Author plainoldjared Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 Tricky one hunny. It's easy to over drink once you start drinking and if you are nervous or excited. However I can see how you would feel, most on frist, second, third, perhaps fourth dates tend to be on good behaviour to make great impressions on there potentials. Right my opinion, what did you think after Fridays date? for one Forget that your mates g/f found out she liked you, what did you think taking her blip out of the equasion? Enough to try for a proper second date again? So does this mean I still have a chance? teeheehee I thought she was great after our date friday, very sweet and interesting. At first I didnt think she liked me but after our drive and ice cream I think she warmed up. Heehe you've SOOO got a chance Not at all. I would have had the same reaction as you... disappointment. Who wants to date a lush? Anytime someone I was dating I acted like that it embarrassed me. You should feel justified in handling this however you want, though it wouldn't hurt to give her another go in case it was a one-time thing. Thanks Krytie, I was turned off and disappointed. She was so great Friday I was so looking forward to Saturday I just hoped she would have been more aware of her drinks and we could have had an even greater 2nd outing... IMO, yes, but everyone has their preferences. If a girl got falling-down-drunk every time and couldn't hold her liquor it would be a turn off for me, but a one time thing isn't a big deal. I'd rather date someone fun than date a prude. Personally, I get a little disappointed if a girl doesn't drink at all or only has one drink on a date. But that's getting on a tangent. Im definitely with you on that, we were having a great frickin time up until her getting too drunk. I probably am being too harsh but she just made such a good impression friday and I was really digging her that Saturdays drunken end was a bummer... Im going to call her up give it another go Are you sure you're not just looking for negatives? Maybe you can carefully inquire of your friends whether this is a regular occurance with her. If they reply with "oh yeah, she's a total lush," then it might be a problem. This is a good point I did ask my buddies gf about her and she said she does drink and gets wild but not like she was Saturday shes really fun. I dont know I did go into it with high expectations I am being too harsh I think you're being a bit too harsh and that she deserves a second chance. I know I'm a classy girl who's generally very composed and doesn't get too crazy. But every once in a while I go out and have a little too much fun, wake up the next day and say ohhhh noooo. I think it happens to the best people and as long as it's not all the time, it's no big deal. especially if she was nervous, she probably drank more than she should have. Just my opnion....it seemed like you liked her after the first date though, and this shouldn't be a dealbreaker. Im gonna call her up tonight for some dinner tomorrow I was being too harsh I know Ive gotten way too drunk a few times haha, I just had high expectations she was so great Friday night and we were having a great time Saturday up until she got a little too drunk. She was awesome Friday and I definitely wanted a second date after that so I'll give us another chance thanks
coco_milkshake Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Thats great Jared. I think she was just nervous and drank too much as a result of that. Im glad you are going to give it another go. Good luck.
Lyssa Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 That's awesome, Jared. I'm with CM. Glad you're giving her another chance. Enjoy!!
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Jared, She's not perfect. And guess what; neither are you.... so please stop trying to end something that hasn't started yet. Don't let your dumb over perfecting get in the way of fun. Sorry to be harsh, but you were out of line not to contact her. She deserves better. How would you feel if she never gave you this second chance because you were being jerky??? She sounds sweet and human. Please be the same.
The Loacker Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Jared, She's not perfect. And guess what; neither are you.... so please stop trying to end something that hasn't started yet. Don't let your dumb over perfecting get in the way of fun. Sorry to be harsh, but you were out of line not to contact her. She deserves better. How would you feel if she never gave you this second chance because you were being jerky??? She sounds sweet and human. Please be the same. Umm...OK, first of all I agree he was being too harsh, but let's clear this up. If he doesn't want to call her, then he shouldn't call her. He wasn't "out of line not to contact her." If he doesn't want to contact her, well then that's his own prerogative; he doesn't owe her squat.
Author plainoldjared Posted November 9, 2007 Author Posted November 9, 2007 Jared, She's not perfect. And guess what; neither are you.... so please stop trying to end something that hasn't started yet. Don't let your dumb over perfecting get in the way of fun. Sorry to be harsh, but you were out of line not to contact her. She deserves better. How would you feel if she never gave you this second chance because you were being jerky??? She sounds sweet and human. Please be the same. Blue, I do appreciate your attempt at giving me advice, I read between the lines to understand what you were stating. I cant deny that your lashing out threw me off and defintely tickled me the WRONG way but again no ones perfect. Youre right I should have called her and she probably thought things and felt things that werent great but in all fairness she did put me off with her lack of control. We are human we do make mistakes and we do have the right to try and fix our mistakes dont you think? Umm...OK, first of all I agree he was being too harsh, but let's clear this up. If he doesn't want to call her, then he shouldn't call her. He wasn't "out of line not to contact her." If he doesn't want to contact her, well then that's his own prerogative; he doesn't owe her squat. Thank you Loacker, for the record my original post said I never left her hangin, I simply did not respond after she said "hope to see you soon" now that thats cleared up, I did call her yesterday to give it another go she was really awesome on Friday Im going to just understand that she just had way too many drinks on Saturday simple as that, if this happens again then I'll let her know that I would rather just keep it friendly and will not pursue a 4th outing...
jcster Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I did call her yesterday to give it another go she was really awesome on Friday Im going to just understand that she just had way too many drinks on Saturday simple as that, if this happens again then I'll let her know that I would rather just keep it friendly and will not pursue a 4th outing... That's completely fair...I hope it goes well!
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