Dealing with my depression, bad break-up..

[adam11]

Hello everyone,

 

ive read alot of these threads and some people know what I'm talking about. Someone's problem on here is nearly identical to mine (i think the thread is titled "girl 4 years leaves me" or something like that...I know what your going through buddy!!!).

 

Well, I have just finished a 4 and a half year relasionship, we wer enaged. she was my first love and first proper girlfriend and i was with her from when I was 15 until may this year and I am a complete mess.........

 

I'll tell you the story, sorry if it gets really long

 

I met this girl, through her brother (:-s), i was good friends with him years ago. I remember he asked If I wanted to hang at his house one day (i was 14 and his sister (my ex) was 13 at that time) and I went there and saw her for the first time...

I know I was young, but from that moment I knew she was the one, believe in love at first site people coz it happened to me!!!

 

I kept messing up my chances (well thats what I thought) because I was always goofy round her and nervous where I liked her so much. I became her friend. my liking grew for her everytime we where together. I promised myself I'd ask her out on my 15th bday, when it came, I bailed.. I liked her so much for quite a while I was too scared of rejection!

 

On her 14th birthday, i got a bit drunk, I told her how I felt. She starred at me and frowned.. she said "so you've liked me all this time?!" in a angry tone and walked out the room. I thought i was screwed I left the party and started walking home, crying my eyes out.

 

As I got to the end of the road she called my name. I turned around she was running towards me, I slowly walked towards her.. "yeah?" i said, finding it difficult to make eye contact with her. she lifted my head up so I was looking at her and she started kissing me. omg, I still remember the feeling I had when when that happened, it was the happyest moment of my life!!!!!! we stopped kissing and hugged each other. she whispered in my ear "why didnt u tell me from the start?", i didnt reply and just held her tighter.

 

And that was the birth of our relasionship. and it only seems like yesterday.

 

(to cut a long,long story short) things we really great, superb, amazing for three and a half years, it was the best time of my life, im not joking we we're perfect, never agrued (literally), she wasnt just my girlfriend, she was my best friend! I was really good friends with all of her friends and family i went on holiday with her a couple of times every year I asked her to marry me, she said yes!!! It was brilliant... but... the last year of our relasionship came...

 

Everything went wrong when she got pregnant... thats **exactlty** when it happened. She ended up having an abortion because we wer young and not ready and it was her decision aswell and i agreed and respected her decision.

 

After having the abortion, she became incredibly depressed, regretting the desicion, she wasnt eating properly, she wasnt sleeping. i was there for her 100% by her side. Then she started taking medication for her depression that messed her up a bit. she became just over 6 and a half stone. NOT GOOD!!! she went a bit crazy and sed she didnt want to see me for a while. I couldnt see her, it was crazy? my fioncee, what the hell?

 

i called her everynight for about a month, she still said she didnt want to see me and she wanted time alone... I ended up meeting her a little while later and she was really off with me.....?? Id always ask her whats wrong, shed always tell me nothing... But I knew her, I knew her like family, better than my family. We continued the relasionship, we wernt getting on at all. it was a nitemare!! then she said she wanted another break!!?!?!?

 

one day she called me up at 3 in the morning and asked if we could meet, she said it was important and i did. not seeing her for about a month the first thing i wanted to do was hold her, she pushed me away... (I am crying right now writing this) she then sat me down.... "I've been doing alot of thinking.................I've fallen out of love with you"... I began vomiting. And thats when it ended.... the worst part is she doesnt want to be my friend... and it breaks my heart... AND THERZ NO REASON FOR THIS ASWELL?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!?! I DONT GET IT..................

 

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The thing I dont understand is, she was the sweetest person ever! so caring and understanding (before the abortion). And I was a great boyfriend, I was always by her side and always showed her love and affection.....

 

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Everyone is telling me i'll get over it, in time it will be ok. I beleive that but when?!?!?! I have been destroyed.. i cry every nite, i am drinking alot of alcohol every night ( i am fully aware that it is a depressant but i cant sleep other wise) I am not motivated to do anything in life and i feel suicidal at times....

 

I was ok for a little while after it happened. But lately, I dont know, its really sunk in. everything reminds me of her and i cant get her out of my head...

 

I dont know what else to say... please comment. thank you very much for reading.

[MattyTee]

Hey Adam,

 

I'm sorry you are going through this man. Posting here is a good step

 

I'm not going to tell you all the cliches right now - time will heal all etc. For now just take things a step at a time. I went through hell when my ex-Fiancee left me, I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, felt really ill all the time. There are some practical things you need to try and do for your health (and believe me these things will help you feel better).

 

I know that it feels like the alcohol is helping you sleep but it isn't. Once in your system it will actually stop you sleeping properly (this is a scientific fact) and although you feel like it is helping it isn't. Rest is absolutely vital so I would suggest going to see your Doctor. I am one of those people that avoids taking a pill for every ill but when I realised that without sleep I couldn't begin to sort myself out I opted for a low-dose anti-depressant called Amytriptiline. It's prescribed for insomnia as well. It has helped enormously and because it's a low-dose it isn't going to have the same potentially high risks of side effects. Other things that really help are tiring yourself out physically during the day (exercise will release feel-good chemicals, the natural anti-depressants) and if you are finding sleep difficult try reading for 10 minutes, then back to bed. If you aren't asleep shortly, rinse and repeat.

 

I have felt very low as well, I even called The Samaritans one evening. Just remember there are people here who are going through it with you, you aren't alone. If you need to talk to someone pick up the phone and call The Samaritans - it will help.

 

Try and do some things each day that will make you feel better - just do them on auto-pilot. Brush teeth, go for walk, wash dishes ... etc.

 

Stay with us man, keep posting

[ninjaturtles]

Sigh...another shocking story.....

 

7 weeks ago, i was like you...but being on LS has helped me so much.

 

I dont know where to start with you, the problems seem to have started after the abortion....Do you think she feels that it was your fault that she got pregnant? A bit careless etc? I have a friend who had an abortion...when she was about youe ex's age as well, she was depressed for a long tine, tried to even commit suicide etc, nevertheless it didnt affect her feelings towards her boyf.

 

I dont know..maybe people react differently?

 

Its a mystery, i wish i was doctor so i could tell you all the after psychological effects of having a termination, but I know people get very depressed and have a strong sense of guilt...who knows some people may do different things inorder to supress thier guilt.....

 

On the other hand, her decision may not really have much to do with the abortion...it seems like it but no one can know for sure.

 

The only thing you can do now is.....(you are going to hate this)..move on......

 

You were there for her through out her problems, you stuck through with her, you were good to her etc...all you can do is move on with your life. If this is simply a phase, then she will come back..if its not....therex's nothing you could do except move on...your story makes me sad...most stories on here do, but this is life....you are about 20 years? There is so much to look foward to..you have a lot more to experience....

 

Its shocking but if you read a lot of stories on here, you will realise that people have been through hell...again i feel for you...

 

Please keep posting, read stories here, under 'coping, breaks and breakups and seperartion/divorce.

 

Please dont call her, please dont..it will only push her away further....its so unfortunate but if someone you trusted so much could do this to you, then it just shows you what the world is like..the real big bad world.

 

Ok starting to go offtrack a bit, but go and chill with a friend tonight...talk to him, talk to someone, call someone, read LS...

 

time does wonders...you will heal..but slowly....and gradually.

 

xxxx

[izzylicious]

Hi Adam,

MattyTee gave very good advice. You have done the best you could. now you have to take good care of yourself and find some hope. Please, please, if necessary, get help. A doctor, friend, loved one can talk you through your lows, and anti-depressants can help you deal better if necessary. You sound like a wonderful man, please keep posting on here if it helps, we are rooting for you!

Izzy

[Sanslatete]

Yeah, we're here for you Adam, we've all been through/are going through similar to you and we know it sucks. Matty was right, you need to talk to someone if you feel yourself slipping and go see the doctor. I'm on Prozac at the moment and it does help to level out the big part of mourning. I do my days by auto-pilot too, just make yourself be busy, do something, anything, just don't sit around on your own. There are people out there and people on LS that will listen to you and help you through this. I know it's very painful, but we can get through this together. Good luck man.

[adam11]

Thankyou everyone. I feel a little a little better that I'm going through this with people and I'm not alone

 

My dad keeps telling me to stop being a little girl and that I should toughen up and not be a wimp..

None of my friends have had a relasionship for longer than a month so they don't understand me..

 

I have emailed a councellor, I'm just waiting for a response and I'm gonna make an appointment this week with the doctor.

 

I'm going to find it a bit difficult to just cut off the booz though.. for three months or so i have had a litre of whiskey every night just before I go to sleep so I blackout. I've kinda got used to it and I rely on it quite a bit now.. my health and money is going downhill quick! I will try and cut down, but i cant bare to be sober alone at night.

 

I will keep you updated.

 

Thank you LS.

[MattyTee]

Hey again,

 

It's good to hear that you're taking some steps. If you get a good counselor they can do wonders for you. If you think alcohol might be a problem there are people you can talk to about that, perhaps ask your doctor first. If you get put on anti-depressants drinking alcohol could actually be quite dangerous, so do be up front with your doctor.

 

I wouldn't worry about your Dad or friends. This isn't about them, it's about you. If they are unable to get in touch with their emotions or value a relationship then it's their problem. I think there is this sort of idea that being masculine means that you can't be in touch with your emotions. In fact being a real man is about being in touch with all sides of your self and accepting them all - that means your strength, power, confidence but also your emotions, your love, your weakness. That's my personal opinion though, so it might be taken with a pinch of salt. I obviously don't know 'what women want' - not to say that all those things are 'for' women!

 

Keep strong buddy!

[adam11]

I did somerthing bad.. i just rangg her,

 

I diidnt mean to, I amm sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo drunk right now i can barely seeeee. TTHE BOOZ DIDNT MAKE Me passout to slepe tonite.. I'm still awake, wide awakee.

she toldme that shees going on a dateewiuth some guy on fridat and that i shouludd stop botgrering jer.......................................................................... I SHOULDNY of f uckjoiing callllesd herr.. i feel like killlung mydse;lf.. i tyred calling bthe samaratans butt i dont anyyyyyy credit on myy mobilee.

 

WHATR DID I DO WRONGGG????!!?!?!?!?!? I DONGT DESERVE THISSSS I WAS A GOOD BOYFRIEND.. MAYBE I WAS TOO NICE AND IT WAS BORINGGG FOR HERR, MAYBE IM A BORNG LOOSERRRRRRRRRRRR....I CANT STOP CRYIKNG, I SWEAR IF I SEEEE THEM TOGETHRER IM GONA KILLL HIMM.. THE THOUGHT OF HERR SAYING THE THINGS SHE USED TO SAY TO ME OR SLEEPING WITH ANPOTHER GUY MAKEEEESZ ME WANT TO DIEE............ OMGG I HATE LIFE SO MUCG IS SUCJKSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

 

 

 

IKMMMMM NOT GOING TO REMEMBER WROTING THIS. HOPEFULLY I WOWNHT REMMEBRRR CALLINGER HERR. I LNOW IM GONNA REGRET WRITING THISSS WEN I SEE IT TOMMORROW BUIT I NEEEEEEDED TO GET IOT OFF OF MY CHESTT, EVEN IF I AM TYPINGG..

 

SSORRY. AD.

[MattyTee]

Don't be sorry Adam, there's no need.

 

A lot of us have been there, I mean I emailed when I wasn't drunk... so...

I know it's hard man, there isn't anything I can say that will make it feel better or take that pain away. I know it's tempting to try and drink the problem away but it really won't help you. If there is any way you can stop then please do, it will be a great benefit to you...

 

It would be a good idea to arrange to see your doctor as soon as possible. Talk these things through with them, they will understand. If you need to call the Samaritans then perhaps you can find a phone line to use that isn't on credit? You can always email them. They respond fairly quickly.

 

A lot of people are going through what you are feeling, you aren't alone mate. It's okay to cry, go with the feeling. It will hurt like hell and you'll feel crap but tomorrow is another day and you don't know what brightness the future can bring.

 

See if you can drink some water and maybe lie down for a bit. If not, then take your mind of things - read a book or watch some TV.

 

Keep strong brother, we're here for you.

[alwayshurt]

I did somerthing bad.. i just rangg her,

 

I diidnt mean to, I amm sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo drunk right now i can barely seeeee. TTHE BOOZ DIDNT MAKE Me passout to slepe tonite.. I'm still awake, wide awakee.

she toldme that shees going on a dateewiuth some guy on fridat and that i shouludd stop botgrering jer.......................................................................... I SHOULDNY of f uckjoiing callllesd herr.. i feel like killlung mydse;lf.. i tyred calling bthe samaratans butt i dont anyyyyyy credit on myy mobilee.

 

WHATR DID I DO WRONGGG????!!?!?!?!?!? I DONGT DESERVE THISSSS I WAS A GOOD BOYFRIEND.. MAYBE I WAS TOO NICE AND IT WAS BORINGGG FOR HERR, MAYBE IM A BORNG LOOSERRRRRRRRRRRR....I CANT STOP CRYIKNG, I SWEAR IF I SEEEE THEM TOGETHRER IM GONA KILLL HIMM.. THE THOUGHT OF HERR SAYING THE THINGS SHE USED TO SAY TO ME OR SLEEPING WITH ANPOTHER GUY MAKEEEESZ ME WANT TO DIEE............ OMGG I HATE LIFE SO MUCG IS SUCJKSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

 

 

 

IKMMMMM NOT GOING TO REMEMBER WROTING THIS. HOPEFULLY I WOWNHT REMMEBRRR CALLINGER HERR. I LNOW IM GONNA REGRET WRITING THISSS WEN I SEE IT TOMMORROW BUIT I NEEEEEEDED TO GET IOT OFF OF MY CHESTT, EVEN IF I AM TYPINGG..

 

SSORRY. AD.

 

what's matter with you? can you just be a man and accept it?

It's hard...everybody knows it, and you're not the only one with this pain. What would you think of yourself a few months from now when you will read this again? do you think if she saw you in this status she would like you more? No way! You need to let go. NOW! you need to get back to your feet and face it. She's gone! so what? it's your ego that it is making you acting like this. because you've been rejected. And you're right! she probably got sick of you because you were so attached and needy with her.

Now, learn from this and move on. Next time you will know what to do.

I don't think with this woman is over for good. But you need to bahave as a man if you want her back. She needs to see that you are not as needy as she thinks and that you don't need to be in a relationship with her. The power in a relationship is always in the hands of the one who needs it less. Go to NC right now and forget about her. Don't call, contact, beg her any more. Just take your face away from her. If she comes back to you it is for the right reason and no because she has to feel sorry for you. Would you want that? don't think so. You don't need any doctor, any alchool or any drugs to be ok. You just need to wake up and deal with your pain as a man. Don't be a wuss or a doormat. She has to know the great man you are...she does not need to know that you are a wuss in need of her support. Build up some confidence...for yourself. Be strong in front of any situation, this is what a woman wants to see in a man, not somebody that cries at the first obstacle.

I am sorry if I am being harsh on you, but you need to get some punch in your face to stand up and react. You're not the only one who has been kicked. So stand up and get in fighting position. You are a man!!!!

[MattyTee]

*lol* Always,

 

I'm certain that someone who is drunk and talking about killing himself is going to be able to take that all in

 

Being a man isn't about being some stalwart brute it's about accepting different sides of yourself. There is a time for building confidence and a time for becoming a 'man' whatever that might mean but it has to be taken one step at a time. Personally, I would say that doctors and therapists can help a great deal - this is from experience (I feel stronger and more confident than I have in a long time). Drugs are an option if you are unable to sleep - because without that fundamental building block you are f****d if you get my drift... The alcohol feels like it helps but doesn't.

The first few steps are getting through tonight, then trying to drop the alcohol. Talking to someone will help. Dealing with pain as a man ... an interesting concept ... is that like wrestling it?

Give the man a break, he's drunk and upset. Tomorrow is another day and there are plenty of hours then to play manly games.

[alwayshurt]

*lol* Always,

 

I'm certain that someone who is drunk and talking about killing himself is going to be able to take that all in

 

Being a man isn't about being some stalwart brute it's about accepting different sides of yourself. There is a time for building confidence and a time for becoming a 'man' whatever that might mean but it has to be taken one step at a time. Personally, I would say that doctors and therapists can help a great deal - this is from experience (I feel stronger and more confident than I have in a long time). Drugs are an option if you are unable to sleep - because without that fundamental building block you are f****d if you get my drift... The alcohol feels like it helps but doesn't.

The first few steps are getting through tonight, then trying to drop the alcohol. Talking to someone will help. Dealing with pain as a man ... an interesting concept ... is that like wrestling it?

Give the man a break, he's drunk and upset. Tomorrow is another day and there are plenty of hours then to play manly games.

 

Matt,

 

sometime you need a spark from somebody in order to open your eyes and realize that after all what you are dealing with and suffering from "at the present time" it is just in your head. It is totally normal to feel depressed (your life has been turned upside down and you're suffering from a loss) and depression from heartbroken is the most common form of depression. However, it does not last long and it always goes away. It goes away faster if you react to the situation. If you let the all thing overwhelmed you, than you screwed. Why in the heck you want to opt for drugs, at least right away.

Since the adam and eva era (sorry if I spelled it wrongly), there always been men and women hurtbroken. And there will always be. At that time there were no drugs or therapists to help you out. And people still survived.

Now, my concept is that there is nothing you can do about it. They are gone and you have to deal with it. It's up to you the way you want to deal with it. You can just covered yourself with dark clouds and let the depression eat you alive or you can react and face the problem standing up. After all, isn't this what your woman wnat to see? Dealing with pain as a man means facing situations as they come, reacting to them and be a better, stronger and more confident person. Life is full of obstacles and if any time you face a wall instead of bracking it you choose fill yourself with drugs then I guess it is more complicated than a simple "brokenheart" situation.

Life is not easy, let it bring on the problems to you, embrace them and work with it. You will eventually be strong enough that nothing will scare you anymore. And guess what? people around you will spot this sense of confidence too and be attracted by it, your woman included becuase after all that is all she is interested in.

 

Cheers!

[MattyTee]

I think any time that a broken heart leads to depression and people talking about not being able to take it there are deeper reasons there. I'm not advocating drugs, in fact if he can get by without then that is great. What I'm saying is that sleep is vital for his wellbeing and ability to be able to cope rationally with anything. If he can't sleep, he's not able to face anything like a man, or woman, or goat. Just because something didn't exist when Adam and Eve were fruit picking doesn't mean that it's not a good thing. Nowadays we are faced with a great deal of emotional baggage and people just don't know how to deal with it. Tough love is a great option but I don't think it always works and certainly on an online forum when someone is so drunk he writes in all-caps with slurring typed words

 

Obstacles might be there for a reason and if you smash them down every time you come to one you may never find out what that reason was Anyway, I'm just offering my opinion as someone who sees it a little bit differently There is absolutely nothing wrong with being scared, it's how you deal with it that is important. Embracing a problem is great and very noble but doesn't always work straight away. Most people went through the initial heartbreak, can't do anything stages. I doubt they would be able to stand up and smash anything down at that point.

 

Anyway, either way Adam, look after yourself and look back on this post as a learning experience

[SunnyLady]

I'm sorry for your pain. Its your first breakup. Its bound to hit you VERY hard. The denial stage where you want to try everything you can to get ther back, the mourning stage, the depression state where you don't want to do anything but stay in your room and cry in bed. Where you can't even bring yourself to do anything. You begin to feel suicidal...like life has nothng to offer. You begin to wish you were dead (possibly). You feel like this pain will never leave you. I have been there...im going through a breakup myself but i tell you, it gets better. As hard as this sounds, you will be fine.

 

You shared virtually all your first experiences with this lady. And you have done your BEST for her. You showed her nothing but love, is there anything else you could have done for her? No. There is a limit to what a human being can do. Ok, i personally don't think this is the end. I think in due time things will come into place. But don't rely on that thought for comfort, sintead get yourself back on track as hard as it may seem. You need to be strong, no woman like a weepy man. Don't contact her, You have done all you could for this girl. She needs to see your good herself. You can't force her to do this. Maybe the abortion she went through is the problem, maybe she feels guilty and in a way blames you. Women can get funny like that. But the truth is you were there for her and she turned away your love and care. And you didnt force her into doing anything. So you have done nothing to deserve this treatment.

 

Please don't contact her. Stay off alcohol, its toxic. And it may be harder for you to drop this habbit if you delay. Speak to a counsellor. It will help. Treat yourself like an invalid, eat healthily and don;t harm your body by causing long term damage because of this breakup.

 

You are only 20, 19? You have so many years ahead of you!!! Think of 5years to come...do you know where you will be, who you will be with what you would have achieved? Pain is tempororary. If this girl is meant to be, she will be. If she isnt, you will find someone who will reciprocate your love duly and not throw it into you face. No one deserves to be treated like a tramp, beacuse of love. Just take it a day at a time. I don't want to make this post too long, but keep us posted. It will be well. You will be fine. You have your whole life ahead of you. But you need to be strong enough to accept that!!

[the_real_jim]

if your in uni, go out! enjoy life, you only live it once - plan something big, i'm still trying to plan sky diving! helps get your mind off things!

[SunnyLady]

Matty how are you coping? Still feeling low? I feel a lot better now. Sometimes its best to let it all out, the tears , the emotions etc. It helped a whole lot. And you were sooo right, i was typing out an essay when the feelings came flooding in. . I managed to get it done though:).

 

Thanks for your support. hugs

[adam11]

*puts hand over eyes*

 

Jesus christ.... I feel like an idiot... I really,really need to stop drinking!

Sorry about that drunk post everyone I'm extremely embarrest now...

 

I'll keep you updated with the positive things.

 

AD

 

XX

[bigheartkindsoul]

*puts hand over eyes*

 

Jesus christ.... I feel like an idiot... I really,really need to stop drinking!

Sorry about that drunk post everyone I'm extremely embarrest now...

 

I'll keep you updated with the positive things.

 

AD

 

XX

 

Don't be, we all struggling with the ups and downs of break ups - its what makes us human. You can see from the posts on here you are not alone in how you are feeling, and you are not alone with how you are dealing either.

 

Do not beat yourself up, you need to grieve its a really important stage of the healing process.

 

xxxx

[Spinderella]

*lol* Always,

 

I'm certain that someone who is drunk and talking about killing himself is going to be able to take that all in

 

Being a man isn't about being some stalwart brute it's about accepting different sides of yourself. There is a time for building confidence and a time for becoming a 'man' whatever that might mean but it has to be taken one step at a time. Personally, I would say that doctors and therapists can help a great deal - this is from experience (I feel stronger and more confident than I have in a long time). Drugs are an option if you are unable to sleep - because without that fundamental building block you are f****d if you get my drift... The alcohol feels like it helps but doesn't.

The first few steps are getting through tonight, then trying to drop the alcohol. Talking to someone will help. Dealing with pain as a man ... an interesting concept ... is that like wrestling it?

Give the man a break, he's drunk and upset. Tomorrow is another day and there are plenty of hours then to play manly games.

Good post

[Spinderella]

*puts hand over eyes*

 

Jesus christ.... I feel like an idiot... I really,really need to stop drinking!

Sorry about that drunk post everyone I'm extremely embarrest now...

 

I'll keep you updated with the positive things.

 

AD

 

XX

Dont worry. We've all been drunk before

But its a good idea not to drink when you are going through a depression.

BHKS is right, its okay to grieve, and its not only okay, but neccessary too. Allow yourself to feel your feelings, dont hide from them.

[adam11]

Hello LS!

 

Today I'm having some mixed emotions, I'm quite over the moon (I'll tell you why in a second) and quite sad and very anxious at the same time because my ex is meeting that new fella today...

 

The good news is - This february I took my Grade 8 Guitar Music exam (basically grade 8 is the highest, it is teaching level - if you pass anyway!) well my results came through the post today...

 

I GOT A DINSTINCTION!! WOOO!

 

Last night wasn't too bad, I slept ok and I ate a whole meal too. I saw an old friend i haven't seen for a long time in the pub last night, He just finished a 2 and a half year relasionship and we had a chat about it and stuff and it made me feel alot better. I didn't drink too much last night either.

 

The couceling place e-mailed me and have put me on the waiting list too!

 

2nite, I'm going to a 21st bday, so there's probably going to be a bit of alcohol. I just hope I don't end up calling my ex because I'm going to be dying to know how it went with this new guy..

 

Well cheers anyway.

 

Love you all

 

AD

 

XX

[bessieboo]

Hi Adam

 

Just wanted to say keep your chin up!!

 

I know you're probably sick of hearing this but you will give over this breakup, but these are normal feelings you are having!

Something that really helped me with my breakup was something that I read from another website - write all her bad points down, she must have some, no one is perfect. Eventually you start adding to it and adding to it and then whenever you feel down about the whole thing you just read the list and it reminds you of the reasons you shouldn't be together.

 

I did just want to say though that she does sound a little selfish. I know an abortian is hard for any woman to go through but as a supportive, loving, loyal boyfriend this would have been hard on you too.

 

Believe me I know how you feel, when my ex left me I really didn't know what I was going to do with the rest of my life, we'd been together for 4 years and were saving to get a mortgage together and then one day, literally out of no where he phoned me up and dumped me - found out 2 weeks later he was seeing someone else. But now I really couldn't care less!!

[MattyTee]

Congrats on the grade Adam, you sound much better today

 

Good luck with the party and make sure to flush your mobile down the toilet before you go I'm glad to hear about the counseling too - I think that can help.

 

Stay strong!

[adam11]

I have deleted her number from my mobile, I've put everything of hers and everything she gave to me in a box and ive put it in my garage. I've deleted and blocked her on msn and myspace also.

 

Hopefully that should make me feel a little better too.

[MattyTee]

Great job!

 

You got there a lot quicker than I did. Have fun tonight!