Marielle Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 For those of you in the A, or those like me nc, what are you up to 2nite. I ve been killing time all day, in the computer, trying not to think about MM. WHat do you do on a saturday nite without your MM
White Flower Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Hmmm. Just what I do every Saturday night without him. I'm on the computer, too. I have a family that keeps me busy as well. Only ever had one night with him. This is just one of the reasons that causes the contemplation of ending it. I just want some Saturday nights! Impossible, I tell ya!
CallMeCrazy Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 I hate Friday and Saturday nights most... I could go out with my single girlfriends, but getting hit on at bars/restaurants has lost its thrill.... I have been texting my MM all night but he just sent me a msg saying he's "going to bed".... it was 9:20. GROSS. These two nights are the worst for me, because I don't know what he's doing (nor do I want to know) and I know he's not with me. *sigh* I have been hitting the gym and running on the beach, working and hanging with my roommate to keep my mind off him. At least I'll be in killer shape, kickin' *ss at my job and caught up on all kinds of tv.... Hope you all have a nice evening. We're in the same boat....
frannie Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Cooked and ate dinner with my housemate. Considered going to a bonfire (I'm in the UK), but decided against it, and looked after our cat who was going crazy with the fireworks. Just usual stuff.
Author Marielle Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Yeah, I know how it feels. When I was not pregnant I would have my friends calling me to go out on a single night out, but it got so boring! That was when I was 21! ANd besides I would be checking my cell all the time and feel down everytime I would see no call... Last night I ve been doing NOTHING, therefore woke up early, but with one satisfaction: I DID NOT CALL HIM-1 DAY AT A TIME, like AA. We deserve better, such as a SG who will go out anyday of the week, gives us ALL the love we deserve instead of putting us in second place.
imstunned Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 I was just doing anything to try and help me not think about him being with his wife - palying around on the internet mostly.
OWoman Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 We deserve better, such as a SG who will go out anyday of the week, gives us ALL the love we deserve instead of putting us in second place. Ah - now that was what drove me off SGs and onto MMs in the first place! As a single mother, with a demanding career and other interests, I couldn't abide the kind of selfish R demands SGs make. Wanting you to be free to go out with them "because they didn't want to sit at home alone on a weekend night" or expecting you to drop your other plans to go with them to the corporate dinner / sister's wedding / school reunion as their partner was never going to work for me, and nor could they understand that when I had a break in my schedule, I'd prefer some alone "me" time because I was suffering contact overload, and I was not gagging for a chance to see them. At least MM has consideration for the other demands in my life, fits himself around those, and is available to me when it suits _both_ of us, not just his selfish whims.
Author Marielle Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Ah - now that was what drove me off SGs and onto MMs in the first place! As a single mother, with a demanding career and other interests, I couldn't abide the kind of selfish R demands SGs make. Wanting you to be free to go out with them "because they didn't want to sit at home alone on a weekend night" or expecting you to drop your other plans to go with them to the corporate dinner / sister's wedding / school reunion as their partner was never going to work for me, and nor could they understand that when I had a break in my schedule, I'd prefer some alone "me" time because I was suffering contact overload, and I was not gagging for a chance to see them. At least MM has consideration for the other demands in my life, fits himself around those, and is available to me when it suits _both_ of us, not just his selfish whims. Yeah, but not for the good reasons...who wants to be independant because it suits the other party, because he wants to be with his wife. Better to find a decent SG, not all are selfish, you are describing a legion of clingy guys that I never met, I would hate that though
OWoman Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Yeah, but not for the good reasons...who wants to be independant because it suits the other party, because he wants to be with his wife. Better to find a decent SG, not all are selfish, you are describing a legion of clingy guys that I never met, I would hate that though Wow, our experiences seem completely opposite! I've always found MMs eager for an excuse to get away from home - a text message to suggest getting together and they'd be around like a shot! On the other hand the SGs I've had dealings with always land up wanting more than I'm able, or willing, to give - despite making the groundrules clear up front. Maybe I should move to your country - your guys seem a much better bet than ours here!
nadiaj2727 Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Marielle wrote: "you are describing a legion of clingy guys that I never met, I would hate that though" I agree -- clingy guys sucks. I've had lots of SG B/Fs who've respected my need for space and independence. Ironically it's my xMM who demanded all my time be saved for him. I say find a SG who's independent and wants an independent G/F. They really are out there, we should stop spending so much time and energy on MM and put it into finding the right type of SG. And at least if a SG wants to spend time with us, it's for the right reasons (they love being with us and much better than a MM who only wants to spend time with us because he's tired of married life but too much of a PU*&&y to leave it. "We deserve better, such as a SG who will go out anyday of the week, gives us ALL the love we deserve instead of putting us in second place." YAY for you Marielle, I agree! Congrats on being NC and knowing you deserve better!!
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