miss_T Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 So I can not actually admit this to ppl I know because I am so embarrassed of my actions but i need to tell someone. I broke up with my bf of 1 year. We recently started a ldr and it just wasn't working out because I have had some trust issues with him where I catch him in small lies all the time, explain to him that i feel like he doesnt respect me if he lies to me. He always said he was doing it to protect me because he didnt want to make a big deal over small, meaningless things like going out to lunch with an old gf or hitting up the bar with his friends. I told him to give me a chance to see how I would react to these things if he just told me straight up. Of course I got angry when I found out about them through lies - but it was the lying that bugged me not him doing those things. I finally could not deal with it, but it is hard because they were just small lies, I honestly believe him when he says he never cheated or anything like that, but the disrespect was too much. I love everything else about him though and it is really confusing! Last night though, I did something stupid, he still calls and we talk normally and he says he misses me, and everytime I get off the phone I really consider taking him back and hoping the lying stops but he never actually tells me they will. I got frustrated and 'broke' into his email and facebook to see if the lies he tells and gets caught are the only lies. Unfortunately they werent. He was always making plans with people and telling me he was at home, or talking to ppl and saying he wasnt, but he was honest in that all the lies were innocent. He found out about me getting into his email and of course was pissed. I would be too! I feel like now it is too late to ever make up with him, but I know I am not perfect either. I should have gotten advice on the lies before I did the email thing because now I feel like if I want to get back together, i screwed it up and its too late. I also dont know if i was overreacting, do I have trust issues and shouldnt have been concerned about his actions from the beginnign. I want to learn from this, so please be honest. Any words would be appreciated!
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