rosie84 Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Hello, any tips would be appreciated for i am useless at these things! Basically, i began working in a new place 6months ago and saw a guy around who i have developed a huge crush on over time. We have spoken very briefly a few times, i mean exhanged "hi" in the corridor etc. He always stares when he sees me and once i turned around to wait for my friend and he was stood watching me. It made my heart skip a beat and i smiled. I really do like this guy. Unfortunately i cannot let him know at work incase i get into trouble and also incase i make a fool of myself. I would like to get to know him as a friend first but he is often unapproachable- i cannot tell whether he is shy or quiet or that perhaps i am picking up signals that are not there and he just does not like me. I know he has a myspace and a facebook and on a friends advice, i created a profile on one of these and may or may not add him. Do you think this is silly? I would just like to get to know him neutrally before i tell him i like him, i am quite wary about relationships. In any event i would love a new friend even if we are not going to be together! I don't know his email address to contact him so would have to do it via an online networking site. I cannot do it at work, also i am leaving in two weeks to pursue something else. I will remain in the area though so this is not an issue. Should i wait until after i have left the workplace permanently before i make contact? According to what i know about him, he is a quiet guy and would like to be in a relationship- he is a bit older than i am but not so much that it is a big issue. I think we could get along great as friends, i am just so nervous around people due to low confidence that i am frightened of making a bad situation or scaring him/ coming across weird. My confidence is something i have to work on but that will be a long process and i don't want to wait ten years or so before i can approach a man that i think i would get along with. Sorry for the length. Also sorry i am Swedish so if my English is bad i apologise. Many thanks
brothermartin Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I would say if you've caught the guy looking without breaking eye contact and gotten a smile back from him, he's interested. As a man I really appreciate a woman that will make the first move, I have moments when Im shy and not feeling very confident, so I understand what you mean. You could just try introducing yourself, any icebreaker will do.
chasingmissamy Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Since you are leaving your job soon, it sounds like a going away party is in order! So, talk to some work friends, set it up, and go to him and hand him an invitation with your phone number and e-mail address on it. That way you get to know one another in a social situation and he has your e mail and phone number to get in touch with you
brothermartin Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Since you are leaving your job soon, it sounds like a going away party is in order! So, talk to some work friends, set it up, and go to him and hand him an invitation with your phone number and e-mail address on it. That way you get to know one another in a social situation and he has your e mail and phone number to get in touch with you Wow! Thats a great idea! Good one MISSAMY!
chasingmissamy Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I have them once in a while Not often, but once in a while!
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