pantsareon Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 I don't know exactly what to do and wondering if anyone has been in a similiar situation. Hubby's friend has been coming onto me for a long time and one time he was watching me while i was going through a mess while hubby was away. Hubby specifically asked him to watch me. I dont know what happened but i was drinking and only remember kissing him and him kissing my body. He tells me we had sex and now is black-mailing me to continue this affair in my house or he will tell my husband. Wtf do I do and how do I find out for sure if we slept together?
greengoddess Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 He is no friend of your husband. Do not give in to his blackmail. If you were that wasted and he knew and was supposedly watching you then I would turn his threat around. Tell this scum to remove himself from your and your husbbands life or you will go to your husband and tell him of the night he forced himself on you while husband was away. Tell him your next stop after talking to your husband will be the police station for his threats and blackmail and daterape sex scenario.
Bryanp Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Greengoddess gave you excellent advise. I would immediately inform your husband what happened or what this man said happened. You must not give in to this blackmail. Your husband has a right to know what this man tried or succeeded in doing. If you give into this blackmail then you will be forced to having sex in your home with him forever. Why would you want to betray and humiliate your husband, yourself and your marriage this way? The bottom line is that you must immedately inform your husband now what happened so he can see what a slimebag this person is and decide whether or not to go to the police. Your life will be destroyed if you give in to this blackmail and I think you know this.
Darth Vader Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 I think this person has posted under another name before!
outofdarkness Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 I don't know exactly what to do and wondering if anyone has been in a similiar situation. Hubby's friend has been coming onto me for a long time and one time he was watching me while i was going through a mess while hubby was away. Hubby specifically asked him to watch me. I dont know what happened but i was drinking and only remember kissing him and him kissing my body. He tells me we had sex and now is black-mailing me to continue this affair in my house or he will tell my husband. Wtf do I do and how do I find out for sure if we slept together? Gee, idk.What a mess. If ya can't remember, ya can't remember. Too late to see a Dr. for advice. I might add that I think blackmail is illegal. Perhaps talk to an attorney or go online to get some advice? He's prob. bluffing, but it's scary to think he might not be. Guess you learned a big lesson, huh?
Mr. Lucky Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Wtf do I do and how do I find out for sure if we slept together? Why is that fact important to your decision? Even if he previously groped you (or raped you ) while you were passed out, how does that qualify or permit him to demand anything from you? He only has the power that your silence gives him. As others have said, tell your H immediately... Mr. Lucky
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