Float Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 It's all normal, man. Just be optimistic about the fact that she agreed to meet with you. Like I said, that enough is reason to be hopeful. I'd try to curb that hatred a little bit, as it may be incredibly tempting, easy, and satisfying to feel that way, you don't really understand what was going through her mind. Save your judgement for when you actually talk to her and decide what you're going to do. You'll feel much better.
alwayshurt Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 i can't go anywhere, or do anything. i'm stuck in here, and my truck is almost broken down. she took the car. also i am trying to keep working, but it is becoming increasingly hard. everything is falling apart on me. i have tried so hard to make improvements in our lives..... SAM, come on you need to man up and behave. You are making harder than it seems. If you act like this with your wife perhaps that is the reason why she left to take some time apart to relax. You need to be a man and next time you see her show what kind of desirable person you are. Acting fearful and insecure will only make things worse in your relationship. As I see it nothing is lost. She will come back next week with the kids and you all be fine. Just get back to your feet. It is not the end of the world. read some posts on LS and you will realize that there are many people in worse situation than yours. You got some hope, just wait and see what happens. But you need to show the man that you are if you want things to work out. Take it easy.
Float Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Yeah, the 'abuse' forum will certainly help put things in perspective.
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 You need to get a lawyer and bring her up on charges of kidnapping. If you did it she'd be crying to the heavens calling the cops. You need to bring fire to her and keep it roasting. Taking the kids away without a notice or anything or disappearing!!!! Divorce her and go for full custody, Your kids could be in serious danger and you have every right to be pissed the hell off!!!!
Ocean-Blue Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Sam, what she is doing is incredibly selfish (but then, you probably already know that). I guess all you can do now is wait to see what happens. I hope you really do contact a lawyer (if you haven't already). In the meantime, post here and try to talk to some of your friends. You're going to need to be as emotionally stable as possible. At the end of the day, the court is going to look at the best interest of the children. They don't give two hoots about much else... So, if you do end up divorcing her and file for sole custody, you want to be as prepared as possible. That means you have to take care of yourself...don't let her put you in a mental rut! That's how these custody battles turn sour...one parent loses b/c the emotional toll is too much. Start preparing now. Focus on what you can do to improve your chances. I'm sure if she gets wind of how prepared and secure you are, she's bound to get a little nervous. But I really do hope you two can find some way to work it out. Seeing as how this is so abrupt, maybe she'll calm down and you two can really talk things out...and see if this relationship is salvageable. Good luck Sam.
Author sam840 Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 it's the lack of sleep that is really taking a toll on me. about 2 or 3 hours per night.
T L Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Sam, sorry for what you are going through. Its probably no comfort, but there are a lot of people going through stuff like this here on LS and it is a supportive place to be. Have you been to see your doctor? he may be able to prescribe you something to help you sleep. As for work, if it all posible I think its best to keep working. I have had a few mornings were its been hard to even get out of bed, but I have found it best to just jump out of bed and start getting ready for work and try to keep that momentum up hour by hour, get through one day at a time. Stay strong for your girls, and try and keep yourself as calm as you can for when you speak to your wife. Best wishes.
Author sam840 Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 every night, i dream that all is well. i always wake up at 3 am and realize the truth. i think of all of the things i should have done differently. she has hurt me so bad, but i still want her back. i haven't spoken to her in 10 days. in the email, she said we would talk next week. i'm not sure if i can forgive her for the pain i a now going through. as for work, i am bareley making it. if i lose my job, i will be in serious trouble. also, i feel that my health is going downhill fast. SAM
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