Spirit Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Hi Loveshack, my girlfriend seems to be very sad, exhausted lately. She is finishing her last year of school. Her workload is immense and she feels right now to "just get out, wanting to escape" the constant, enduring routine of writing reports, studying, etc. She is very intelligent and she knows "to just bite the bullet" to do the things that she needs to do this year to finish successfully. She says that talking to me, looking at me, makes her feel a lot better. I wish that there is something else that I can do for her. I hate to see her feeling and looking so sad. I feel hopeless. Making more time for herself -- and less time for us -- to get school work done is what she needs, but I hate to see her feeling the way that she is, alone. Besides talking to her, would you suggest another way for me to let her know that she should not feel alone as I care about her? This question may lead to some really obvious answers (e.g. buying flowers) from you all, but I'll read all suggestions, obvious and not, with great interest. Thank you for your time and attention.
Stereogram Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Schedule a vacation for the both of you. Give her something to look forward to rather then just taking time off and then returning next semester (if she graduates in the spring). Oh...by the way...this board is for people who struggle with dating...so quit showing off.
Saxis Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 That's a tough situation to be in... You could just surprise her after you know she's finished a project, or use it as a kind of incentive. As an incentive though, she might consider that a little pushy to spend time with her, so be careful. Maybe a trip to the spa, a fancy dinner for two? Have some things that she will enjoy by herself, like a massage or tanning if she likes and things you can do together. Mix it up, so she has time for herself, and time for you. Once a week, or every other week sounds about right, but that's all up to her. I would definitely try to surprise her once though, with either a massage or spa date, and maybe dinner after. You would know better how she'll react to something like that though.... Good luck!
Lucky555 Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Yes, i totally agree to quit showing off I love reading things like this though it tells me there are people out there that can have a good relationship! lol I myself am in a situation like your gf's all i want to do at the end of the day is SLEEP! Yeah school work, studying, stress, exams, the list continues. It can get depressing, but if i had a great guy that cared like that i would "like" this: Call her after her long day of classes and say "love you" Compliments! i can't stress this enough Flowers are great but even better is watching a great movie with her and just hug her and let her just be. stress relief activities go for a walk with her, check out some parks and such. Dinner is great but if shes tired maybe she just wants a nice dinner at home you cook!
Kamille Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Two words: Cheese fondue. Actually, what I would recommend, if you aren't already doing that, is to take care of her taking care of the meals here as often as you can. one of which - on weekends - which would be romantic. She might not have time to cook, so the very act of cooking for her saves her some time that the two of you can spend together sharing the meal. I know that cheers me up.
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