john 07 Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 So ive been going to this one club for a while and have talked to this one girl muliple times. One thing im lacking is knowing how to tease this girl. How do u tease a girl in a playful way?? Also, are there any tips on avoiding awkward silences?? What are interesting fun topics I can talk about with the opposite sex?? Please help with my game. lol.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 With awkward silences... I always find that acknowledging the awkwardness usually works (saying something like "wow, this is awkward"). As for the teasing...varies from girl to girl. Do you mean flirting?
Author john 07 Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 With awkward silences... I always find that acknowledging the awkwardness usually works (saying something like "wow, this is awkward"). As for the teasing...varies from girl to girl. Do you mean flirting? Yeah i guess im looking to find best ways to flirt with the girl to build some hot attraction.
The Loacker Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Bust her balls, make fun of what she's wearing, what she says, how she talks, etc., but all in an endearing and sarcastic way, NEVER in a mean way. You don't want her to get offended, but you do want her to be like, "Oh no you didn't!" with a big smile on her face. If you're not used to doing this, then for God's sake get some practice before trying it out on the poor girl and making her cry. It's basically the same way you make fun of your friends when you're hanging out with them, except you've got to add a female flavor to it.
allina Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Bust her balls, make fun of what she's wearing, what she says, how she talks, etc., but all in an endearing and sarcastic way, NEVER in a mean way. You don't want her to get offended, but you do want her to be like, "Oh no you didn't!" with a big smile on her face. If you're not used to doing this, then for God's sake get some practice before trying it out on the poor girl and making her cry. It's basically the same way you make fun of your friends when you're hanging out with them, except you've got to add a female flavor to it. If some guy I never met before tried teasing me in a playful way I would think it was weird and annoying and leave the conversation. "Teasing" a girl you're interested is fine, in third grade. Since you're talking about a club setting I assume you're 21+, in this case you would have better luck speaking to a woman in a fun, yet adult manner, not "teasing" her.
Lauriebell82 Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 If some guy I never met before tried teasing me in a playful way I would think it was weird and annoying and leave the conversation. "Teasing" a girl you're interested is fine, in third grade. Since you're talking about a club setting I assume you're 21+, in this case you would have better luck speaking to a woman in a fun, yet adult manner, not "teasing" her. Yeah I agree with this. I hate when guys tease me or make fun of me in some way, even jokingly. I think it's immature. I think you would have a better shot jus TALKING to a girl, complimenting her, ect. Girls like mature guys, not some dude who is going to make fun of what she is wearing. Oh, and the "I'm just playin" line after you say something offensive to a girl is really lame and stupid. Don't ever do that..EVER!
The Loacker Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 LOL, well I can tell you that teasing works wonders with girls. You might not think so, but it's true.
allina Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Yeah I agree with this. I hate when guys tease me or make fun of me in some way, even jokingly. I think it's immature. I think you would have a better shot jus TALKING to a girl, complimenting her, ect. Girls like mature guys, not some dude who is going to make fun of what she is wearing. Oh, and the "I'm just playin" line after you say something offensive to a girl is really lame and stupid. Don't ever do that..EVER! A agree with this LOL, well I can tell you that teasing works wonders with girls. You might not think so, but it's true. I don't know, you've got two girls right here who think it's lame and I know that most of my friends, if not all would agree.
Lauriebell82 Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 LOL, well I can tell you that teasing works wonders with girls. You might not think so, but it's true. Must be girls who like immature guys!
allina Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 I wanted to add something. To me teasing shows a lack of confidence, it makes the man/boy look like he he's not secure enough to just speak with a woman, so he jokes around and teases. It's a real turn off.
Lauriebell82 Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 I wanted to add something. To me teasing shows a lack of confidence, it makes the man/boy look like he he's not secure enough to just speak with a woman, so he jokes around and teases. It's a real turn off. I totally agree. I mean yeah, some girls may like that kind of thing but most don't. I have this friend who constantly teases me and says "he's just playin." It's annoying and he's just my friend! I couldn't imagine some guy i'm dating doing that crap. Girls who are seriously interested in getting involved (i assume that's what you are after) probably wouldn't like something like that. Some slutty girl who is just after sex, maybe.
The Loacker Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Must be girls who like immature guys! Heh, claiming maturity by calling me names, eh? Talk about ironic. I don't know what sort of "teasing" you girls are referring to, but I don't mean the obnoxious and annoying high-school teasing. What I'm referring to is more subtle, and is meant in a spirit of fun. It's fun for both parties, not just the guy. I'm sure you've been teased by a guy before, and I'm sure you enjoyed it (if it was done right). Most of the girls I've met enjoyed being teased about this or that; it shows a playful side of you, and it allows you to test whether or not she has a playful side too.
Lauriebell82 Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Heh, claiming maturity by calling me names, eh? Talk about ironic. I don't know what sort of "teasing" you girls are referring to, but I don't mean the obnoxious and annoying high-school teasing. What I'm referring to is more subtle, and is meant in a spirit of fun. It's fun for both parties, not just the guy. I'm sure you've been teased by a guy before, and I'm sure you enjoyed it (if it was done right). Most of the girls I've met enjoyed being teased about this or that; it shows a playful side of you, and it allows you to test whether or not she has a playful side too. The comment wasn't directed to anyone in particular, so I fail to see the irony. Well, what kind of teasing are you referring to? You said before to make fun of a girl's hair, the way she talks ect. Even if that's in a joking capacity some guy that I don't even know is trying to pick me up by joking about my hair and teh way I talk is not my idea of a good time. Give us an example of something you would say, i'm curious...
Author john 07 Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 seems like all you girls dont like to be teased. Then what are somethings you would like to talk about with guys. What kind of questions would you girls like to be asked by guys? What are some good topics? What are ways to avoid awkward silence? One thing i know girls are suckers for are compliments....
The Loacker Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 The comment wasn't directed to anyone in particular, so I fail to see the irony. Well, what kind of teasing are you referring to? You said before to make fun of a girl's hair, the way she talks ect. Even if that's in a joking capacity some guy that I don't even know is trying to pick me up by joking about my hair and teh way I talk is not my idea of a good time. Give us an example of something you would say, i'm curious... Alright so I didn't mean literally make fun of her hair or her clothes, but rather find something unique about her that you can joke about. It doesn't even have to be an article of clothing, but her mannerisms or something she does. For example a while back I was talking to this girl who was telling me about how she drives better than her brother, so our convo went something like this: Me: You drive better than your brother?! Her: Yes! Yes I do! Me: But...you're a woman! (delivered with a sarcastic smile) Now, delivered wrong this could be rather offensive and misogynist, but done in a joking manner it serves to lighten the conversation and gets some laughs (and you have to make sure she knows you're joking, without actually saying that you're joking...that's where the smile comes in). She laughed at it, which built up some rapport between us. All from teasing her lightly. Now if I had gone up to her and been like, "Hey, why do you wash your hair with mud?" I probably would have been slapped. You have to learn to distinguish between offensive and cheeky.
allina Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 seems like all you girls dont like to be teased. Then what are somethings you would like to talk about with guys. What kind of questions would you girls like to be asked by guys? What are some good topics? What are ways to avoid awkward silence? One thing i know girls are suckers for are compliments.... I think when you are approaching a random woman at a club start out safe, a friendly smile or hello is a great first move. This won't look cheesy or creepy, it also lets her let you know she's interested in talking or getting to know you. If she smiles back, makes eye contact or talks back that's a green light to approach her and start a conversation. If she gives you an awkward smile back then quickly shifts her look away she isn't interested in conversation, move on to another girl. If you're talking and you reach an awkward silence don't get nervous. You can say something like "do you want to go get another drink?" or ask her if she wants to go dance. Alright so I didn't mean literally make fun of her hair or her clothes, but rather find something unique about her that you can joke about. It doesn't even have to be an article of clothing, but her mannerisms or something she does. For example a while back I was talking to this girl who was telling me about how she drives better than her brother, so our convo went something like this: Me: You drive better than your brother?! Her: Yes! Yes I do! Me: But...you're a woman! (delivered with a sarcastic smile) Now, delivered wrong this could be rather offensive and misogynist, but done in a joking manner it serves to lighten the conversation and gets some laughs (and you have to make sure she knows you're joking, without actually saying that you're joking...that's where the smile comes in). She laughed at it, which built up some rapport between us. All from teasing her lightly. Now if I had gone up to her and been like, "Hey, why do you wash your hair with mud?" I probably would have been slapped. You have to learn to distinguish between offensive and cheeky. I totally agree that when getting to know someone laughs and light hearted conversation are nice. However, you can achieve this w/o teasing her. With the example of driving that you gave I would not be offended but I would feel like it's very unoriginal and would be turned off and uninterested.
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 backhanded compliments can work well, but it depends on the girl. i am really impressed with a girl who is confident to laugh and smile when i say something along the lines of "wow, i love your dress, it makes you look like a picnic tablecloth" when her dress is red and white or something. you just have to be quick witted, friendly, and a smart-ass, and when something comes up, go for it. if you try too hard it won't come out right.
brothermartin Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 It would'nt go the teasing route. You never know what kind of mood she might be in, or if she even has a sense of humor about herself on that given day. It depends on how much you know about her already. You could ask her how her day was. That can usually get you 10 to 15 mins. of conversation if you know how to roll it over. Another one is asking her what she plans to do for the holidays. But all this depends on what you want from her: sex or commitment. Ask too many questions and you might creep her out. Dont ask enough questions and she might think your not interested.
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 questions like that are boring. everyone asks that. especially at a club, she'll get bored and wander off. at a club, you want to go for banter, energy, sexual chemistry. don't interview her as if you're one of her parents friends whose name she can't remember... go dance with her, play a drinking game, do the whole hand-slappy game... whatever... from her reaction to stuff like that you'll be able to get some kind of reading on how down she is. make fun of her GENTLY and go from there. one of my female friends is a huge smart-ass I literally watch other guys kiss her ass and her eyes glaze over, then i make some small insult and she laughs and looks at me intensely. edit - how's your night going can be a good opener, but it should be only that. or "so what are you drinking?" when she replies you can gently tease her about it like "oh, you're one of those girls..." whatever it takes to get her going. sometimes pushing it a shade too far can be a good thing. every guy in that club will be kissing her ass and afraid of offending her. if you show that you're strong and confident enough that you're not scared of saying the wrong thing, she might be attracted.
The Loacker Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I agree with Phateless, teasing a girl in this way shows confidence, that you're not afraid of what you're saying, you're not just trying to please her, and most importantly you're not BORING! "Boring" is the deathknell of attraction, avoid it at all costs. Plus, if a girl responds to my teasing by acting stuck up, then I know she's not the fun-loving type that I get along with so well. You might say: You never know what kind of mood she might be in, or if she even has a sense of humor about herself on that given day. Well if she's in that mood to begin with, she's not going to be much fun on that day, even if you don't tease her. It's not my job to go around ascertaining whether or not she's in a fun mood today; I'm out there to enjoy myself.
Phateless Posted November 6, 2007 Posted November 6, 2007 I agree with Phateless, teasing a girl in this way shows confidence, that you're not afraid of what you're saying, you're not just trying to please her, and most importantly you're not BORING! "Boring" is the deathknell of attraction, avoid it at all costs. Plus, if a girl responds to my teasing by acting stuck up, then I know she's not the fun-loving type that I get along with so well. You might say: Well if she's in that mood to begin with, she's not going to be much fun on that day, even if you don't tease her. It's not my job to go around ascertaining whether or not she's in a fun mood today; I'm out there to enjoy myself. Agreed. Hell, you might even cheer her up by busting her balls, or you can tease her about being pissy. What you want to get out of her is a strong emotional reaction... even getting under her skin can actually work to your advantage. I once watched one of my best friends hook up with this hott-ass girl by insulting her all night. He called a sleazy disney character, he outright called her a slut! She got mad and kept coming after him like "wtf is your problem!!!" she was pissed... but strong emotions give rise to other strong emotions. Damn right he got with her that night. I watched them interact in fascination, the whole time thinking "wow... i really don't know anything about women, do i?" That was years ago.
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