simplegirl Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 It started 2 nights ago. She called, I knew it was her but answered anyway because sometimes he calls from her phone. I just didn't say anything. We both just sat there and then she hung up. I really thought it was him until a few minutes later I get a text that says "Who is this?" That was it the first night. Then the next morning she starts calling again. Then he starts calling but I didn't answer his calls either. Later in the day (she is still calling) a mutual friend calls and says I need to call MM. I called and found out that she found a text message in his phone from my number about 2 months ago and forwarded it to her phone and just held onto it. He told her it was my number but that **mutual friend** uses my phone sometimes and that it was from him. She is still calling though. My question is why would she hold it for so long without saying anything? That is not her usual style. Any ideas??? (the text hasn't been in his phone for this whole time so she found it about 2 months ago and kept it in her phone)
White Flower Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 It started 2 nights ago. She called, I knew it was her but answered anyway because sometimes he calls from her phone. I just didn't say anything. We both just sat there and then she hung up. I really thought it was him until a few minutes later I get a text that says "Who is this?" That was it the first night. Then the next morning she starts calling again. Then he starts calling but I didn't answer his calls either. Later in the day (she is still calling) a mutual friend calls and says I need to call MM. I called and found out that she found a text message in his phone from my number about 2 months ago and forwarded it to her phone and just held onto it. He told her it was my number but that **mutual friend** uses my phone sometimes and that it was from him. She is still calling though. My question is why would she hold it for so long without saying anything? That is not her usual style. Any ideas??? (the text hasn't been in his phone for this whole time so she found it about 2 months ago and kept it in her phone) Probably because she needed to decide whether she wanted to know. Then when she finally decided yes, she went for it. She's playing it cool. What is "her usual style?"
Tyra Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 It may be several reasons why she didn't call you for along period of time.She probably kept onto it to see whether or not he was going to let her know about you. She also may not have been strong enough or bold yet to approach you about it, or she could have been just plain scared.
NoIDidn't Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 I am willing to bet that she called you for the same reason that many OW want to tell the W about the A (after its over or whatever) - because he did something to piss her off. Maybe he has OOW too and she decided to call that "other" number she had stored. Either way, are you going to woman up and tell her the truth whenever she gets the nerve to actually call and speak to you?
frannie Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 My question is why would she hold it for so long without saying anything? That is not her usual style. Any ideas??? I'm not sure what you mean by her 'usual style'..? Has there been a d-day before and she reacted differently, or something..? If so, and he managed to continue the affair, then she may have changed her 'usual style' because it obviously didn't work (to end the affair) last time. Why she would sit on the information for two months? She's probably doing what many BS do, or are advised to do... gathering data. Sitting on something for two months is nothing, really, in the grand scheme of things. She may have been doing quite a bit of searching in the meantime, or perhaps has just filed it away, despite his lies about what the text was. Perhaps something else in his behaviour has caused her to call you now. Perhaps something recently didn't add up... perhaps something the 'mutual friend' said or did caused her to realise... the text really wasn't from them. Could be anything, really.
Author simplegirl Posted November 3, 2007 Author Posted November 3, 2007 We've never had a D-day before but I know her so I know this isn't how she typically reacts to things he does. She is usually very quick to react to anything. That's why it's not making any sense to me but she could be gathering data. It wouldn't surprise me actually. She's wanted out for 2 years now but what she said was she likes to shop too much to actually leave. I think in the last 6 months she is trying to find a way out that would be most beneficial to her financially.
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