waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Well After 8 days nc i got into contact with the ex. Just asking her if there was any hope for us and if i should more on. She said that she has already moved on. I took this as a step for me to move on and told her that, I learned alot from our relationship and stuff like that and just went out on a nice note. Well after that She sent me some mean messages on MSN. So I didnt answer and I just told her that I wanted to go out on a good note. She signed off and and that night she called yelling at me: I guess she sent my brother some crap on the internet and he told her this "I dont want that stuff...And by the way you will never find any one as good as my brother". She called furious and said. What did you tell your brother about me. I was calm and said absolutley nothing. Its over we just need to move on and I am happy that you have moved on. She said "well what if one day we get back together and you have told all this crap about me to your family" I said that is not going to happen. Then she hung up on me. Now I am back to NC. I do not want anything to do with her after her actions right now. Just talking crap and saying mean things. It is ok now. It has helped me move on in a big way. Once they crap themselves out and are pissed then it is always good from the dumpee...Trust me it has helped me big time. She wont take contact with me again I definatley will never talk to her ever again! Tell me what you think peeps!
underpants Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I think it a little sad for her to try to get to you via your brother. She knew exactly what she was doing. Also, good for your bro to stand up for you and tell her so. The fact that she gets mad about it and then tries to turn it around into a 'what if' scenerio is just rather hilarious and yes...looney. Let her stew in the loss.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 Well the funny thing was is that she said she was over me. If i was over someone I wouldnt care what there brother said or something like that. Pluss she was still talking about what happened last weekend and how everything went to hell. I said that what is done is done. I am not going to dread on the past. I am moving on. And now I know that she is a little looney! She can do whatever she wants. She is not the right one for me anyways.
underpants Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I skimmed a few of your previous posts. She does sound unstable. Dude, she cheated, she is outta there. I don't think her games are over yet. Good that you have the mindset that you do. Recognize her for who she is. I do hope for your sake that you can remain strong. Lay off the contact and refrain from responding to hers. I would also advise you to refrain from looking at her online profiles. The best thing you can take from your time with her is a newly defined critera for a better and more healthy relationship with someone more deserving in the future. Good luck to you dude. Mad props to your brother.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 thanks buddy! Yeah I have stopped looking at her profiles. She is very unstable and not worth it. I can do much better! I kinduv got an ego trip when she called last night because I would have never picked up the phone to call her. I mean what should I say? Right! She will never be happy, and she does drugs which is a big no no for me. I just cant deal with her **** anymore and am moving on. Ill be posting if she makes contact but I really doubt she ever will! But oh well her loss right?
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 thanks buddy! Yeah I have stopped looking at her profiles. She is very unstable and not worth it. I can do much better! I kinduv got an ego trip when she called last night because I would have never picked up the phone to call her. I mean what should I say? Right! She will never be happy, and she does drugs which is a big no no for me. I just cant deal with her **** anymore and am moving on. Ill be posting if she makes contact but I really doubt she ever will! But oh well her loss right? Good. I had my share of psycho women too. Long story this one girl I dated for a little while decides to cheat with her ex boyfriend, the one she told me she didnt have feelings for. So I let her go. And guess what she get's dumped again!!!! I chew her out in front of everyone calling her a downlow trashbag ho. Bascially I told the truth and called her a liar. A few months go by and I am over it. I'm not mad anymore. She calls me up and wants to invite me to her wedding. (Not with the same guy) I accept and reply I'll bring a date. (Now I'm thinking we cool.) Two days later. She hits me up on my cell and laces in to me hard screaming you cant bring no bitch to my wedding! Yadda yadda. Crazy talk!!!! I was just smiling and dumbfounded! This is the same girl who left me for someone else who was now getting married who couldnt stand to see me with someone else. lol. So I declined the invite and told her shoot ill stay home if it wasnt so much trouble. lol. Bottom line. some girls have too many issues that cant be fixed. They damaged goods. We as men need to leave them alone.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 Yeah i hear you dude...you are better off....just say away...that marriage wont last.... Found out my ex was a cocain-heroin addict. I just coated it as it happened but she was too far gone. She had major issues. All of her friends are whores and i found out she was almost in the same boat. I am a happier guy now. I have alot of girls that really want me but as of right now i wanna be single. No scense of getting into another relationship right after that one ended!
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 WTF....was on msn today and got a message from the ex... It was just a period..... all it was...nothing else....what is she thinking? I didnt answer....She is out of my life and i dont want to talk to her ever again.. I have met a great girl and have been hanging out with her the last couple of days. I just wish the ex could leave me alone.
oppath Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I wouldn't say she is pyscho. She is a bitch, but not pyscho. Breakups are hard on both people and it is so difficult to act completely rational in the immediate aftermath. If she was close to you, and she knew your family, she surely wants to be remembered positively, and she probably does want you in her life in the future in some way because if there weren't qualities on both sides that you enjoyed, you would not have dated in the first place. Her behavior, to me, falls into the realm of normal post breakup behavior, whatever that means, but most of us have been on BOTH sides of it. My ex thinks I went psycho because I asked her not to contact me and I even told some of her friends "don't invite me someplace she may be; I need several months to heal. Hopefully we can eventually be friends, she's a great woman, but I can't be her friend right now." They were flooding my email inbox saying "woohoo, party this weekend." I was just trying to create some space. I would just ignore it if I could do it over again, but when people are in pain, they are likely to act irrationally. But if it helps you to move on thinking your ex is a pyscho, by all means, she is a psychotic hose-beast.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 She has never met my family. They live in the USA. So why should she care. She has never even talked to them before. So I dont know why she would care about that!!
oppath Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Sure...what is she thinking? She misses you. She feels bad about the breakup. She feels bad for hurting you. She wants to be remembered as a good person and she regrets what she has done because she surely feel the loss too. Your brother was cold to her. That hurt her. She reacted. She then realized she overreacted and her period comment is an attempt to save face.
Crestfallen_KH Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I would block her on MSN and wherever else. Don't even give her a chance to communicate with you.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 No face to be saved here! Im done! She can live with that guilt! I dont want any part of it.... I am done! Absolutley done with that trick.... Moving on... Its over and Time to start something new.... I have deleted her from MSN but i will never answer her. She can send whatever she wants....i dont want anything to do with her...i can do better! 5 4 3 0 YAHHH
oppath Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 You are far too angry to start something new, but yes, be done. Just understand that if she is contacting you it is because she feels bad. It is selfish of her, of course, but it is hard for her too. That is her motivation. There will be a time when you reach indifference. I wish that time will arrive swiftly. Right now, being angry is good, but there isn't much point in trying to understand her actions. It will take you time to move on. Be kind to yourself, endure the angry phase, and one day you will remember her without anger, just indifference.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 im not angry at all.... I just dont want a dope head in my life! I have a job where i can not be around that stuff. She is not right for me and everyone knows that. She is the absolutt opposite of me. You dont understand. She is what i like to call a poser. And as of right now she did me a favor. Being angry is not me....i am not a violent person. Personally i can do better. I know i can. i dont want a girlfriend right now. It is only confusing with a girlfirend....i am 27 years old and the best years are ahead of me...
underpants Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Dude, Chill. She is attempting to provoke a reaction from you. Any attention (positive or negative) will distract her from the underlying guilt she feels. She sounds like she enjoys little manipulations and 'bad' drama. Your silence and indifference will be much more painful to her then anything else you could do. She might step up her game a bit more before she finally gives up. Be prepared for more vague and strange contact. My guess is the next thing would be that she ....'needs help' with something. I do hope you are smart enough to not fall for the post break up games. You have acknowledged that she is not the one for you. So if she pops in with a new 'game in the box' just ignore it and let her deal with it. She will get the point eventually and probably move on to someone else. In the mean time address what changes you can make in your life to avoid attracting this element again. Be strong.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 she is not hearing from me in the future man! Trust me i am too good for that! She can have guilt...she will just smoke it or snort it away anyways. hahahaha... she doesnt want me back she already told me...she said she has moved on....so i took that as a step for me. I do not want anything to do with her brother...trust me...its over! I will giver her 0...and i expect 0 back from her.
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