Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Right. I got'cha. That's how I used to be with my ex, too... until she ended up leaving me for the guy who was "just a close friend". If you look at the "emotional affair" thread, I'm pretty sure it describes exactly what was going on with them before she left me. I haven't even read it yet, but I'm pretty sure I know what's in there. (yes generalizing, lol) edit - and i loved showing off how hott she was. when she would come by my work and coworkers would drool, i loved it! but i still don't like other guys hitting on her.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Right. I got'cha. That's how I used to be with my ex, too... until she ended up leaving me for the guy who was "just a close friend". If you look at the "emotional affair" thread, I'm pretty sure it describes exactly what was going on with them before she left me. I haven't even read it yet, but I'm pretty sure I know what's in there. (yes generalizing, lol) Ahhh...now it makes sense. She left you for another guy! I don't blame you then for getting peeved at her comments.
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 The comments were when we were still together tho... I got peeved when I could tell she was enjoying the attention, and as she told me about her conversations, I could tell she was flirting back. That kind just made me go "wtf?". I mean I'm all for harmless flirting, I don't care if she does, just don't tell me about it. edit - and thanks. funny part is, now he's in thailand for a year and i have girls all over me, one of whom is her best friend
Ocean-Blue Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 The comments were when we were still together tho... I got peeved when I could tell she was enjoying the attention, and as she told me about her conversations, I could tell she was flirting back. That kind just made me go "wtf?". I mean I'm all for harmless flirting, I don't care if she does, just don't tell me about it. I bet you got annoyed b/c on some level you sensed that she was seeking out such attention (in which case, it is something that should bother you). She was looking for something new while being with you. She was scoping the scene while having your firmly at her side (should things not pan out).
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I bet you got annoyed b/c on some level you sense that she was seeking out such attention (in which case, it is something that should bother you). Yup. But we don't have enough thread-space on this board to go into all the **** that was wrong with my ex and I, lol... I'm so much happier now.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Yup. But we don't have enough thread-space on this board to go into all the **** that was wrong with my ex and I, lol... I'm so much happier now. Glad to hear it. I just hope you don't get annoyed at the next girl you date who comes and tells you something like this. But I'm sure you have enough experience under your belt to know when something is "off" and when it's just an innocent comment.
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Glad to hear it. I just hope you don't get annoyed at the next girl you date who comes and tells you something like this. But I'm sure you have enough experience under your belt to know when something is "off" and when it's just an innocent comment. Thanks, I hope so too. I think now if a girl I was dating/interested in told me some guy asked for her number I'd sh*t-test her right back and say "oh nice, did you give it to him? :p"
Ocean-Blue Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Thanks, I hope so too. I think now if a girl I was dating/interested in told me some guy asked for her number I'd sh*t-test her right back and say "oh nice, did you give it to him? :p" If she's a cool girl, she'll appreciate your humour. However, if she's sensitive, you're likely to get a slap or at least a stomp on the floor and perhaps a few choice words.
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 If she's a cool girl, she'll appreciate your humour. However, if she's sensitive, you're likely to get a slap or at least a stomp on the floor and perhaps a few choice words. I actually did get a slap out of one of my female friends recently (not for that though) and then we had a good laugh out of it cuz I made fun of her for slapping me. I like the feisty ones...
Ocean-Blue Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I actually did get a slap out of one of my female friends recently (not for that though) and then we had a good laugh out of it cuz I made fun of her for slapping me. I like the feisty ones... Cause the feisty ones are usually the more sincere of the bunch. All that sugar and honey usually masks a darker, more sinister kind of woman...
shadowplay Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I guess my bf's in the minority but he seems to want to know about other guys hitting me. Either it's insecurity that I'll leave him or an ego boost. I don't know. He also asks me if I have crushes on other guys occasionally.
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I guess my bf's in the minority but he seems to want to know about other guys hitting me. Either it's insecurity that I'll leave him or an ego boost. I don't know. He also asks me if I have crushes on other guys occasionally. That's insecurity, sorry. He feels threatened... :/
Lyssa Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Cause the feisty ones are usually the more sincere of the bunch. All that sugar and honey usually masks a darker, more sinister kind of woman... My BF told me once that I can be feisty and that turns him on.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Some guys think it's a turn on if someone else wants their SO. It also reassures the woman that she is desirable to others and that she has options, but she chooses to stay committed to you. Who wouldn't be turned on to that????
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Some guys think it's a turn on if someone else wants their SO. It also reassures the woman that she is desirable to others and that she has options, but she chooses to stay committed to you. Who wouldn't be turned on to that???? I like showing off my GF when I have one, but she's not a trophy. She's MY prize because I love her. If other people check her out, fine, but it doesn't give me a boost or anything. As for the feisty ones... yeah, me too.
starlite Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I didnt read all the posts because it was just too much...but as to why I believe women do this?? It is because they want you to know that you are not the only man out there that wants them, that they have options...so treat them right or they can find someone else. I have done this before (it was years ago) because I felt as though I was being taken for granted. It was a stupid game, not one I will play now...but that was my reason for doing it. Got him back on his toes and working to be with me...rather than dying down after 4 months!
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I didnt read all the posts because it was just too much...but as to why I believe women do this?? It is because they want you to know that you are not the only man out there that wants them, that they have options...so treat them right or they can find someone else. I have done this before (it was years ago) because I felt as though I was being taken for granted. It was a stupid game, not one I will play now...but that was my reason for doing it. Got him back on his toes and working to be with me...rather than dying down after 4 months! Thanks for being honest. That's exactly what I was driivng at through this whole thread.
Author analyseThis Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 You found out that she made it all up? yes more than a couple of my x's were making some of these fictitious pick ups to raise there own ego; some kind of ego boost/ technique to let me know that I am not the only one out there for her. But that goes both ways there are always other girls for a guy as well. As phatless noted; I really dont see the point of such disclosures especially the ones that are made up. First few times or maybe if it is a funny story then it worth the laugh; but repeatedly it definitely gets boring and makes one wonder if theres an ulterior motive to such disclosures. Going back to what Krytie TV said; its not a pick up unless some one knows about it. Although; I dont understand why if a guy just looks at a girl that is also revealed to her bf.
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Thanks, analyzethis - that's exactly what i mean. you should have seen my ex get bent when i told her about girls flirting with me and checking me out. <shakes head>
bish Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I have a serious question; I have noticed several times over the past few girls I have dated they keep telling me this guy tried to pick her up here; this guy tried to pick her up there...etc..etc...my current girl (if she is that) does this to me as well. They all seem to try to make me believe they are the hottest stuff in the world and everyones chasing after em. My question is to what end? Ok so some one tried to pick u up? :$ Are you trying to make me jealous? The thing is I don't get jealous easy; something with the way I was conditioned i guess. It takes a lot to feel jealousy within me, why even bother talking like that and half of the time i feel like they just lie their hats off. So why do women do this? My stbXW did the same thing. Told me about guys coming on to her. turned out...she spread her legs for them...she was telling me a half truth to reflect my suspicions away in case someone ever ratted her out. then she could say something like, "I told you about that guy...and now this is just a rumor". So I'd be very leary of that. It could be she boned them and is telling you a half truth to cover herself in the future if she gets ratted on.
Author analyseThis Posted November 7, 2007 Author Posted November 7, 2007 Thanks, analyzethis - that's exactly what i mean. you should have seen my ex get bent when i told her about girls flirting with me and checking me out. <shakes head> no problem man; well good thing shes your ex then
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