katie82 Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 hey everyone! just curious on how other people felt about this. i am 25 years old. i have never been a huge partier, but i must say that in college i did enjoy going to occasional frat parties and house parties, and then in the year or so after college, i did like going to a bar every now and then. ive found that in the past couple of years i would much rather stay in and hang out at home (with friends or alone) than go out to bars. i feel old when i go out!! i feel like the bar is a meat market with too many sketchy guys and slutty girls. i just feel like i dont fit in. i also think it has to do with the fact that i have a boyfriend and no longer feel like i need to go out and flirt with guys. even if i were single though, i dont think i can do the bar scene anymore. its not just about the "meeting guys" part, its also just the fact that i dont think its fun to stand in uncomfortable shoes having to scream in a noisy bar so my friends can hear me!! dont get me wrong, i still have lots of friends and i have a social life, its just that i prefer to do dinner or a movie night rather than bar hopping. some of my friends are still into the partying scene and its kind of awkward dealing with them when they invite me out and i REALLY dont want to go. i see them plenty outside of that so i dont feel too bad, its just kind of weird do other people feel this way in their twenties? any advice for dealing with my friends who are still into the bar scene?
Phateless Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 I'm kinda sick of it but if I drink I always have a blast. You just can't take it seriously or assume that you'll meet anybody worthwhile. I go to just hang out and have a good time with my buddies. I've been single for a year and I am starting to get a little sick of it, but I'm not done yet. I would however, love to meet a super cool girl that I could be serious with. If she's the type that will come to the bars with all my friends and I then even better. I am under no delusions about meeting someone who's relationship material at the bars, tho. It will most likely be through a friend of a friend.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 I don't mind going every once in a while but much prefer a more classier place or quieter venue that when I was alot younger. As far as your friends go, how about suggesting a restaurant that does wild cocktails or having a get together girls dinner party round yours, drinks in a classy hotel bar etc etc. This way it won't be obvious to them and you still get to see them and them you.
Phateless Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 I don't mind going every once in a while but much prefer a more classier place or quieter venue that when I was alot younger. As far as your friends go, how about suggesting a restaurant that does wild cocktails or having a get together girls dinner party round yours, drinks in a classy hotel bar etc etc. This way it won't be obvious to them and you still get to see them and them you. That's a great idea.
Sean0775 Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 do other people feel this way in their twenties? any advice for dealing with my friends who are still into the bar scene? I was done with the bar scene before I started. I knew just from the people I met at all the house parties in college that I wouldn't meet anyone worthwhile in bars, and the few times I actually did go confirmed that. Every other time I've been dragged to a bar it's always been the same; a crappy place, for crappy people, with crappy music, and outrageously priced drinks (seriously, I could afford a 1/5th for the price of like 3 drinks...). Small gathers at a friend's place are much better.
Krytie TV Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 do other people feel this way in their twenties? any advice for dealing with my friends who are still into the bar scene? I'm curious on a few things. Do your friends hook up a lot when you go out or do you guys always go to meat markets? There are so many bars to go to other than dance clubs that are way more fun. I know it's not fun when you have the kind of friends that are always on the prowl for guys or when you aren't really a drinker. Do you like to drink?
Author katie82 Posted November 3, 2007 Author Posted November 3, 2007 i have one friend who is kind of the ringleader in this whole thing, she's the one who goes out every weekend, and SHE is definitely always on the prowl. she gets dressed up very provocotively, and even though she wont admit it, she seems to always be looking for male attention. she always seems to have a new guy that shes interested in that she meets at these bars (and it never works out). maybe the thrill of meeting guys is what keeps her going back for more she met a friend at her work who is the same way, and she's sort of become her "partner in crime". they go out together, dress very skimpy and flirt/hook up with random guys. ever since she met this girl, i almost feel like i've been replaced (i think thats what kind of got me thinking about this whole thing in the first place) i dont really like to drink that much. i drank alot in college and i hated how it made me feel and i did stupid things while i was drunk. ive sort of lost my taste for alcohol and never relaly have more than 2 drinks in one night (i sound like such an old lady!!)
JCD Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 You sound mature and not like an old lady. Don't do things others force upon you.
Stereogram Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 I never understood the appeal of a bar. EVER. Too much competition between guys for those two or three hot girls. Too noisy, too smelly, too expensive. Then you deal with that hoarse throat in the morning from yelling all night and an empty wallet. Small gatherings of 10-20 at A HOUSE have always been the way to go. Better interaction between friends, better conversation, no pressure to hook-up with someone. Plus, if you do meet a cute girl at a small house party, you can get to know them better in a instantly intimate setting. No cheesy lines required. The other great social event? Bowling. I'm serious...it's such a blast...and completely underrated. It's hard to get people to go...but once they do they LOVE IT. You simply cannot beat competition mixed with beer. GOOD TIMES.
Magnatolia Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Not all bars or nightclubs are wild, why don't you got to a local pub once in a while. Or even a cocktail lounge type of place. I like to go out for a drink so long as I can sit back and chill, I'm not into the dancefloor at all haha. Which is why I love pubs most.
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