LosingMyDreamGirl Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 About to be divorced and my wife was my first everything, so I have never dated before (besides my wife). I am now 30, so i have a few questions. I asked out a young lady yesterday. I kind of know her through my job. She said she would love to go out with me. I asked her if she wanted to goto Dinner or the movies sometime and she said sure. I then asked for her phone number, but before she gave it to me (she was about to), I told her "I tell you what, when youre wanting to go out, you give me a call" and then gave her my number. Was this the right move or should I have got hers? I dont know all the dating etiquette, so not sure what I am supposed to do to follow the 'rules'. I hate being this old and not knowing jack about dating.
reboot Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Lots of women simply aren't going to call a guy. Even if they want to. They're taught not to pursue. Get her number and call her.
Author LosingMyDreamGirl Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 I have her number because she is a tenant of mine. Should I call from that and would it be ok to ask her out tonight? (I just gave her my number last night, so is it ok this soon?)
tanbark813 Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Asking a girl out and then telling her to call you when she wants to go out is pretty lame. Take charge, call her, and ask her out for a specific time. Be a man with a plan.
reboot Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 What's the worst possible outcome? She says no. And tomorrow the sun will still come up.
Author LosingMyDreamGirl Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 Bah, I am so confused. My sister and my co-worker are telling me to wait and see if she calls.
plainoldjared Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Asking a girl out and then telling her to call you when she wants to go out is pretty lame. Take charge, call her, and ask her out for a specific time. Be a man with a plan. The mans got a point! You should have definitely asked for her number... Bah, I am so confused. My sister and my co-worker are telling me to wait and see if she calls. Is there anyway you will be seeing her again anytime soon? If yes, ask her for the number and make the plans, it just shows interest. If you arent going to see her anytime soon maybe you should wait for her to call you. If you cant wait go ahead and call her like another poster said whats the worst that can happen?
Kamille Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Bah, I am so confused. My sister and my co-worker are telling me to wait and see if she calls. I think they're thinking like women . We always give each other the 'wait and see' kind of advice. I do think, however, that you shouldn't call her until you get the ok from her that it is all right to call. As in, simply ask, is it all right if I call you sometime. I don't know, to me, since you are her landlord, it seems like just using the number would be a breach of etiquette. I would, however, organize a run in soon to ask her out and ask for permission to call. And hmmm, yeah, women... we don't call all that often.
Author LosingMyDreamGirl Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 I will wait. I wont see her again within the next few weeks, but she will be back to pay rent next month. Heck, she may call me before then... who knows. She did say she has not dated in awhile and she was interested.
reboot Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Please take this in the spirit in which it is intended, and try not to be offended when I ask this, but.... Is your wife getting your cojones in the divorce settlement?
Author LosingMyDreamGirl Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 No. I dont think so. haha.. Why have I done to bring upon a question like that? I am curious as to what i have done to seem like a whimp =)
reboot Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Oh I don't know. I'm being presumptuous I guess. I remember what it was like to ask women out, and I don't remember it being as hard as you seem to be making it. BUT, that was a long, long time ago now. If my wife and I split up, I might be just as nervous and confused as you are. So I'll shut up now.
Author LosingMyDreamGirl Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 Keep in mind my wife was my first everything. I can honestly say I did not DATE anyone before her. I am confident and look nice, but I dont know what the 'right' things are to do and say. I am straight forward and know what I want and dont want and when i want or dont want it. I am afraid that kind of attitude will scare off the ladies. So, me being myself would be 'too much' at first, so i need help toning it back some.
reboot Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Keep in mind my wife was my first everything. I can honestly say I did not DATE anyone before her.Sorry, I've followed your posts, but I guess I somehow missed (or maybe just forgot) that part. That does make a big difference. Heck, I was almost 29 when I got married, and had been with her for a little over a year before that. So I "played the field" for quite a while. I'm not sure I remember what all the 'right' things to do and say are, but I do remember this much. If you never ask, they can't say "yes".
Author LosingMyDreamGirl Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 I'm not sure I remember what all the 'right' things to do and say are, but I do remember this much. If you never ask, they can't say "yes". Oh yeah, that i do know, but I want to avoid the 'creepy' and 'pushy' parts of me that seem to come out. I am not really either one of those, its just I dont beat around the bush. No reason to.
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