omit Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 Its been over for a while, but she e mialed me to say shes sorry and has found some one else. She gave her reason for finsihing with me as She couldnt be her self. This was like another blow beause I am the kind of person that only associates with people who are them selves. So i was currious what could she be trying to say i havent replied to ask and im not going to may be some day when i get time. Is this any thing or is it just a reason for giving a reasons sake.
Sean0775 Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 Sounds like a reason just for the sake of giving a reason. It would have been more respectful for her to have just said she wasn't that into you, which was probably the case. On the bright side, at least it happened now and not years down the road after you were married to her.
MattyTee Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 It sounds like a bit of a cop-out to me. Perhaps by giving a reason like that she takes the focus of herself and she doesn't need to feel guilty. Who knows, I'm in a bad mood today
norajane Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 How compatible were you? Maybe she realized that there were things she wanted do or was into that you just didn't enjoy, so she felt she couldn't do those things, and maybe you were into stuff she wasn't into...so, in order to actually be with you, she had to pretend she was someone she wasn't. For example, maybe she really likes to go dancing at clubs, and you don't, so she had to suppress that side of herself. Or maybe she likes to drink and you frown on that or vice versa. Or maybe you love sci fi movies and she doesn't, so she was trying to get into them for your sake and found out she couldn't. I think it's a perfectly valid thing to say - a lot of people aren't 100% themselves when they first start dating.
Spinderella Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 I agree, its perfectly valid. Sometimes you feel more comfortable with some people than with others.
Tyra Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 How long have you two been dating? She saying she can't be herself sounds like a lame excuse.And besides, if she was a real woman, she would have confronted you face-to-face, and not by sending a e-mail. You know?
Author omit Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 we dated for a year wile i was there, then a year long distance(me ireland her america). she came to see me a lot even a supprise visit it was really nice. its werid its left a lot of doubts in my mind about a lot of stuff.
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