niceandslow Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 So everybody has had "the talk" at some point in their life. You know when you bring up exclusivity and where the relationship is heading. In my past, I have always had bad luck when bringing it up because things usually end soon after. So I was wondering, when do you think is it a good time to have the talk? Like how far into the relationship. And what is the best way to bring it up?
whichwayisup Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 How long have you been in the relationship right now? It's different for everyone, but I think once you start having sex, that's a pretty good time to bring it up. Or before you have sex. Last thing anyone wants to deal with is being told after intimacy, "sorry, I don't want to be in serious committed relationship."
Timberlane Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Well, a very bad time to bring it up is during dinner on the third date. And to clarify, by "the talk" I mean relentless discussions of children, living together, and picking apart what you are doing with your life. Seriously, I had this sort of experience once years ago with a divorced woman that was/is fairly hyper. I had gotten out of a five year relationship and here she was talking about having children together. She did this twice in two weeks, at which point I had to break off the relationship. I think she is a great person and she finally met a guy that compliments her, but I really think all you should discuss is not having sex with other people. The rest is way, way down the road.
shadowplay Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Well, a very bad time to bring it up is during dinner on the third date. And to clarify, by "the talk" I mean relentless discussions of children, living together, and picking apart what you are doing with your life. Seriously, I had this sort of experience once years ago with a divorced woman that was/is fairly hyper. I had gotten out of a five year relationship and here she was talking about having children together. She did this twice in two weeks, at which point I had to break off the relationship. I think she is a great person and she finally met a guy that compliments her, but I really think all you should discuss is not having sex with other people. The rest is way, way down the road. Woah, that's creepy.
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