nydia38 Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Here is my story, wish to have some insights Me and P started dating on Thanksgiving last year, we dated for 6 months. During this time, it was bittersweet. I was deeply in love with him, but I felt he was running away from me the same time he was dating me ( the door to his heart was guarded). He broke up with me in April. The resason being that although he cared great deal about me but there was something missing. He thinks we are not a match. For two months, we had no communication at all. I felt I lost the world during that time, while to to cope with the pain, my live went on. It had to. In about the end of June, we reconnected through a mutual friend's goodbye party, I can tell he was nervous and his eyes were on me when he thought I was not paying attention. The silent for weeks. So I called to say hello and then he e-mail me about he wanted to take me out to celebrate my birthday. We had been e-mailing each other everyday until my birthday. It was great birhtday, very remenescence and just like how we were still dating before. He even slip and called me "sweetie", that was how he called me when we were still dating. we have been speding a lot of time together ever since, every single weekend. He did a lot of things that only boyfriend would do to a girlfriend. we shares each others plate and a cup when we eat, he will wipe things out of my face, my lip, and my hair. 2 months later, I asked him about us and kissed him. Well, he told me he just wanted to be friend. I was not happy but accepted it. So we still sees each other but I started accepting dates from others and even joined online dating. Two weeks ago, he kept asking me to meet couple of his friends who travled from chicago. he has known them for 18 years. I finallly said yes to meet them. We had a blast, and he told me it was cool that I was there becuase those friends are people he cares about the most in his life. Weeks went by, we went to a festival yesterday. Some conversation occured naturally about relationship in general. The "he cared a lot about me but somthing is missing crap"came up again. I looked into his eyes and says that missing something was you. He didn't know how to respond and quickly changed the subject. He also seems interested in knowing people that I went on dates with. We went to halloween party of his co-workers, someone took picture of me. The pictures were floating around in his work place for joy sharing. Couple guys ask him that "is she your girlfirend?" he said that we dated but we were just friends. Those guys then showed interested in me. P rejected them for me and saied that I am actually dating some guy, ( which I am not, but I think he is not sure). He even told me how he rejected thouse guys, he said " I told them you are dating Mathews.." I did not confirm or deny; nor I have ever told P that I am dating Mathews. The truth was Mathews was a guy I went out with once but didn't continue to see. I am reall confused and tired. I love him and still very much in love with him. But I don't want to keep this "friendship" thing going, I don't know I can take it much more. My heart aches every single time he calls me "buddy". What should I do??
jerbear Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Couple guys ask him that "is she your girlfirend?" he said that we dated but we were just friends. Those guys then showed interested in me. P rejected them for me and saied that I am actually dating some guy, ( which I am not, but I think he is not sure). He even told me how he rejected thouse guys, he said " I told them you are dating Mathews.." I did not confirm or deny; nor I have ever told P that I am dating Mathews. The truth was Mathews was a guy I went out with once but didn't continue to see. I am reall confused and tired. I love him and still very much in love with him. But I don't want to keep this "friendship" thing going, I don't know I can take it much more. My heart aches every single time he calls me "buddy". What should I do?? Sounds like he is keeping you on the side and your not really #1. You're there when he wants you to be there. IMO it is more like a FWB more than a platonic friendship. Is it his decision to weed out potential guys? Maybe you might like them and he will lose out to them or even some of the guys you've dated? The heart aches but you're really a friend/"buddy" and he is not reciprocating the love.
Author nydia38 Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 Jerbear, Thanks for reply. What is FBW???? Do you think I should jut let go of him?
AriaIncognito Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I think he meant FWB - friends with benefits. Sounds like that's what you are to this guy. He sounds like he's keeping you around until he finds someone he wants to be with. Cut him loose NOW because it hurts like heck to get another year down the road and have to do it. I had to do it 6 months ago, so I know all about the pain...
Author nydia38 Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 Thank you, Ariawomen. I think that is very wise. how did you get rid of the pain?
Author nydia38 Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 Thank you, Ariawomen. I think that is very wise. how did you get rid of the pain?
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