waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 ok well i was on strict 8 days NC! I broke it today. We were together for 8 months and she broke it off with me. I wrote her this email. Hei. I just wanted to say hi and I hope you are good. I have been really busy with school and moving so it has been a very busy week. I hope everything is good with you. That is all I wrote. Is that so harmful? Or was it good to show her that I am over her probably? There is no begging there or anything. What do you think. I feel bad that I broke the NC but oh well. I doubt I will get anything back but we will see!
tinktronik Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 It is an obvious attempt at reaching out to her "just to show her you are moving on" situation . I would suggest you continue on with NC and absolutly stick to it this time.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 yeah i regret it now. I wont get anything back. So it looks like I had 8 days of nc now i am back to zero. I will just start again today. The good thing is that it is never to late to start nc again. I know we are not meant for each other. If it is meant to be then it will be. But she will not answer me i know that for a fact. But oh well...life goes on right??
funkybassplayer Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 yeah i regret it now. I wont get anything back. So it looks like I had 8 days of nc now i am back to zero. I will just start again today. The good thing is that it is never to late to start nc again. I know we are not meant for each other. If it is meant to be then it will be. But she will not answer me i know that for a fact. But oh well...life goes on right?? If she was a happy bunny youd get back, a hi and a nice reply, but at this stage, shes also going through it as well, and sometimes silence is also a comunication. But for now, dont worry you reached out, ok, you did it for a reply, which is not always the best way to send things, but never the less you made contact. In the scale of things its not important. What is important is reaching out should be done when you feel in a place that feels right to you, cos it will be sent with the right message, and vibe. We are only human with weakness. Its not a crime.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 Thanks funkybass....you the man! Yeah I did it for an answer....she has been putting up lots of pictures on her profile of my hometown that I took when she wasnt even with me....I do not know why. I still love her with all my heart! She is the apple in my eye...but if it doesnt work out, then it doesnt work out....nothing else to say. I have been dreading the day to break no contact but no i am like...if it doesnt work then it will never work.... What should my process be now? Just to keep moving on or what?
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 Got a message back!!! she wrote. I am not going to complain about my days. It is almost winter and things are getting better and better Should i write something back or should I let it go? I want to be with this girl more than ever
Crestfallen_KH Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 I wouldn't take that as encouragement to continue. It was a "just saying hi" kind of thing. Go back to NC. You were lucky to get what you got, don't set yourself up to get disappointed for sure.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 yeah i put my heart on the line and got crushed. Oh well at least i tried. Sent another message and got crushed. She said that she didnt want contact with me no more. SO i guess it is back to nc. Oh well... I will get over it!
funkybassplayer Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 like i said b4 she gave you the happy message back, means shes moved on. Now look at that as closure, and start your own healing. Most have to wait months for that. you now have it. Concentrate on you now and be strong, keep posting. Sometimes we send something in a deep down act to get the responce that you got, b/c that will help you to move on.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 Yeah i got it all right. She said that she has moved on. I dont care if she has a new man. I will find someone one day. I hope!
funkybassplayer Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Yeah i got it all right. She said that she has moved on. I dont care if she has a new man. I will find someone one day. I hope! Yes but dont make the mistake of just jumping in b/c she has. Only look for new if you really feel ok to, b/c it can be miss world, but if your in love with another, it wont matter an inch. Its not always the way,maybe take a bit of time out for you and give to you. There is strenth in being single. It shows independance, a willing to learn about you and respect for your self, and the end of the relationship. Its like an interval between films. If you dont have a break, your mind will fill up and lose whats its all about.
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