corran001 Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 ok well recently a girl has broken up with me. and i really want her back. i know she still loves me very much but the distance got to her. but i will start from the begining. she and i have been real close months before we started going out, chatting on the phone each night and so forth except for a short time when she was in a relationship. she was moving to a different country to study and broke off that realationship because of that. now she lived in a different country to me and a month before she was moving to another country to study she organised to come out and see me and hang out for a bit before she goes. within days we were going out, we just wanted to be with each other so much. even though i did not want to be in a LDR and nor did she we could not stop going out. so we said we will make this work. our time together was great. when she moved os we talked every morning her time and on msn at night her time when i was at work. 2 months this lasted until one day she said the distance was really getting to her and she can't do it any more. i was cut up about it, i had plans to move there to be with her but would have been 6 months to a year before that could have happened. we talked again the next day and she said she is just not ready for this commitment. and hopes in the future that we can be together. we were talking again yesterday and parents came up in the conversation and the type of person they want her to go out with. i said at least you did not have to introduce me, she said well i will be older they will not have a choice when i do. we have spoken a few times since and everytime we speak it is just like we are still going out. i really like this girl and i want to be with her, i know she is the girl for me but the commitment thing has created a problem, and i will not be able to see her again for another 6 months. she is a few years younger then me too i think that can have somthing to do with the commitment too can anyone give me advice on the situation, i really want her back.
isntitironic Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 How often are you contacting her? How often does she contact you? Who is working the hardest to make it work? These are not questions to frustrate you. They are in fact questions to plan your strategy so be honest. Well I think we know the answer to these questions. I'm gonna tell you the best and hardest piece of advice. Give her space.
Author corran001 Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 i am the one to call her but that is because it is a lot cheaper for me, and when she broke up with me i really did not call. she caught me on msn and we got chatting about a few thigns, and i said well i have to go but if you do wanna chat some time let me know. she told me then she still would like to chat each morning before she goes to class because she misses talkign to me effort wise i would say that yes i do make the most effort but it is not one sided
Author corran001 Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 and i do nto call out of the blue, it is only when she asks
isntitironic Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 OK heres the deal she knows you'll contact her whenever she wants you too. stop that. she can always expect a morning conversation stop that. She needs her cage rattled.
Author corran001 Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 yeah i did not hear from her yesterday so i did not give her a call in the morning, i agree with you, i will stop that. it has been over a day, and i know that is not long and i have not heard a pep from her, and i also think that is good for me. hopfully this will help. thanks so much for your reply
Author corran001 Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 one last question, what if she comes on msn or messages, i am guessing reply, but keep it short, is that right way to handle it?
isntitironic Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 If she chimes in maybe you are not at your computer *grin* possibly respond later and yes keep it short and then if she responds to your response don't!
Author corran001 Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 there is the commitment issue, is that going to be the breaker to it all, if she feels she is not ready for the commitment, will it mean that there is no chance?
isntitironic Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Ofcourse shes not sure if she wants a commitment because she is positive she could have that. If can't realize what she may lose she won't know what shes got. Listen bro I know its scary, she may not come back. But its the old cliche if you love something set it free
Author corran001 Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 thank so much for your advice, we will see if it works out i guess
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