loquaciousl Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 So bf and I broke up just a week ago.... Long story short, we dated 4.5 months and he broke up with me last week b/c he said he wasn't in love with me anymore and couldn't see me being the one....it came out of left field. He has since posted poems on m.s. talking about how hard of a time he's been having with things. I feel bad for him but I need to keep in mind that he broke up with me. We started out great, and then in the last month had argued a lot mostly over petty things. I thought we had just hit a rough spot but evidently not. I find myself missing him a lot. But at the same time I don't miss the fact that he wasn't motivated to move out of his parents- (he's 34 and has been living there a year) and the fact he smokes way too much weed. When I started getting on him about it that's when he shut down. I've been pretty strong thus far but at the same time I have physically restrained myself from calling him; I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me....plus he broke up with me over email AND then sent an email Monday saying that I'm "stronger than I think" and he looks forward to being friends" with me. All I did was respond with "Thanks." What am I supposed to say, when I didn't want to break up to begin with...? Now it is hitting me what he did to me, and sometimes I think he did me a favor. Other times I miss the great times we had and how comfy we were together. I cry for the shame of it all. How do I stay strong? I don't want to be an angry bitter mess, you know? I think that would be a shame in itself. Help!!
Toolate Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me.... Me and my GF 12 years broke up and i would lay on the couch and say this exact line out loud over and over again. This dude isnt worth it, your a very pretty girl and you will have no trouble finding someone BETTER! You will be fine, just give it some time and ride it out. Being bitter is a stage of all of this but it wont last. You are here posting your concern about it, so you wont let it happen.
Author loquaciousl Posted November 3, 2007 Author Posted November 3, 2007 Thank you very much! I appreciate it. I feel better already!
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