pinktiger Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 OK, this is the result of breaking NC. Today, he told me that he did not understand why I still feel hurt. He said that we both were adults and should be responsible for what we do, I know what I was getting into and know who he was. So he had valid reason to dump me. wow, what he said just made me realize I was totally wrong. from beginning to the end. I wish he had told me at the very beginning then I would have not allow myself to fall in love with this kind of selfish, hypocrite person.
MattyTee Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Aww Pink, I'm sorry. I had a similar problem with breaking NC. I hope you are feeling okay
funkybassplayer Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 OK, this is the result of breaking NC. Today, he told me that he did not understand why I still feel hurt. He said that we both were adults and should be responsible for what we do, I know what I was getting into and know who he was. So he had valid reason to dump me. wow, what he said just made me realize I was totally wrong. from beginning to the end. I wish he had told me at the very beginning then I would have not allow myself to fall in love with this kind of selfish, hypocrite person. He has done you a favor, cos you saw his true colors, and it will in a few days at the least, make it better for you to move forward, knowing you lost a jerk.
Author pinktiger Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 on the other hand, I can not forgive myself. How could I love someone like this for a year? How come did it take me a year to discover what is underneath of that pretty cover? How stupid can I be? I wasted a whole year to love to care to give my best to him and he just first took my kindness as granted then threw it away like it did not mean anything to him. Oh, I am so mad at him and myself!
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 wow, what he said just made me realize I was totally wrong. from beginning to the end. I wish he had told me at the very beginning then I would have not allow myself to fall in love with this kind of selfish, hypocrite person. You too huh!!
MattyTee Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Please don't be mad at yourself Pink. You sound like a genuinely lovely person and you can't bear the responsibility for the way other people act. You gave your best, you loved deeply and you can be proud of that - a great many people out there don't do that! Most people carry some baggage with them, whether it be from childhood, bad experiences or past relationships. Often this can manifest in horrible ways and people end up behaving terribly, it's hard to understand! It doesn't mean that deep down he is a terrible person but perhaps he has issues that he has no idea how to deal with. Just remember we're all human! You are too, so take a deep breath, smile at yourself and be proud that you are who you are I'm sorry I can't be much help
Author pinktiger Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 Thanks matty, it helps a lot!
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Yeah hun he prob like my ex has issues, at the end of the day just deal and get any of yours sorted as I did as best I could with mine and still working on them. If he does then thats fine if he doesn;t then just know he will go through life never being settled or truly happy, you on the other hand will because you will have learnt, healed and grown from this experience. xxxx
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