ankka13 Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 hi, i am posting the letter of one of my friends she needs advice.Thanks Hello you guys out there who have more experience . i am only 16 years old and i need help understanding what is going on with my boyfriend. I was with A ,dated him when i was 14 .We dated for 4 months , nothing very serious since we were both kids ,but a he was a lot more mature then me .We were in the same dance trupe , we were both the leading dancers and he was very close to our teacher she was 24. After 4 months i started noticing that they had a very close relationship , he discussed everything with her ,he trusted her with his issues , he considered her his mentor and he was always near her .i thought it was odd then couple of weeks later he put an end to our rekationship saying that it just didnt work . I was so hurt , suffered a lot he was my first bf and i was really in love .Everyone suggested that he was together with our teacher . And it seems they were . They were having a hidden relationship and they were always together ,permanent cobtact for 2 years . He made love to her , she was her first sexual relationship , he loved her and she loved him back. His parents were against this and they preferred me , but he still had eyes only for her , and she was always there for him too . They maintained this realtionship for 2 years , and he did not contact me at all , nor talked to me during this periode. All of a sudden this august he started talikng to me and i was really happy about it because i saw that the two of them were not as close , i suspected they separated and i might stand a chance. So it was he came by my place and spend time with me , but never bringing her up . H e just admited that they were togerher indeed and that he left me for her . I accepted to be with him because he was honest and told me the truth . Now we are together for 2 months and i suspect he is not over her . I found messages from her in his phone , messages sent before we were a couple , he saved them and couldnt let go of them . With me he behaves very in love always kissing me and caressing me , but i recently found out from a common friend that he spends time at my place in order to forget about her , and that he is suffering a lot and he is crazy with jelousy because she is seeing a new guy . He dloesnt want to tell me why their relationship ended but i guess he still loves her . The other night we went out and he got a little bit drunk and saw her with the car and stopped her and asked her to take us for a ride and he constantly sang love songs and looked her through the mirror . i felt so hurt . when we got down of her car i confronted him about it and he told me that he cares much for her and always will but he is with me now . Does he love me and want me or is he just rebounding with me ? Does our relationship have a chnace to work , when i know for a fact that she loves him too and she is hurt too because he is with me , and she might want him back . Thanks a lot for listening . want to add that she being older she had a totally diffrent relationship with her , we are not intimate , they were , we dont have friends to hang out with , they had many friends and they used to go places together , she had a car she could take him anywhere , we are a in kids relationship , they were in a grown up relationship . HE INTERACTED WITH GROWN UP PEOPLE , AND FINDS my friends childish and boring . He has no other friends now , just me .
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