jabaha Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 I have been talking to this girl for about 4 weeks and she is in my math class. When i get out of my class before math I try to talk to her before then because we always hang out and i try to talk to her but I have a hard talking and starting a conversation and keeping the conversation. As gay as this sounds she usually sits by me in math in class. However, the other day she sat next to a guy she had been talking but she was also seating next to one of her sorrority sisters. Before we went to math class i had asked her last thursady if she wanted to go out some where to eat for next thursday of this week. SHe told me on moday that she couldn't because she had to go to a sorrortiy thing because needed to get more points. This sorrority thing is not required but she said she was low on points. I don't know if this was to get out of the date or if she really had to go to this thing.
Author jabaha Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 Am i just being paranoid or over protective and exaggerating the situation too much or should I be worried about the competition???
Ocean-Blue Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Give it a little bit of time (a few more weeks) and then approach her again. In the meantime, watch her body language and how she speaks to you. If she declines your offer a second time, well...that means she's not interested.
isntitironic Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Play it smooth bro a little rejection at first isnt a bad thing. It shows that if you were dating her she wouldn't be imaediatly open to seing someone else. You may just have to grow on her. Just make sure you understand the differnce between persistance and smothering. you don't want her to think you are some stalker.
Author jabaha Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 Well I have taken her out on one date already and I have gone to her room a couple of times and we have watched a some movies together. I wondered if i have waited too long to make a move but i'm not sure. She told me that before she came to college that she had a boy friend and they had been best friends for the last four years of high school. She said they were getting to that point where they loved each other, but they broke up because it was too hard on them both to be apart from each other and they agreed to split because they thought it would be the best for both of them. By the way i'm a freshman in college and girls in college are just not as open to talk about their feelings as girls you know from your high school so it's kind of difficult to talk to each other.
isntitironic Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Make a move forget about feelings for now. Let that stuff grow on its own.
Author jabaha Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 I think I am just over analyzing things because I called her last night to get coffee she didn't pick up. She did call me back later and she apologized that she could not but she was just over at the place I wanted to take her to getr coffee.
Author jabaha Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 Make a move forget about feelings for now. Let that stuff grow on its own. When you say make a move do you mean kiss her or hold her hand? I have never been in a relationship before unless you want to go back to fifth grade.
Author jabaha Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 Right now I can't tell if she is trying to make me jealous or if she is not interested in me because she's still talking to me. Today in class she sat next to the other guy and i sat beside her and she was talking with him and she talked to me, too. What do you guys think she is trying to is she interested in me or not?
The Loacker Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Well I have taken her out on one date already and I have gone to her room a couple of times and we have watched a some movies together. I wondered if i have waited too long to make a move but i'm not sure. She told me that before she came to college that she had a boy friend and they had been best friends for the last four years of high school. She said they were getting to that point where they loved each other, but they broke up because it was too hard on them both to be apart from each other and they agreed to split because they thought it would be the best for both of them. By the way i'm a freshman in college and girls in college are just not as open to talk about their feelings as girls you know from your high school so it's kind of difficult to talk to each other. Hmm...if a girl is talking to you about her exes, then that usually means they see you as a friend. I'm going to assume from your story that you haven't been doing much flirting with her (touching, eye contact, etc), and if you've spent 4 weeks not doing this then she probably just sees you as a friend. If you really want to give it another go then ask her out again, but unfortunately I would be expecting a rejection.
Author jabaha Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 We were just talking about relationships. I mean we hug and I make eye contact with her but I haven't kissed her yet.
The Loacker Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 By eye contact I meant flirtatious eye contact, and by touching I mean more than just hugs. Here, check this thread out: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t135339/
Author jabaha Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 By eye contact I meant flirtatious eye contact, and by touching I mean more than just hugs. Here, check this thread out: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t135339/ Thanks for the information.
Author jabaha Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 Hmm...if a girl is talking to you about her exes, then that usually means they see you as a friend. I'm going to assume from your story that you haven't been doing much flirting with her (touching, eye contact, etc), and if you've spent 4 weeks not doing this then she probably just sees you as a friend. If you really want to give it another go then ask her out again, but unfortunately I would be expecting a rejection. Well is their a chance that I can get out of the friend zone if I start doing this stuff?
BeautifulMusic Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Well is their a chance that I can get out of the friend zone if I start doing this stuff? Your chances are a lot better if you do because you're communicating interest. If you fail to communicate interest in someone, it makes it pretty hard for more to develop with that person! And the sooner you start, the better! It gets harder to overcome the friend zone the longer you let it continue, obviously.
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