sungrl Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 my b/f is usually busy on sundays doing chores around his family member's house or working on his car etc etc..it seems he just needs to be doing something..in a way this is good..but i also feel like if we spend a sunday together..apart of him would rather be doing that type of work..i find myself thinking--is he having a good time etc etc. It seems to be a little annoying..all my other girlfriends do not have this problem with their b/f's..they seem to be ready to see them a lot and the weekends are theirs..i know not everyone is like this and they probably deal with much worse such as a bf working two jobs or something. But i guess i like more attention..never on a sunday did i say i want to go home..i am not busy with that kind of stuff and my friends are with their b/f's etc..so i usually would like to see him and sundays are usually around his schedule and what he needs to do. So if he is super busy, i go home and if there is not much going on, he feels a little lazy or knows i want to do something i stay. But every weekend i do feel a little weird b/c i think..are we going to see each other sunday, he probably wants to be busy doing other things, maybe i should just go home that day..these are the thoughts that enter my head..and they may sound insecure but this is how i truly feel sometimes. A year ago, if we did spend a sunday together--he would say "wasted day" b/c he wasnt productive or said something like i should be doing things..he may not have meant it wasted day being me with but just b/c he wasnt productive in a sense..i had to ask him to stop saying that b/c it really bothered me and he did. But now the winter has come..which means its too cold to work outside, grass doesnt need to be maintained...so i cant help but think what now? he said in the past there is also something for him to do..so im just thinking...now its cold outside--there isnt too much to do..what are we going to do at his place--just watch tv?..i cant help but think he would be completely bored(as i would be a little too)..and he probably would rather be at his family's members place so he can do a few things there and for himself. I need suggestions on what to do..ask to go home some sundays..see if he initiated anything? go home every other sunday..
ftballfan300 Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 GET A HOBBY YOURSELF. That might be an idea.
starlite Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Sungrl- You have been complaining about these darn Sundays for months now! You must feel very stressed in your relationship to feel this way every weekend. Talk to him about it!!!! Ask him if every other weekend you can do something...compromise. OR, make your own plans on Sundays. Plan a day with friends, and if they are ALL in relationships make it YOU day...go to the gym, do laundry, get yourself ready for the week. Or find something else to do. As for what can you two do together now that it is cold...Get lunch, go bowling, play pool, go to the movies, hang out with other friends as a couple and watch football....there is so much to do.
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