Steffie575 Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 If you are heartbroken do NOT listen to 'I Told You So' by Randy Travis/Carrie Underwood. Just some good advice....for some reason I keep listening to it over and over and it brings me to tears EVERY TIME. Very sad song. Now I feel like ****.
Tyra Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 Why are you keep listening to the same depressing song. You'll never get over your heartbreak. If I was you, I would listen to something that'll boost my confidence or mentality back up where it should be. Because, who wants to feel like ****? No one. But I hope you'll feel better. You'll find someone else who can treat you better.
ftballfan300 Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 OmG another whiny thread. Why would you listen to a song that puts you in tears? Is something wrong with people these days.Go get a song that would put you in a good mood. I know my idea might be a stretch.
kittensmittens Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Steffie, it may just be that you need to experience those feelings and go through them. Music helps with that. I'm beginning to think that we may sometimes need to stay in a certin emotional state until we just get too sick of it. I think that's the point that it's finally 'out of our system'. The trick, I think, is not letting these emotional states swallow us up completely....
Author Steffie575 Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Steffie, it may just be that you need to experience those feelings and go through them. Music helps with that. I'm beginning to think that we may sometimes need to stay in a certin emotional state until we just get too sick of it. I think that's the point that it's finally 'out of our system'. The trick, I think, is not letting these emotional states swallow us up completely.... I totally agree....I constantly ask myself why I seem to keep reminding myself of him on purpose......I dont want to do it, I just do it, you know? Pushing my feelings aside I think will just make me feel worse later.
MattyTee Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Absolutely Steffie, It's important to let the tears come and the grief flow. It's one of the ways we heal. Sometimes I can feel that I can't cry and music opens that door. Just remember to try and go through the emotion and be aware of when your body tells you that you need to feel something else now Hope that makes sense.
Author Steffie575 Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Absolutely Steffie, It's important to let the tears come and the grief flow. It's one of the ways we heal. Sometimes I can feel that I can't cry and music opens that door. Just remember to try and go through the emotion and be aware of when your body tells you that you need to feel something else now Hope that makes sense. I know what you mean...the second I hear that song and start to sing along to it...im gone. It hurts so bad to think about it and cry.....how do I know if this will ever end? How do I know for sure that I will be ok and get over this? I know everyone says time heals but how much time? I feel like the ONLY way I will feel ok again is if he loves me. The worst part is that I don't believe he really fell out of love with me. Am I in denial? Or does he still? I hate this so much.
MattyTee Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Aww Steffie *hugs* I don't know if there are any answers. You can only take what you have been told. My ex told me tonight that she doesn't love me any more. I have trouble believing it too - perhaps we are in denial, who knows. I know it's a cliche but time will help. You can see other people on here getting stronger and it can help you remember that you aren't alone in what you are feeling and you will get better. Things will get better Steffie! I don't know how long it will take but remember to look after yourself. It's time to make you the most important person in your life. Keep posting, everyone here will support you
Author Steffie575 Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Aww Steffie *hugs* I don't know if there are any answers. You can only take what you have been told. My ex told me tonight that she doesn't love me any more. I have trouble believing it too - perhaps we are in denial, who knows. I know it's a cliche but time will help. You can see other people on here getting stronger and it can help you remember that you aren't alone in what you are feeling and you will get better. Things will get better Steffie! I don't know how long it will take but remember to look after yourself. It's time to make you the most important person in your life. Keep posting, everyone here will support you Thank you I just think its so hard when we dont see how that other person couldnt love us anymore. Because our feelings havent changed...we wonder how could theirs?
marty Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 its like this, if wanna play that song, play that song dear. there is no right or wrong way to get through the pain. there is no real point forcing a happy song if you feel your dying inside. maybe it works for some, but you are you. its different for everyone. its like matty says, your body and heart tells you what it needs to do, and just go with it. dont compare yourself to anyone. especially your ex. at some point you will say enough is enough.but only you will know when that is.your mind will keep going over and over things until it finds some peace. usually in chunks at a time. you might think you're getting there and then 'bang', it brings up some more crap to deal with. having him in your head all the time does not mean you are not healing. cryin and listening to that sad song does not mean your not healing. without you knowing it, your body and mind are doing whatever it takes to deal with this loss. might be weeks, might be months, doesnt matter, just know it will come to rest and at that point you'll start looking forward. in the mean time try and look after yourself. and try to remember......... all this just shows how much of a heart you have, and that you care. some lucky guy will realise that. trust me.
Author Steffie575 Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 its like this, if wanna play that song, play that song dear. there is no right or wrong way to get through the pain. there is no real point forcing a happy song if you feel your dying inside. maybe it works for some, but you are you. its different for everyone. its like matty says, your body and heart tells you what it needs to do, and just go with it. dont compare yourself to anyone. especially your ex. at some point you will say enough is enough.but only you will know when that is.your mind will keep going over and over things until it finds some peace. usually in chunks at a time. you might think you're getting there and then 'bang', it brings up some more crap to deal with. having him in your head all the time does not mean you are not healing. cryin and listening to that sad song does not mean your not healing. without you knowing it, your body and mind are doing whatever it takes to deal with this loss. might be weeks, might be months, doesnt matter, just know it will come to rest and at that point you'll start looking forward. in the mean time try and look after yourself. and try to remember......... all this just shows how much of a heart you have, and that you care. some lucky guy will realise that. trust me. Thank you so, so much. Ive written quite a few posts on here and I can say that this response is the single most helpful, heartfelt, and comforting one Ive read. You have made me feel so great.....I was worrying about the listening to the song thing; I was thinking that because I kept listening to it that meant I wasnt moving on and healing. But I see that youre right, my mind and heart will heal when the time is right. Its also comforting to read that no matter what, the hurting will come to an end...because one of my main issues is that I feel as though I may never get over it. Youve really made me feel better, thank you.
waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 listen to this...it makes me feel better! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZB5yfXAi94
sedgwick Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 I think if I listened to Randy Travis and Carrie Underwood, that ALONE would make me want to shoot myself. Relationship or no.
Author Steffie575 Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 I think if I listened to Randy Travis and Carrie Underwood, that ALONE would make me want to shoot myself. Relationship or no. Lol! That cheered me up. I actually agree with you....i stumbled across the song on a friends myspace otherwise I would never subject myself to them.
starlite Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 Steffie, it may just be that you need to experience those feelings and go through them. Music helps with that. I'm beginning to think that we may sometimes need to stay in a certin emotional state until we just get too sick of it. I think that's the point that it's finally 'out of our system'. The trick, I think, is not letting these emotional states swallow us up completely.... I have to disagree a bit. Heres the thing. I just got out of a 2.5 year relationship one month ago. Heartbreaking right...well, I have my sad days...but there are also many where I feel ok...ready to live for me again. I choose to listen to either angry or uplifting music. Make yourself feel better. Why? Because I can spend all my time sad...and be miserable...or I can work on being ok with myself, understanding why things didnt work and accepting it. I know, that no matter how sad or ok i am now...when I hear eventually that he has found someone else...or I see him...it wont matter if I felt i had cried enough for it to be out of my system because those moments will tear me right back down. (I think they will at least) SO, for now, I try and be as positive as possible. And yes, "I Told You So" Is a beautiful....yet very SAD song! I love Carrie Underwood! There is another song on that album that I heard for the first time the other day that I was like "TIME TO CHANGE THE MUSIC" cause it hit so close to home, so I changed it....Listen to "Wasted" that is a good one. Try Christina Aguliera's Stripped album....Mika's "My Interpratation...Linkin Park's first 2 ablums and stuff like that.
ncpd25 Posted November 5, 2007 Posted November 5, 2007 I tend to avoid certain songs. If I'm in my car and something comes on that remineds me of my ex or even if it's about a broken relationship, I typicaly turn it off. I try to keep upbeat stuff playing to make me feel a little cheerier. I actually like Barely Breathing by Duncan Sheik. I think I kind of fit that song. My ex and I went to Rascal Flatts and Martina Mcbride. I can still listen to Martina for the most part but, Rascal Flatts is a big No, No. My ex had a song that she use to listen to and she said she always thought of me.
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