LostD8 Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Ok well, this could take some time to explain, but id really like some advice on this one... Ill start at the very beginning so the situation is very clear. Here goes... Ive got this friend (a girl), lets call her Kathy, and i was chating to her at the beginning of the year while on campus, and one of her other friends (umm, lets call her Betty) showed up. I was really attracted to her, but at the time, she was in a relationship. We didnt talk much. Now about 3 months ago, at another friends party, me and betty started getting along, and i soon found out she was single now, so i thought, well this is my chance. So i kept on talking and flirting with her. We totally clicked, and we chatted until we were the only ones left at the party. I got her number, and left for home. Now from what ive heard, its better to be unpredictable, and not call very soon, so i only called 2 days later. She was excited to hear from me and invited me over for "Coffee". We talked alot, and at the end of the night, we had to most amazing kiss. 2 days later, she invited me over again, this time things heated up a little, and we got passionate. We agreed that we were "Together" now. We had lotse fun together but after 2 weeks, she said that one of her old friends, which she dated 5 years ago, (for only 2 weeks) made contact with her, and that she still has feelings for him, but they cant be together because this guy is her brothers best friend and that her brother doesnt approve of them dating. So we broke up. A month later, on her birthday, i joined her and her friends for a drink to celebrate, and she said that i must come over afterwards because she wants to talk to me. I did, and after speaking, i just out of nowhere, decided to lean over and kiss her. She didnt pull away, and said that im a good chaser. Things heated up again, and i had the best night of my life. The next morning, she text messaged me saying that it didnt mean anything. Now from here i got lost. I know she just wanted some unattached fun, but now about 2 weeks ago, i went over again. Ended up kissing again, but this time, before doing anything else, i asked her what she wants from me, if she wants to be in a relationship with me or if she just wants to have unattached fling. She answered saying that she wants to be in a relationship with me, but not now. Heres her explanation: She says that she is going away for 3 months, for holiday, and when she is gone, she will get lonely, and she might have a fling with someone else. She says she doesnt want to do that to me. And another reason is so that she can sort herself out while on holiday. And when she gets back, she'll see what happens. Im willing to wait for her, but will i be making the right choice. Or am i just setting my self up to get hurt. Now ive been through alot of these type of situations, but she is different. All i think about is her. Ive never felt about a girl the way i feel about her. Im willing to go the distance for her. Please, any advice will be appreciated.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Don't wait for her in the sense that you will be committed until she returns. As I see it, you have two choices: 1. Be willing to meet and see other people (as she has suggested) and see what happens when she comes back. 2. End it and see if she contacts you when she gets back. Go out, have fun and do what's best for you.
Author LostD8 Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 Thanks for the great advice. Theres just one little problem i left out. Ive had many relationships, but ive only loved one girl before. That was 3 years ago. This girl made contact with me again, and it seems she wants me back. I know her inside out, but i also know that she has commitment issues, that being the reason we broke up. So i dont know if i should give my old gf a chance, or should i pick option 1 and be open to meeting new people, and then see what happens with "Betty". At the moment, if i had to pick between the girl i used to love, and "Betty", id pick Betty.
Author LostD8 Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 I know i probably should already be forgetting about her, but i cant. She is on my mind 24/7. I cant have a conversation with another girl without having "BETTY" floating around... Spoke to her on the phone last night, and she said im a crappy "chaser", except for the poem i wrote her, which she really liked. In other words she WANTS me to chase her. But if kissing doesnt count as chasing, and the romantic things like poems does, how must i know how to be a "GOOD" chaser?
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