RecordProducer Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 I would prohibit some people to have children. My kids go to school with this boy, who is really such a sweetie. His mother asks me to move to their development every time we talk (they live 2 min from us). She says the kids would play together. I told H that she wants me to take care of her son, that's the whole thing (just intuition). By the way, she has a 2-year old and is pregnant right now. So they came to my sons' b/day party and she stayed for 6.5 hours! I was so tired, but all the hints that H threw didn't work. And she ain't dumb or anything (both she and her husband have a degree in computer science). Anyway, she said I could bring my kids to her development for trick-or-treating. Yesterday, the boy called and my husband took our kids there. Just to mention that she waited in front of the house to "deliver" her son and didn't even try to invite my husband in, which I think is outrageous after she spent half the day in our house just two days ago. So husband took the three boys and they visited the houses for treats. About an hour later, he intended to accompany the boy to his house and come back home and guess what: nobody is at the boy's home! My husband called them and left a message and finally took the boy to our house. Now, I don't mind him, cuz he is such a good child, but I feel so sorry for him with such parents. An hour later, hubby asks the boy for his parents' cell phone and when he calls, they are like "Aha, do you want me to pick him up?" I said that he was going to eat dinner with us first (I was truly concerned that he would stay hungry otherwise, especially after she told me that he eats just fruit for dinner). His ass-father came later to pick him up without any explanation or apology. I don't think they owe ME an apology. I think they owe their son one. Ass holes!!! The thing is this is not the first time. At a school family picnic, where all the kids were with their parents, they sent him all alone with like $7. He spent it very quickly and then stuck with us. We had to pay for everything that we bought for our kids and most of it was food. I really don't mind paying for him, but his parent's negligence is outrageous. His stupid mother, who is the kind of woman who doesn't drink or smoke or wear makeup or color her hair (don't ever assume that this type of woman is an angel!), told me that she would baby-sit my kids anytime and she would take care of them. This is how I developed my gut feeling that it's the opposite: because she assumed that I would want someone else to take care of MY children. I, unlike her and her husband, realize that my children need a mother - their own mother. Geez, I am thinking: what a monster! It's not like she is using someone's goodness out of convenience, but she is trying to plan and create conditions in order to avoid motherhood - that's why she wants me to move next to her, so that her son can spend 24/7 in our house. Now I know why he is such a sweet child - because he is neglected. My kids are spoiled brats, cuz they get all the attention in the world. And she is pregannt wiht her third child... She will continue to work right after birth and have her mom fly over to take care of the baby, just like she did with her other kids.
Lyssa Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 RP, this all sounds too familiar. Parents like them are all over the world! I don't if I could be as patient as you are. I would have told them off! I know it is easier said than done but I am somewhat in the same situation. My SIL is flight attendant and whenever she flies, she would leave her kids with us (my parents and I). I don't mind babysitting my nieces, neither my parents but the fact that when she is back from her flights - she would pick them up a day later or promised them she'd pick them up that day but doesn't deliver her promises.. etc... It hurts to see how all that effect my nieces especially the older one. She's 5 and youngest is almost 2. It broke my heart when she asked me - "Why isn't mummy here yet? She doesn't want to see my face, does she??"... Gee whizz...
Cheery Cherry Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Poor kid. You know he is the one that is carrying around the heavy weight on his shoulders. Can you have an honest discussion with his mother and see where her priorities are? I mean she has other children that she is (going to) neglecting...her other children may not be as "good" as this one and one of them (if not all) has a great chance of carrying tremendous amount of anger in his/her heart. I would try to talk to the mother (very carefully and in a non-threatening way) about speaking with a professional so that her children can grow up in a healthy environment. This will take time on your part though...I'm not sure if you're willing to take that much time to help this family.
Jade 02 Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Thank GOD The little boy has you,and Im sure he will never for get you. But what about the baby thats coming?
KAGE_Chick Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 My eldest sister is like that. I have helped raise all three of her girls since I was barely 10. She would leave me alone with them and begone most of the day and expect me to take care of everything. Even now she does it. Her youngest daughter who is three use to call me mommy till she learned the difference. Some people just aren't ment to be parents.
kobegirl Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 sounds like your assuming alot here... but I dont know them so I cant say but you are not just talking about their kids , you dont like the husband , you dont like the lady's hair , you dont like them being at your house too long .. when you dont like people you shouldnt even invite them to your house in the first place. too bad all parents can't be as perfect as you huh ? lol.
cicada Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 If you dont like those people stay away from them , dont try to save other people's children , you have to focus on your own kids. who needs the extra stress !
littlekitty Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 sounds like your assuming alot here... but I dont know them so I cant say but you are not just talking about their kids , you dont like the husband , you dont like the lady's hair , you dont like them being at your house too long .. when you dont like people you shouldnt even invite them to your house in the first place. too bad all parents can't be as perfect as you huh ? lol. Errr I don't think RP ever mentioned not liking her hair! RP - Sounds like a horrible situation. I guess you can either get involved and try to help, or turn a blind eye. It would be hard to turn a blind eye on children being mistreated though...
iggyandj Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 You have to either cut all contact with her or tell her that she can't do these things to you. If you don't she will continue to do them.
toomanymen Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 You on the other hand are mother of the year. You abort your son's siblings. You plan on running across the country with your children to live with a stranger you met over the internet just to spite your hubby. LoL. They have a name for people like you. It's called Euro-trash.
cicada Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Errr I don't think RP ever mentioned not liking her hair! RP - Sounds like a horrible situation. I guess you can either get involved and try to help, or turn a blind eye. It would be hard to turn a blind eye on children being mistreated though... hey little kitty ~ this is what RP said .....His stupid mother, who is the kind of woman who doesn't drink or smoke or wear makeup or color her hair (don't ever assume that this type of woman is an angel!), hmmm .
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