birdmadgirl Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 After being stood up four times in the space of a week by the guy I've referenced in all my posts, I'm convinced that he's Just Not That Into Me. I would be a fool to believe anything else at this point, I think. I got some really lame excuse when he called me the next day in each instance, followed by an offer to get together that evening (which resulted in my waiting up until 1 in the morning for no reason at all). I should've nipped it in the bud after the first no-show, but I suppose my inner optimist took over. Ah, well. Bygones, eh?
quankanne Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 optimism is not a bad thing … though that's a jerky thing to do to someone, standing them up. My guess is that he never bothered to call to say he wasn't able to get in that night, just a "sorry about that" the next morning? best thing to do is chalk it up to a learning experience. In his defense, he *may* have had a valid reason for not making y'alls get-together, but a true gentleman would have alerted you immediately, IMO. are you okay about this let-down? *sigh* people can be such JERKS!
Author birdmadgirl Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 My guess is that he never bothered to call to say he wasn't able to get in that night, just a "sorry about that" the next morning? Not even the next morning. In one instance, he called two days later to apologize and offer to "catch up" with me later that evening. Then he called me at just after 1 a.m. to tell me he was too tired to make it over. I told him not to bother, but he insisted on seeeing me. Then, he stood me up two nights in a row, both times calling the next day to tell me he had stayed out too late to make it over at a decent hour. In his defense, he *may* have had a valid reason for not making y'alls get-together... He may have, which is why I gave him the benefit of the doubt the first two times. The second two, it was for my amusement. In retrospect, I should've formed betting pools based on which zany excuse he'd come up with next. At least I'd have earned a few bucks off the whole ordeal. ;-) are you okay about this let-down? *sigh* people can be such JERKS! I have to say that I'm pretty disappointed. I really expected more from this guy, as he seemed very different from anyone else I've dated in the past few years. Different, as I'm learning, is not necessarily better. Thanks for your response!
Author birdmadgirl Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 My guess is that he never bothered to call to say he wasn't able to get in that night, just a "sorry about that" the next morning? Not even the next morning. In one instance, he called two days later to apologize and offer to "catch up" with me later that evening. Then he called me at just after 1 a.m. to tell me he was too tired to make it over. I told him not to bother, but he insisted on seeeing me. Then, he stood me up two nights in a row, both times calling the next day to tell me he had stayed out too late to make it over at a decent hour. In his defense, he *may* have had a valid reason for not making y'alls get-together... He may have, which is why I gave him the benefit of the doubt the first two times. The second two, it was for my amusement. In retrospect, I should've formed betting pools based on which zany excuse he'd come up with next. At least I'd have earned a few bucks off the whole ordeal. ;-) are you okay about this let-down? *sigh* people can be such JERKS! I have to say that I'm pretty disappointed. I really expected more from this guy, as he seemed very different from anyone else I've dated in the past few years. Different, as I'm learning, is not necessarily better. Thanks for your response!
quankanne Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 In retrospect, I should've formed betting pools based on which zany excuse he'd come up with next. At least I'd have earned a few bucks off the whole ordeal. :p there you go!
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Cut your losses and dump the call then next time he calls you. No time for games.....
Author birdmadgirl Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 Cut your losses and dump the call then next time he calls you. I beat him to the punch. Before he had a chance to pull another no-show this evening, I just sent him an email telling him not to bother. I'm feeling kind of low now, to be honest, but I'd rather feel low with the firm knowledge that I can retire early tonight to the comfort of my recliner, carton of Haagen Dazs in hand, rather than rush to the bathroom every ten minutes to touch up my makeup whilst waiting for him to make an appearance. ;-)
Author birdmadgirl Posted November 6, 2007 Author Posted November 6, 2007 So after I had changed into pajamas and washed off all my makeup so I could have a good cry without streaking my mascara, there was a knock at my door. It was the guy. He asked if he could come up and chat, so I let him in. We sat and made small talk for a few minutes before he said... *drumroll!* "Let's just be friends." I was torn between wanting to cry (again) and asking him if he sleeps with all of his friends or makes a huge production of getting them to accept his myriad mental/emotional issues before dropping the Friend-bomb on them. In the end, I laughed hysterically for a minute or so before asking him to leave. I could sit and pick apart his reasons for wanting to keep things friendly and possibly make myself feel terrible in the process. Frankly, though, I don't have the energy. And again, it doesn't matter. The bottom line is that I didn't 'do it' for him. And that's fine. I suppose I'm impressed by the fact that he came over to tell me in person, but his actions had already clued me into his waning interest long before he showed up on my doorstep to break it off. So, I guess that's it!
quankanne Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 damn, girl, this guy's turning out to be less of a prince than he could be. Because while the offer to remain friends is a nice thought, you just DON"T lead someone on the way he has you. of all the responses you could have given him, laughing at his suggestions was probably the best. Because it gives him an idea that he means that little to you, that he is expendable the way he's treated you. This is being churlish, but I'm glad you had the last word – he could have handled this much, much better. hugs, q
Ima littleconfused Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Not to point out the painstakingly obvious, but you are much better without this fool. There are plenty of real men out there that actually show up when they are supposed to
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