doublem316 Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Hi everyone, To cut a long story short me and my ex broke up in 2005 but remained on goods terms until mid-2006 when she met someone else; I realised then and there that i was not over here and went the NC route. About a month ago she txt me out of the blue to see how i woz and i txt her back, we have been txting and e-mailing quite alot recently. I thought i would be okay but the more we keep in touch the more i seem to dwell on the relationship and what i could have done to keep it; i seem to be in the same situation i woz last year and it likes all my work has been undone! I'm seriously considering cutting her out of my life for good, its not something i want to do but i dont see any recourse! Anyone out there got any better ideas???
quankanne Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 in this instance, walking away with no contact whatsoever is prolly the best thing you can do for yourself because it sounds like your heart is still very involved. And to be honest, when you love that deeply, it takes awhile before you can talk about/to that person without feeling mortally wounded ...
Amy22 Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 I think as long as you still care about an ex in a loving romantic way you can't be friends. I am don't know what else to suggest besides not being in contact with her. I know you were looking for a better idea but I am not sure there is one.
the_real_jim Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 i remember telling my cheating ex after i found out the truth behind all her lies, and told her, and i'll remember that day, returned her stuff (well, she picked them up from my house) in a big bin liner. telling her why the person that she cheated on me with (a close friend on mine), why his sister thought she was a whore. she knew that his sister called her that, and seemed so angry that i knew. anyways, i found writing out exactly what i wanted to say - then reading it out to her word for word. it was great, i think that was what made me get over her. met up with a couple of times for coffee (a little birdie told me she wanted to get back with me). and now it turns out, i dont even want to know her, i just want to meet up with her one last time in a busy place and flip my fingers at her and say, f*ck you and have a great day. dunno if that helps, if not - just writing down whats going through your mind helps greatly!
LakesideDream Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Double, I've read/heard that question may, many times and it just passed it by. When I read your title, it struck me.. it is a profound question. I wish I knew. In my case, after seven years the cheating and betrayal no longer "hurts" me, time has cured that. The loss of 25 years of my life makes me ache. I'll never be 25, or 35, or even 45 again. At 57 I an not crazy enough to believe that I can "start over", the very best I can hope for is to find someone I can respect, and love to spend the rest of my life with, and frankly the odd's of that happening are fairly slim. Waking up at 50 and realizing that 25 years of your life were just pi$$ed away is devistating. I hope you do better than I. I assume that you are much younger than I am and for that you should be greatful! Good Luck.
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