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I recently ran into a teen sweetheart I haven't seen for a long, long time. We've been emailing quite a bit over the last few months. I'm interested in seeing her romantically, but have been trying not to let on in our online conversations (fear that she might not feel the same. I've pasted our emails below, hoping someone can help me interpret this. It's kind of long, but I could really use some help. Can you tell me on a scale of 1 to 10, how interested does than MAN seem in the WOMAN, and how interested the WOMAN seem in the MAN. THANKS so much...

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I've been meaning to get in touch with you since Anne's wedding to let you know how much we all appreciated seeing you there. It meant so much to her that you came.

 

Some of my best childhood memories are of summer at Anne's house. Whenever I get back there I remember all the great times I had there with you and the other kids. I really didn't expect to see you again, so your being at the wedding was a nice surprise on a personal level, too. I really enjoyed catching up a bit on your life.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

It was nice to catch up with you also. We should try to make a point of keeping in touch.

 

Anne was a very special lady and meant a lot to me. As a matter of fact, she was more like a sister to me than a friend.

 

Make sure you keep in touch!

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Yes, I'd like it if we could keep in touch.

 

 

 

After seeing you, I started wondering about a few other people I knew from town. You were friends with (a freind), right? Do you know what she's doing now?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

(a freind) is now married to a very nice man and her last name is XXXX. They live in town and have 2 children. She is nurse.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I hope I'm not pestering you too much, but I was also wondering about (another friend). Do you know what she's up to these days?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Sorry I didn’t get back to you. I thought I responded to your email, but I must not have.

 

(friend) is living in town with her husband. She is a teacher there. We have a Class Reunion coming up soon. I’m sure everyone will be around on Saturday during the fair. If you can, you should try to make it down for the big festival. If Saturday night doesn’t work for you, the Sunday parade always seems to have a big turn out of all the town “oldies”!

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Sorry I'm slow getting back to you. I guess I'm not the greatest penpal in the world.

 

Thanks for letting me know about the reunion/fair. I'd like to make it if I can. The fair was always such fun and they always bring back great memories of simple, carefree times. Sometimes I wish I could go back...

 

I'm heading out on vacation in Mexico tonight! Have a great weekend.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Have a great vacation!!! I will be spending the weekend at the ball park!

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Thanks again for letting me know about your reunion during the fair. It sounds like a lot of fun and I wish I could make it, but I have another commitment.

 

Please tell (friend 1) and (friend 2) I said hello. I don't think I've seen either of them since college days ~ hopefully they'll remember me.

 

Have a wonderful time!

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

That’s too bad you can’t make it. I was looking forward to visiting.

 

Let’s try to get together some time.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

That would be nice. I will be in town for a couple days in October. If you're interested, we could do lunch or something.

 

Have a great time this weekend!

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Sounds good!

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Great! I'm not sure of the dates yet, but it will probably be mid-month. I will let you know.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Do you think I could talk you into visiting a little sooner than mid-October?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Sure. I’m always game a for a little chit chat. What did you have in mind?

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Okay, but we have to call it something other than "chit chat." Chit chat is something guys don't do ~ like getting a body wrap or a pedicure or something. : )

 

Anyway, you have two options...

 

1) I have a day-long seminar at the downtown Ramada this Thursday the 13th. There isn't much time scheduled for lunch, so it would have to be after the seminar around 5:00. I realize this is short notice, and I imagine lunch works better for you anyway, so plan B is:

 

2) I will be in town on Friday, 9/28 also. We could get together around noonish if that works for you.

 

I look forward to hearing from you!

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Would you like to come to my house for dinner on Thursday or we could meet for a drink or something?

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I don't want to impose (and I'm embarrassingly finicky). How about if we meet for a drink?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

You wouldn’t be imposing, but meeting for a drink sounds just fine. You can reach me at work or on my cell at xxx-xxxx. Just give me a buzz when you are free and we’ll meet somewhere.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

My cell has been giving me trouble the last couple of days, so let's just make a plan now, okay?

 

The seminar is scheduled to end at 4:30, so I should be able to get wherever I'm going by 5. You pick the spot.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

On second thought, I'll get in touch with you tomorrow afternoon.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

It was great to “chit chat” with you last night!! Hope you made it home ok.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

You're every bit as fun as I remember ~ maybe more. Thanks for a wonderful evening. : )

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Hey,

 

I somehow overlooked this message Friday. Two things re the "Chit Chat:"

 

1) you are a smartypants

2) if Thursday night was what you call "Chit Chat," sign me up again!

 

Have a great day!

 

 

 

(a couple weeks later)

MAN TO WOMAN

Are you free Friday??

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Today?

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Next

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Sounds good to me. I'll just have to play it by ear though. It's the end of the month and anything can happen.

 

What are you up to that day?

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I am meeting with a client over there, but will be done by ~1:00. I've cleared my schedule from then on. My son needs a few things, so I'm also going to take him shopping at some point, but that's very flexible. I'll work it in around you.

 

So... I'm yours for as long as you'll have me. If month-end surprises don't intrude, how much time will you have?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

If everything is ok...I should be able to clear an hour or two.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Is 1:00ish okay, or would you prefer earlier?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

1:00ish is fine

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Sounds good. We can firm things up next week. Have a nice weekend.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Thanks ... you too!

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Friday is supposed to be a beautiful day; maybe one of the last. How do you feel about a little picnic? If there's a park handy, I could grab some Subway for us and meet you there.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

That works for me.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Hey. Your email was a nice way to end waht was an otherwise crappy workday. I am OUTTA HERE...

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Do you have a preference where we go? The only park that's coming to mind right now is Eklund. I'm sure there are others more convenient to where you work, so just let me know where you want to go.

 

Also, let me know what you want me to pick up for you at Subway.

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Please give me a call before you pick up lunch. I'm not sure how the day at work will go. If I can get away, I'm thinking a 6" Italian will hit the spot.

 

I'll figure out what park is the closest to the dealership and drop you a note.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Say... this will probably work out better if we reschedule it to some day next week, huh? I can certainly reschedule my meeting and my son can wait a few days to get whatever stuff he needs.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

The end of the month is usually a busy time...but you just never know. I'm

ok with rescheduling if that works for you.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Yeah, I'd be bummed if you weren't available. Monday looks like the only nice day next week. How does that sound?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Monday doesn't work for me. Thursday or Friday next week would be the best for me.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

That could be tricky, and I shouldn't go much further out. Give me some odds for this Friday. Like, 75% chance you can make it, 50/50 or whatever.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Right now the best I can do is 50/50. If 1:00 doesn't work, I can probably

get away a little later in the afternoon.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Fair enough. Let's still try for this Friday and hope for the best. My schedule is pretty fluid that afternoon. Deal?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Deal.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I might be slightly later than 1:00; I hope that doesn’t pose any problems. I’ll give you a call b/t 1 and 1:30.

 

See ya

 

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

We are going to have to reschedule. I came down with one of the worst colds I've had in a long time.

 

I plan on leaving here soon and crawling back into my bed for the rest of the day.

 

Sorry.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Sorry to hear that. If you’ll still be available next Thurs or Fri, I might be able to arrange something to get me over there again. Let me know.

 

Take care of yourself.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Thank you.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

How are you feeling?

 

 

 

see below…

 

WOMAN TO MAN: Thanks for thinking of me.

 

MAN TO WOMAN: I do that now and then.

 

WOMAN TO MAN: I would be great if I could get rid of the headache that has seemed to invade my head! But…I’m sure I’ll be fine and back to my old self soon.

 

MAN TO WOMAN: I hope so ~ headaches stink.

 

WOMAN TO MAN: How about you? Did you have a good time with your son on Friday?

 

MAN TO WOMAN: I was actually able to reschedule my meeting at the last minute, so I didn’t get over to EC on Friday. I got together with him on Saturday instead. We went down to UWSP to watch Shane’s football game. Yeah, it was a good time.

 

Hope you weren’t too miserable thru the weekend.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

So far, this has been the week from h***. Two critical employees gave their notice Monday, so I've been scrambling all week to replace them and do all the other garbage that goes along with it. I haven't lost an employee in over four years! I'd forgotten what a pain it was.

 

I'm hoping at least my week can end on a high note ~ can you do lunch this Friday (with me, that is)?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

I've got a lunch meeting with my Rep on Friday. Are you planning on being in town for a bit? Maybe we can hook up after 5?

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I'm sorry. Evening "chit chat" is always more fun than noon "chit chat" but as things stand, I would only have a short time to see you after 5. Can you do a Thursday (tomorrow) lunch?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

What time did you have in mind?

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I was planning on taking the afternoon off on either Thurs or Fri, so whatever works best for you. Are you ever able to skip out a bit earlier than 5:00?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

I may be able to take off a little early. Business usually dictates my schedule.

 

I'd rather shoot for Friday afternoon if that works for you.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Sounds good. I will give you a call Fri afternoon. What time are you thinking?

 

I will be in EC on 10/16 and 10/17, too. Can we hook up for some "chit chat" one of those evenings? It would be a prime time for a Lake Street excursion?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

I'm not sure what time yet. What time will you have to be heading back?

 

I'll keep the 16th and 17th open for "chit chat" and a possible Lake Street excursion!

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I’ll have to get back to you with the time I need to head back to RF Friday ~ I’m not sure just yet.

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Just to forewarn you, I plan on spending a good chunk of the night of the 16th talking you into getting together on the 17th, too. :)

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I’d have to leave by 6 Friday. Was noonish tomorrow a possibility or no??

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

I’m not sure about tomorrow yet. I’ve got a couple of clients coming in late morning and not sure how long I’ll be tied up.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

My, but you can be difficult!!

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Hey…that's why I have the position I do!!

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

D-E-L-E-G-A-T-I-O-N, dude!

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

PLEASE tell me you weren’t expecting me to call Friday??

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

I wasn’t expecting a call on Friday. So…no need to worry.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Over the weekend it occurred to me I said I’d call at some point, but I’ve been so focused on work I wasn’t sure where we left things. So if you’re just being nice in telling me you weren’t expecting a call, I’m really sorry.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Well…I am nice…but I also was preoccupied and didn’t think about it. So, all is well!!! And besides, I am not one to get too worked up about little things. Life is too short!

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Cool ~ you’re my favorite.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I just wanted to touch base with you before the weekend. Are we on for next Tuesday evening?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

What time again?

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Will that impact your answer???

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Maybe….are we talking after 5?

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I'm just messing with you. Yes, after 5.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Then it’s a good possibility!

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

You can be VERY hard on my ego. What do you have to say for yourself??

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

I'm just messing with you…

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Smartypants.

 

What time would you like me to call you (and if you say “I’m not sure what time yet” or “I don’t know” there will be consequences!)?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

I should be here all day on Tuesday. You can reach me on my cell (xxx-xxxx) after 5 p.m.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Oh... I was hoping you would opt for the consequences. Aren’t you even curious what they would be?!?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Sure…do tell.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Ummm… I don’t actually know, actually. I was just going to wing it when I saw you. Do you have a preference?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

I’ll see you on Tuesday!

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Sorry, I did just cross over from silly to stupid. I gotta do some work.

 

It was nice “talking” to you again. Looking forward to Tuesday ~ plan on Lake Street, okay?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Lake Street it is.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

bye

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Something has come up and I will not be able to hook up with you tomorrow evening. We’ll have to shoot for the next time you are in town.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I thought things couldn't have gone better the last time we met? Please tell me if I've done something to offend, scare, attract or repel you?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Nope. Nothing like that. They put me on the schedule at work at the last second, and I don't have any choice in the matter. Sorry.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

..and you would tell me if I had?? You have been accused of being overly nice, and I of being overly friendly.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

So shortly after I saw you this afternoon, it dawns on me that I need to get Addy to dance tonight and won’t be able to hang around town. I do need to get back over your way in 2 or 3 weeks, and have some latitude in choosing the day of the week. I’m hoping we can still do our Lake Street excursion ~ is there a day of the week that typically works better for you than others?

 

My bad on the mix-up…

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

There really isn’t any day in particular that I can think of. Stuff just pops up once in a while.

 

Let me know when you are coming, and I will schedule myself “off” so we can bum around Lake Street.

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Okay, I’ll keep you posted.

 

So have you been going to the Expo every year? I’ve probably been within 10 feet of you over the last five years and not even known it.

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Probably.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Can you come out to play?

This Friday (after 5)?

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

I'll need to check the kids schedule and I'll let you know.

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

gotcha

 

 

 

WOMAN TO MAN

Hello,

 

Are you able to visit for awhile tonight?

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I’m sorry I didn’t get back to you earlier. I’ve got to run some errands for the league. We are sponsoring a tourney at the U and I’ve got to pick up some of the donations. I’m not sure how long it will take me as I don’t have the “full” list of things to do yet.

 

Can I reach you later?

 

 

 

MAN TO WOMAN

Sure. You can reach me at...

 

 

 

(we went out for drinks again and had a great time)

 

MAN TO WOMAN

I had a really nice time with you again. Thanks.

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