FooledOnce Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Long story short. 5.5 years, break for about 2 months now. She kissed a guy and moved out. About 3 weeks ago i found out she was dating another guy and freaked out. This board told me to go NC. I went the opposite way. I told her that I wanted to start dating her again and compete with this other guy. She agreed. Since then, we've been on a couple dates that have been really fun, flirt on the internet at work, we've even had some good sex. Things have been okay, but i wasn't optomistic about getting back together. Then, last night, we were flirting on the computer and I invited her over for drinks. Things were going great, we were drinking and playing a strip card game, making out, groping, when all of the sudden she stops. She tells me that getting it on with me makes her feel like she's cheating on this other guy. I asked if she'd had sex with this guy and she said she had which shocked me. That was a deal-breaker right there. I asked her if having sex with him made her feel like she was cheating on me. She thought about it and answered "no, not really." So, at this point, I know it's over but I wanted to confront her with some info I knew about her flirting with a co-worker over the last 6 months (daily flirting). I said "You were never that faithfull to me, name, i know things" Her: 'Yeah, i know you've known this whole time but you've never said anything. You've always been using it to manipulate me.' Me:'I never KNEW anything. I had strong suspicions.' Her: 'Oh, come on, it's been 2 years, just admit that you knew that i ****ed Friend!' So, turns out, she had sex with a guy friend of hers 2 years ago. She never told me because it was a mistake and she knew for certain i would leave her and hate her forever. She thought she could just keep it a secret forever, but as time went by she started to feel like she was a terrible person and she was going to hell (accurate). She would sometimes feel guilty when we would be lovey or cuddley. Eventually, she started feeling guilty all of the time around me. She lived in constant fear that I would find out. She wanted to tell me so bad but she knew that I would dump her and hate her forever. Eventually, she just couldn't be around me anymore, leading to our present break. But here's the line that sums her up best of all. Crying: "I'm sorry! I'm so sorry! It was such a mistake! It only happened twice."
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