Meaplus3 Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 I have presented it to my H who is all for it ofcourse he's a guy :)and I'm his hot wife! H would love to see me and another hot woman getting it on. However when we talk about setting it up I'm to chicken to do it. Guess for us it's better to leave it in the fantasy world! AP:)
RecordProducer Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 I have presented it to my H who is all for it ofcourse he's a guy :)and I'm his hot wife! H would love to see me and another hot woman getting it on. However when we talk about setting it up I'm to chicken to do it. Guess for us it's better to leave it in the fantasy world! AP:)Does he wants to have sex with that woman or just watch you? If the former then ask him about another man as a third party - he can watch you. I'd say if in doubt, leave it out.
Curmudgeon Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Curm, you and I and your wife? No? OK, leave your wife out. The alternative could have possibilities. Maybe in another life!
Author shadowofman Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 Curmudgeon For someone that is so against this idea, you sure can raise the sexual tension in the room.
Author shadowofman Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 Perhaps it's because I've always loved and valued my partners. I love and value my partner as well. In fact, if my partners sexual orientation was closer to mine, I do believe that I would love and value her even more than I already do. So anyway, I'd say that so far we have about a 20% rate of experience with group sexers maybe. People that are promiscuously oriented enough to suggest or pressure a partner into promiscuous experiences. Also interested in any experiences with the suggestion or pressure to be promiscuous in any way. Like my father used to pressure my mother into having sex with black men. Not nessessarily a threesome or group sex. I have a notion, just a notion, that he may, possibly have even had my mother set up to be raped. Which she has claimed to have been, one night while she was sleeping. In and out the window he went.
Trialbyfire Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Also interested in any experiences with the suggestion or pressure to be promiscuous in any way. Like my father used to pressure my mother into having sex with black men. Not nessessarily a threesome or group sex. I have a notion, just a notion, that he may, possibly have even had my mother set up to be raped. Which she has claimed to have been, one night while she was sleeping. In and out the window he went. When children grow up with an abusive parent, they either become just like them or they become the complete opposite. You decide which one you'd rather be.
Author shadowofman Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 Oh, he never abused me. I hated him anyway because he was racist and a bore and I had to spend every other weekend with him in Conneticut. I have had absolutely no knowledge of any of this until about a month ago. All the while traveling the same sexuality road he undoubtably was on. Cowardly, manipulative, persuation. I on the other hand recognized the dangers of this path and stopped myself some time ago. Then I find out about all of his exploits just recently. Really points to a genetic source for my sexual orientations. What suppressing and denying them may do to me. I am committed to being the opposite of my father, but I can't change my sexual desires. It is my biological sexual orientation. Anyway, there is my parents story. I'm interested in how many other people act this way. Kinsey reported infidelity of 60% in the 40's. Of course this is a much less scientific survey of a different topic. How people's sexual orientations can clash.
Trialbyfire Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 It's yet to be proven that sexual leanings are genetic.
Author shadowofman Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 Yet schmet! It's obvious. Gay people are born that way. Or, at least the potential to be gay is genetic. Same with promiscuousness. The alternative is to say that sexual leaning are in the soul. Haha. No, the reality is that sexuality is first determined by genetics, this is the foundation of possible sexual orientations. And then environment. Which will lead us toward different possible paths. Regardless of how we end up with the sexual orientations we find ourselves with. It is almost impossible to force a change. I would be willing to bet that the more you attempt to force the change, the more the orientation will push back. These gay-to-straight programs, religious in nature, only seem to force the orientation below the surface where it can lash out in more dangerous ways. Like Senator Craig in public bathrooms. Or that preacher out in Colorado. The gay guy with the meth.
Trialbyfire Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Until it's proven that sexual leanings are genetic, to me it's not obvious. It could just as easily be something that happens in utero, something hormonal or invasive, or any combination of possibilities, including environmental issues.
Author shadowofman Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 Fair enough. Not a topic for this thread anyway. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t132945/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t133157/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t130842/
Curmudgeon Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Curmudgeon For someone that is so against this idea, you sure can raise the sexual tension in the room. Remember, I've had more years of practice than most, if not all, here!
annieo Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 "So annieo, is this your only only experience with any relationships?' Just curious to know why my comment would elicit this response from you. Do I seem naive (perhaps this is true)? Anyway, nope, I've been married twice, had one other long term relationship, and have been around the block more than a few times. And yourself?
stillafool Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Like my father used to pressure my mother into having sex with black men. Why with black men?
RecordProducer Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 The alternative could have possibilities. Maybe in another life! Since people discovered that there are no reincarnations, they started divorcing in order to have new lives. Curmudgeon For someone that is so against this idea, you sure can raise the sexual tension in the room.Ahhh... he was just inspired by MY naughtiness. Fantasy can go a long way... Curm, is that YOU in your avatar?
CallMeCrazy Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Back to the requested stats... I'd say half the people I've been with have suggested a threesome... Personally, I've kissed other girls a few times and one (drunken) night in college did everything but sex with two guys I had the hots for. Also, my ex-boyfriend's girlfriend (who I didn't know he had) was bi and I know they had threesomes all the time. I don't know if I could ever actually go through with a real threesome. Like many of the posters have said, I don't like to share! I think it'd have to be in a casual-relationship and there would have to be huge sexual chemistry going on between all parties involved. I've only met one woman I've seriously been attracted enough to to warrant going for it. After reflecting on my current relationship, I'd worry that the night would affect things between us in a negative way. We've openly discussed this topic, he would like to watch me and another girl, but ultimately I don't think it's a good idea. I don't want to do anything that would hurt our relationship. I love him and value our relationship far too much. I've been cheated on (ironically) three times.
Curmudgeon Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I've been cheated on (ironically) three times. ...your man-picker could use a tune-up, oil change and lube-job?
sally4sara Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Three out of six. And I'm only counting the serious relationships. But I feel it's part of the territory of being a Bi female. Of course I believe that the thought went through all of their minds upon learning I was Bi, but when I clue a partner into this about me, I make sure they are reassured that I think cheating is cheating no matter the gender of the person you cheat with. Three of the six wanted the "every man's fantasy" enough to ask for it. The other three either didn't want it themselves or took my line about cheating is cheating as a deterrent.
Curmudgeon Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Ahhh... he was just inspired by MY naughtiness. Fantasy can go a long way... Curm, is that YOU in your avatar? Of course that's me, Silly! I'm the ultimate Leo.
sally4sara Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 S It is my opinion that these people are promiscuously oriented and that will never change. They are high risk for cheating and will never be satisfied with one partner for the rest of their lives. Sure there are people like annieo and her man that just entertain the thought, but these are not the people that I'm interested in. I'm interested in knowing how many people there are like myself. People that are almost exclusively focused on promiscuity and group sex. People that try and manipulate a partner into having group sex. I have participated in this sort of activity, but I do not cheat in committed relationships. The only time I have ever cheated was at the end of high school. I chock that one up to my situation at the time being a mentally low one and still being too young and selfish to handle it better.
Trialbyfire Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 ...your man-picker could use a tune-up, oil change and lube-job? Most people forget about the tranny fluid and then get upset when their car starts to judder or gets stuck in 1st gear... I'm surprised at how many people have been asked or have asked to have a threesome.
Curmudgeon Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I'm surprised at how many people have been asked or have asked to have a threesome. ...the former don't demand respect and the latter are incapable of it.
sally4sara Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 ...the former don't demand respect and the latter are incapable of it. wow. pretty sweeping judgment there on something you admittedly have no experience with. No reason to get all like that now
Trialbyfire Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 ...the former don't demand respect and the latter are incapable of it. That's pretty much how I see it, in that it's heavily tied into respect, respect for yourselves/each other and if a relationship is involved, respect for the relationship.
Curmudgeon Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 wow. pretty sweeping judgment there on something you admittedly have no experience with. No reason to get all like that now That was and remains an opinion and was presented as just that and nothing more. Perhaps that explains the lack of experience. I have every reason to get like that. It's inimical to my value system.
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