clueless

[sid33]

Having been out of the dating scene for awhile, I am needing some advice please. I recently met a young lady who has really captured my interest. As I know nothing about dating (was in a few very long LTRs)

I do not know anything about how much to chase, is she playing hard to get, coming on too strong etc. The lasrt one in particular. While heading home after the second date, I received a text: "forgot to thank you for the coffee" replied ur welcome forgot to mention you looked nice today. To much? And we sent a few text back and forth during the following week. One text asked what's up with me, replied with the usual small talk and that there was this girl I seem to be thinking about and that I should have called her by now.(she knew it was her I was thinking about) Again, too much information.? So I called thursday nite, got the voicemail, and left a short message, call me I'm up til 10:30. Got a text at 11, "sorry I missed calling by the time. talk to you later, nite then. So I called the next nite and left the same message, changed the time until 11. She called back just about eleven. Had a nice conversation for ten minutes. Asked her if she was busy for Sunday, and she told me she had work to do for her degree. I understood I didn't mind as I don't know if it was rejection or she really was busy. I guess I'm wanting to know if there is such thing as a mercy call, and she's not interested and called as to not hurt my feelings? Or did I reveal too much earlier on? Also I realize everyone is different and there is no way to know what someone else is really thinking. I would love some opinions. I do not want to make any mistakes that can be avoided. Thanks for your help

[tomwiz]

I'd say your doing OK so far, just ratchet it back a little bit. Sunday is typically a day to work on some stuff, maybe not a whole lot of personal time. I'd just wait a few days, call her and ask her to do something this weekend. You havent really screwed up yet.