spookie Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Would you? Why or why not? This guy I am seeing.... on the one hand, I totally get why he is doing it (the money is good, he needs the money = it's a smart choice, and there are worse professions). I would too if I could. But on the other... I guess I'm prejudiced. I guess I think it's vain and shallow and it's hard for me to respect this career choice (though it helps to know it's temporary and he does intend on becoming something else). Back on the first hand, he's a great guy, and who am I (a cocktail waitress at a strip club) to judge? What do you guys think? And would you date a male model?
Lyssa Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 I've dated two male models. Both younger than I am. The first one was actually 18 but he told me he was 23. We met at an after-party for one of the shows and he was funny (yeah back then that was enough for me!). We talked and hit it off. We got along well. One day, we went shopping together and he tried on a few clothes. He ended up doing the catwalk. Oh and he also stopped to check himself out at every mirror we passed. After that he became way too vain for me. I'm a woman and even I am not THAT vain!! The second model was also younger. We shared the same circle of friends and always hung out together. It would have worked between us but he was getting involved in acting so that took a lot of his free time. We didn't get to see each other as often. I don't mind dating a model but I would prefer a model with a higher education level. I was young then and it was easy to date one at that time as I was around them a lot but now, I'd rather go for professionals or anyone with a brain. That really stimulates me. Models with higher education can always do something else when they are not wanted in the scene anymore or they can always work full time and do freelance modeling.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 I agree, I would not date someone who was more interested in checking themselves out all the flippin time that being into his date/gf/so.
Author spookie Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 I agree, I would not date someone who was more interested in checking themselves out all the flippin time that being into his date/gf/so. Would that be the only reason you wouldn't date one? This particular guy is probably the most attentive person I've ever dated, if that changes anything. I haven't seen him checking himself out yet. The only indication of vanity so far is his complex diet and workout regimen, which he follows obsessively.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Would that be the only reason you wouldn't date one? This particular guy is probably the most attentive person I've ever dated, if that changes anything. I haven't seen him checking himself out yet. The only indication of vanity so far is his complex diet and workout regimen, which he follows obsessively. At the end of the day, its you choice and you know if you are seeing red flags. I was just saying if I went out with one and he was always checking himself out in shop windows etc I'd probably question it. I got offered to go on a date from the internet by "James sexyface, probably the best looking male on the planet" I kid you not, this is what he calls himself on MSN. This with his list of do's n don'ts including well a girl has to watch movies I like but I will not watch a chick flick ever, so would you like to go out with someone as good looking as me!!! Sounded far to up his own @rse for my liking. Needless to say I changed my mind, and we never went out and never will.
dbtmarley Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 I saw the thread and felt compelled to make it known I would not date a male model. I would date a retired female model. Why? Because that's when they put on a little extra weight.
JosieMcCoy Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Sure! I don't stereotype people by their professions! That's almost racist!!!! Everyone is different I think! Cheers!
Lizzie60 Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Would you? Why or why not? This guy I am seeing.... on the one hand, I totally get why he is doing it (the money is good, he needs the money = it's a smart choice, and there are worse professions). I would too if I could. But on the other... I guess I'm prejudiced. I guess I think it's vain and shallow and it's hard for me to respect this career choice (though it helps to know it's temporary and he does intend on becoming something else). Back on the first hand, he's a great guy, and who am I (a cocktail waitress at a strip club) to judge? What do you guys think? And would you date a male model? I have dated one and seen another one for only one night... The one I dated for over a year, was the most beautiful guy on the face of the earth (tall 6'3", east indian, beautiful face, hair)... aahhhh... anyway.. he was a player... I found out he was seeing me and also another woman... I dumped him on the spot... the other woman went on a deep depression. Are they shallow? Mine were... very much so... they only love themselves...
Cobra_X30 Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Models too much drama in their lives. LL, I see you took my advice and put up an attractive Avvie! Maybe some of the guys here will at least pretend to listen to you now! Spookie, In regards to male models, remember the selective pressure is against you on having a lasting relationship. You dont live in a bubble.
Ariadne Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Oh, Of course I'd date a male model. Is just that a male model wouldn't date me Yeah, it sucks, Ariadne
littlekitty Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Spookie, my Hubby is an ex male model and also ex male stripper!! I clearly have no problem with it since I married him!! He was a member of well known UK male dance troop like the Chippendales. He is now a mild mannered Online Marketing Manager. He is sensative, loving, caring, kind, generous, wonderful, intelligent and many other wonderful traits. He simply fell into that line of work from a young age and stayed there because he enjoyed the money it provided. He is no more vain than any reasonably good looking man can be. He likes to dress well and take reasonable care of his looks. But he's not constantly staring into the mirror instead of my eyes! He does look after his body, he goes to the gym every day and eats healthily, but so do I!! It's good to look after your body, it's the most incredible tool, and if it breaks down so do you! He's looked after his body since he was 16 and 15 years later he still does. What's wrong with that. He's happy to relax and eat what he wants and enjoy himself whenever he wants to. It never stops us having fun. And we are both fit and healthy people.
littlekitty Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Sure! I don't stereotype people by their professions! That's almost racist!!!! Everyone is different I think! Cheers! Here, here Josie. It is a form of racisim. Don't judge a book by the cover, lift the pages and see what's inside, it might surprise you. Just because some are vain, not all are.
littlekitty Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Models too much drama in their lives. And you built that opinion on what exactly?
littlekitty Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 PS. I never judged my hubby for stripping. It's not at all like you'd think it is. And working in strip bar you probably know that. So why judge him for his profession?
littlekitty Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 I'm not into dudes. :laugh: No sh*t Tan!!
LoisLane Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 LL, I see you took my advice and put up an attractive Avvie! Maybe some of the guys here will at least pretend to listen to you now! I'm sorry but are you trying to side lyssa here or are you just rude?
shadowplay Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Knowing a guy was a model would be a bit of a turnoff but it wouldn't be a dealbreaker. If he's not vain or superficial and it's only a temporary job to make some money on the side, I don't think it's a big deal. From your description he sounds a like a nice guy, so I would definitely give him a chance. Given your history you really need (and deserve) a guy in your life who treats you well.
oppath Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 I'm not into dudes either, but if he can do the wink-and-the-gun pose, pony up! Judge someone based on their CHARACTER. Just make sure you don't ignore incompatible character traits thinking "but he is so cute." As a guy, I've let girls treat me with disrespect because they are good looking and the sex is good. "What the hell, it's not THAT big a deal" I would think. Don't let that happen. You don't have to get into a relationship, just go on a few dates. I've done some sports modeling, I only look into a mirror after I've eaten BBQ or drank koolaid, to see if I have a koolaid smile. Oh Yeah!
Author spookie Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 I'm not into dudes either, but if he can do the wink-and-the-gun pose, pony up! Judge someone based on their CHARACTER. Just make sure you don't ignore incompatible character traits thinking "but he is so cute." As a guy, I've let girls treat me with disrespect because they are good looking and the sex is good. "What the hell, it's not THAT big a deal" I would think. Don't let that happen. You don't have to get into a relationship, just go on a few dates. I've done some sports modeling, I only look into a mirror after I've eaten BBQ or drank koolaid, to see if I have a koolaid smile. Oh Yeah! I won't get into a relationship unless I know he may be the right person for me, and so far I don't have enough info. Though I haven't ignored any red flags or obvious incompatibilities yet (there haven't been any), I AM noticing how easy it is to mistake cute for nice/interesting. He is so pretty to look at .
Author spookie Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 Spookie, my Hubby is an ex male model and also ex male stripper!! I clearly have no problem with it since I married him!! He was a member of well known UK male dance troop like the Chippendales. He is now a mild mannered Online Marketing Manager. He is sensative, loving, caring, kind, generous, wonderful, intelligent and many other wonderful traits. He simply fell into that line of work from a young age and stayed there because he enjoyed the money it provided. He is no more vain than any reasonably good looking man can be. He likes to dress well and take reasonable care of his looks. But he's not constantly staring into the mirror instead of my eyes! He does look after his body, he goes to the gym every day and eats healthily, but so do I!! It's good to look after your body, it's the most incredible tool, and if it breaks down so do you! He's looked after his body since he was 16 and 15 years later he still does. What's wrong with that. He's happy to relax and eat what he wants and enjoy himself whenever he wants to. It never stops us having fun. And we are both fit and healthy people. You both look gorgeous in your avatar! And I agree, it is good to look after your body... I look after mine as well but not as compulsively as he.
daphne Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 spookie, I dated a former model a few months back. I've dated a few good looking guys, but I think there's a difference. He has a really strict diet (vegan) and exercises a lot. He also has a sense of entitlement and I would say he was the least attentive guy I've ever dated. Initially he was super attentive and affectionate to get me, but then it dwindled quickly. I don't know that I would recommend going into a relationship with one, from what I've seen. He seems to have a sense of entitlement that a regular guy wouldn't necessarily have. But he didn't check himself out in the mirror that I noticed.
Lyssa Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Are they shallow? Mine were... very much so... they only love themselves... You're so right! They only love themselves! Whenever I hang out with a friend of mine, he keeps asking me what I think of his body. If all his working out has 'done it' for him.. etc. All he does is talk about himself... just like the one I dated that kept checking himself out!!
oppath Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 Come on, I've done some modelilng, and I don't check myself out. I mean, I verify the tickets for the gun show and make sure they aren't fake, but I spend more time talking about how Joyce is too abstruse and Vonnegut is better than about my looks. Geeze people, not all men who have modeled, or modeled on the side, are vain. I mean, it's not like I would tell you that I turned down MIT for graduate school on a first date in an attempt to impress you or anything. Give us a chance.
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