want to be with another girl. i don't want to compare my relationship to something that isn't real. can anyone help me figure this out? is this self sabotage?
gonetildecember Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Can't really comment on the you thinking of another girl question. But maybe, like some people told me a while back, its just that they "honeymoon" phase is over and she is now comfortable with you, so she doesn't feel she has to work for your attention or be all lovey-dovey. In a sense, she knows you are hers and she is yours.. and feels comfy that way, so doesn't make the effort to go out of her way to prove her feelings to you anymore. Quite a transition, isn't it!?
The Loacker Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 If you're not happy in a relationship, then you're not happy in a relationship. You don't need us to tell you how you feel about your relationship bro. But yeah, if the two of you have gotten comfortable with each other, then maybe she isn't trying as hard anymore. Do you sense that she is bored with you? I know that's a tough question to ask yourself, but you need to find out.
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