DazedandConfused66 Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 I think you've got several issues here. 1) The paternity of the baby. Personally, I'm doubtful it could be the OM's if, indeed, you are pregnant. I'm a bit confused by your postings as to whether you know for a fact you are or not at this point? Sounds like you are about to find out regardless. 2) STD's...which it sounds like you've gotten yourself checked to ensure that's not an issue. 3) BIGGEST ISSUE: Stress. Do you have any idea the danger you place on your unborn child (if you are pregnant) by dealing with the guilt that you got yourself drunk enough to lose control (drinking and pregnancy don't mix, but I assume you know this) -AND- the first thing you ended up doing under those circumstances was getting nekkid with a co-worker and allowing him to place his penis inside of you. That tells me you've got some other issues in the M that you've not disclosed or that wouldn't have happened in the first place....the getting drunk part was a catalyst, but the root cause was you allowed yourself to be in that position with a potential lover in the first place. Now you've got worries about paternity and you'll be carrying a child for 9 months while you deal with this. Then, once you have the baby, you'll let your H hold it, fall in love with the baby, thinking the last 9 months were special for both of you and you've made a baby together (assuming the stress of all of this doesn't harm you or the baby). THEN.....SURPRISE HONEY!!!!! I had an affair the same month I got pregnant and although I'm pretty sure it's yours, I wanted to tell you now! I'm sorry....that's just terrible advice from your therapist. Could you possibly BE more selfish and cruel as to set him up to get such devastating news by using the baby as reconciliation bait? What kind of person are you and what kind of person is this therapist? Do you have NO values? If you feel bad about what you've done as you've stated you have an OBLIGATION to not set your husband up like this. Yes....I'm judging you.....I'm judging you that you aren't as cruel as this. You made a mistake. If you love your H, you'll fix this NOW. Not set him up for even greater pain thinking the next 9 months of what should be serious bonding time were faked on your part as you continued to hide your mistake. That's just setting this M up for failure. You made a mistake and it wasn't just getting drunk. Throw yourself on your husbands mercy and beg forgiveness. Your stress levels will drop and you CAN have a healthy baby without the added stress of knowing you are living a lie with him.
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