spywell Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Ill start with the History. I met her almost two years ago and we started dating, a few months later she told me that she kissed another man and then pushed him away and kicked him out of her car. I let that one pass. Later on (maybe 4 months later) we had a fight and a week later she told me that she kissed a man and didnt push him away. I broke up with her then and she begged and begged to get me back and I gave in. She bought me a promise ring and promised she would never cheat on me. A year later (current) she came under a lot of stress, she couldn't pay her bills, she dropped out of college to work more, and she dumped me. She told me she couldnt take it anylonger with me not having a job. She said that if I get a job and straighten my life out that we can get back together in January. I took this real hard thinking I was going to lose her. I got a job two days later. She came over today to give me my stuff and i asked her questions. She said she was thinking about moving to Oklahoma (Sometime after January) and that she has been getting together with friends and stuff. I asked who and she told me and then she said she went to a concert with the guy she cheated on me with a year ago. Now i am crushed I want to get back with her but I cant live with a cheater. I havnt eaten much at all in four days. I have had morning sickness twice and I just have to get back with her. I asked her if I could see her in a month (December) and she said its okay but she WILL NOT get back with me until January. Her Birthday is in December and I really want to get with her before then so I can get her a present. I am a good guy in great muscular shape and I am real good with women and my friends said I could get a new gf easy but I just have to have this one. Preston
jcster Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 She said that if I get a job and straighten my life out that we can get back together in January. I took this real hard thinking I was going to lose her. I got a job two days later. These type of ultimatums rarely ever work out. Why did it take her leaving you for you to go out and get a job? You only did it for her...the same issues are going to remain. And why January? It sounds to me like she has that other guy, who used to be her "spare," but now he is the primary and you are the spare. I think you should move on with your life - if you get back together - then great, but I don't think it's going to happen.
Author spywell Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 These type of ultimatums rarely ever work out. Why did it take her leaving you for you to go out and get a job? You only did it for her...the same issues are going to remain. And why January? It sounds to me like she has that other guy, who used to be her "spare," but now he is the primary and you are the spare. I think you should move on with your life - if you get back together - then great, but I don't think it's going to happen. Well she has been hanging out with her friend a lot now. So I have an idea! I have her friends number so why don't I give her a call and see whats going on and then see if she wont tell my gf that I called. It's a nosy idea but if her friend wants to see us work it out then it might work and give me a little more assurance in this whole thing.
jcster Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 It's a nosy idea but if her friend wants to see us work it out then it might work and give me a little more assurance in this whole thing. I think that's a bad idea. First off, it's one of those silly games that are can be very annoying to the other person - you don't want her to think that you are checking up on her...even though you are. Also, it's a bad idea because it's going to keep you obsessing about this woman when there's nothing you can do about the situation. You really need to chill on this, or you're going to start looking like a stalker.
Author spywell Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 I think that's a bad idea. First off, it's one of those silly games that are can be very annoying to the other person - you don't want her to think that you are checking up on her...even though you are. Also, it's a bad idea because it's going to keep you obsessing about this woman when there's nothing you can do about the situation. You really need to chill on this, or you're going to start looking like a stalker. So what do you think I should do next. I'm not ready to give up on her just yet. I did leave her a voicemail today telling her that I loved her and that I wanted to talk to her before I go out of town for job training. (I know i'm not suppose to call her but I had to) I'm getting very sick and week since I have hardly eaten anything in six days. I cant control my mind and the outcomes that could happen. I have had exactly 6 hours of sleep each day like clockwork. And I usually sleep in all day long. I am purchasing some weight lifting equipment today to upgrade my old equipment to help me take my mind off things. I am really worried though the tests i'm taking out of town need my full concentration they are extremely expensive. Preston
Author spywell Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 Well i'm pretty much over her now. She called me and we got in a fight and she hung up. Then she called me back later and said that she was sorry and that she loved me but didnt love me anymore. And that she was moving in with some guy she worked with and if they started dating then she will have to find a new job (she is manager and the fat ugly neardy guy she left me for is the general manager) She said that he understood her more. And I knew things were getting bad because I was loosing trust in her because the was seeing so many people behind my back. She also told me that for the last month or so we have been having a fake relationship were she only told me she loved me to make me happy. But this isn't so bad because I have never seen anyone with so many problems in my life. She causes stress on herself and then has a meltdown and throws something out of her life... this time it was me. Im just glad I was able to get her on her feet... when I found her she was on the verge of suicide and trying to get away from her parents. Thank you, Preston
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