Crowley Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Hi everyone, First time poster here and nervous. I'm a 38 year old, former overweight, now thinner female. It has taken me a while to lose the weight, as I was using it as a "wall" around myself. I was afraid of meeting and dating men and getting hurt. Now that I'm thinner and ready for a relationship longer than 3-4 months, I'm having problems figuring out what to do and how to sustain relationships. I have a lot of male friends that tell me they don't understand why I'm not with someone, as I'm fun to be with, funny, like sports, play sports, etc...I don't want to tell that I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to men and relationships. I am dating, but I get to a point in the relationship and don't know what to do next. I'm 38 but feel like I'm 14 years old (immature) in dating years. I know that there aren't any questions to answer here, I just wanted to get that off my chest. Thanks for "listening".
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Goodo on the weight loss, thats brilliant. Weight & relationships/dating do not go hand in hand, people will find you attractive regardless - took me years to stop thinking "oh I am single because I have a pott belly or because my boobs are too big" I did lose a little weight but was at my biggest only a size 14-16 now 12 (UK). Perhaps the length thing is more them not wanting to commit, or you wanting them too and pressuring (I don;t know am just trying to find out more). Think most of the time dating, relationships, should flow fairly naturally you don't need a manual just a few hints and tips along the way perhaps.
Author Crowley Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 Goodo on the weight loss, thats brilliant. Weight & relationships/dating do not go hand in hand, people will find you attractive regardless - took me years to stop thinking "oh I am single because I have a pott belly or because my boobs are too big" I did lose a little weight but was at my biggest only a size 14-16 now 12 (UK). Perhaps the length thing is more them not wanting to commit, or you wanting them too and pressuring (I don;t know am just trying to find out more). Think most of the time dating, relationships, should flow fairly naturally you don't need a manual just a few hints and tips along the way perhaps. Thanks for the reply...Im fine in the beginning of the relationship and then a switch gets flipped and I become clingy...I need to stop that. So, you're right, I'm doing something that's making the relationship end. I will be on here a lot asking for hints and tips along the way. BTW, I used to live in the UK in Ascot. I loved it there. I can't wait to go back for a visit.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Thanks for the reply...Im fine in the beginning of the relationship and then a switch gets flipped and I become clingy...I need to stop that. So, you're right, I'm doing something that's making the relationship end. I will be on here a lot asking for hints and tips along the way. BTW, I used to live in the UK in Ascot. I loved it there. I can't wait to go back for a visit. I was the same, so I looked into why I got clingy and found the reasons behind it and dealt with them so is worth sitting & doing some work on that. Just chill the less we hang onto them the more they seem to come nearer!! Ascot, mmm I have been to the races a few times nice place.
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