waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 7 days of NC. Started it right after we broke up. We broke up because she is a drug addict and she cheated on me. I just wish she would call. I miss her and want her in my life. It is hard for me to not pick up the phone and call her. I started nc the day we broke up. I have not talked to her, sent one email, or even sent a text message. I have deleted her from my facebook and MSN. I have took all the steps of nc. I am working on myself but she still haunts my thoughts. I want to call and see how she is. I want her to want me. I know i am an ego. What should I do? Anyone? What do i do?
cant let go Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 We broke up because she is a drug addict and she cheated on me. ... What do i do? Nothing. If she cleans up her act and comes back to you. Then you will need to make a move. For now, you must continue with the NC. I'm sorry to be so blunt in my response. Drugs and cheating are fatal problems. You can't lower yourself to accept that type of behavior. It is not because you don't care but because you do love her.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 3, 2007 Author Posted November 3, 2007 yeah well i am pretty hard core. I still havent called and found out that as of now she is doing even more drugs. I guess that sucks for her. But also i feel bad about it. I feel as if it was my fault she didnt stop horing around and stop doing drugs. She is tearing me apart.
alwayshurt Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 what can you do? what you can do it's up to you. You need to follow your heart. From an external point of you, I would tell you that the wisest thing is to keep your NC. Does she know how you feel about her? If she does and she has not contacted you that means she has no desire to talk to you. Perhaps she needs some time to sort things out and by contact her you will delay this process. She also cheated on you and, although she may have been under the influence of drugs, it is not a nice thing and I would not accept such behaviour....from anybody! If you forgive her it would be a proof for her that she can do this anytime she wants and you would be hurt over and over again. The best thing to do now is to let her go and move on. If it is meant to be it will be, but at your terms which are genuine not hers. She has to respect you and give you what is that you're giving (gave) her. If this has to happen it won't be now. If it happened now, it would be another failure for you becuase she'll eventually do it to you again. You need to let her go and live your life. Sometime from now, if she contacts you again and you are healed from this emotional discomfort, you will evaluate the situation with a different status of mind and decide what to do with her, what is best for you. Hang in there.
cant let go Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 yeah well i am pretty hard core. I still havent called and found out that as of now she is doing even more drugs. I guess that sucks for her. But also i feel bad about it. I feel as if it was my fault she didnt stop horing around and stop doing drugs. She is tearing me apart. It's not your fault. No matter the circumstances surrounding the situation, you can not be blamed for her choices. Keep reminding yourself of that. You can't help those who cannot admit that they need help themselves. Read my earlier post today in the grass is greener thread. I am coming to these terms about my ex as well. There were no drug issues but in the same way you wish you could help her and you blame yourself for not being able to help her before, I wish I could help my ex stop running from his own issues.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 Keep busy and do lots of things you like to do, in time the yearning to contact does ease and with more time goes away totally. Its still early days but if you don't allow yourself to think about it too much by going out, down the gym, whatever - you will get out of the habit of wanting to contact IMO. Worked for me. xxx
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